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To think I'm not the keeper of milk

146 replies

TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 19:40

There is a story behind this but it is dull and so I'll keep it to the bare minimum.

DP has essentially told me it is my fault he didn't get any milk when he popped into the local one stop for "supplies". He claims he didn't know we needed milk even though he has been making cups of tea today. "How was he suppose to know" he asks... because he has eyes and a brain too, surely?

It's not a massive deal but him telling me it's my fault due to my poor communication skills has filled me with silent rage.

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MildlyMiserable · 01/08/2020 20:46

Tell him Maggie Thatcher removed any need for milk monitors and you hadn’t realised they had been reintroduced 😂

QueenCT · 01/08/2020 20:46

This happens to me at work. People come up to me and are "there's no milk"
This is because I drink tea all day and go downstairs to get more when we run out no fucker else does
I got pissed off and told the next person I wasn't Asda and to go find some

UnaCorda · 01/08/2020 20:46

@MrsGrindah

Agh this is my DH. He also decides to cook and then goes “ I need XYZ ingredients “ looking at me as if I can magic them out of my bra.
Out of your vagina, surely?
Regulus · 01/08/2020 20:47

@autumnboys

I counter this sort of moaning by bellowing ‘I am not the milk monitor! I don’t write the shopping list with my VAGINA!’
This will be my new motto/call to arms although we don't have a milk problem so will insert hoovering.
Roselilly36 · 01/08/2020 20:47

Haha I feel your pain, yes beer wouldn’t run out, you’re right. Essentials!

Feralkidsatthecampsite · 01/08/2020 20:49

Slight digression..
I have made myself The Keeper of Lovely Ice Lollies.
They now live in a vegan sausage roll box in the bottom of the freezer! !
Always one when I fancy one!
Grin

3rdtimestupid · 01/08/2020 20:49

Not quite the same but my teenage son told me off for eating a microwave pizza the other day that I had purchased and paid for when I did the weekly food shop... he claims they are his as he always eats them 🤣

nevermorelenore · 01/08/2020 20:49

This sort of thing irritates me no end. I hate taking on the mental load. While these things are trivial, they soon pile up.

I really enjoyed this comic about the subject: english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

howfarwevecome · 01/08/2020 20:50

"It's not my job to monitor all the food supplies in the house and relay that information on to anyone who might go to the store. You're a grown up who consumes food in this house. If you thought we might need something else while you were at the store, you also could have tried to call the house. But it's not my job to figure it all out for all of us."

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TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 20:50

@whirlwindwallaby I tend to be responsible for all the shopping and everything else. I try to make sure we have enough milk then he'll swap his beer drinking for some milk just to piss me off and moan we need more. This is beyond needing some milk. It's a complete lack of awareness and then pushing the blame onto me. He wanted to go to the shop for supplies. I assumed bread and milk not chocolate, chocolate, beer, chocolate and cookies 🤦‍♀️

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BestOption · 01/08/2020 20:52

Why silently raging?

Sometimes I feel a bit sad that I live alone. Then I read a thread like this and I remember the original deep deep joy it my was when exDP moved out!!

Everything where you left, no additional dirty pants or dirty mugs and exactly the right amount of everything 😊

Current DP does not live here & due to complicated issues we have LD separately.

I tell him I miss him, but tbh I'm not entirely sure I do, that much.

FWB arrangements are so much easier. He crept over the line 🙄

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TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 20:57

@BestOption I can't be arsed to argue over it. We have a baby and it's taken a toll on our relationship. As petty as it sounds I won't be able to talk about it rationally yet so it's best to leave it until another time.

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TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 20:58

Oh and I can totally relate to living separately. If we could afford the house next to us that set up would be amazing!

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JoysOfString · 01/08/2020 20:59

This was my ex (about milk and of course, everything else. He would go to the shop on the way home and get beer, but only his beer! Angry)

The most enraging part was that he would try to cunningly sidestep looking like he was avoiding responsibility by saying “we”. “oh... WE’ve run out of milk! WE should have got more milk!” But this meant me, because he never, ever did any stocking up on basics.

Note EX. Yes I’m still in charge of getting the milk but I’m not as wound up :o

AdoptedAWholeLoadOfShit · 01/08/2020 21:00

For similar reasons I keep a catering box of those hotel pods of milk for my morning coffee. So sick of finding empty milk cartons in the fridge when the greedy teens guzzle it without thinking to leave some for the next person. We get through 3 litres a day on average! They were well warned at the start of lockdown that I wasn’t running daily to the shop so they had to suck it up. It still managed to be my fault though.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 01/08/2020 21:00

We have keeper of toilet rolls in our house.

It used to really piss me off when a teen was sat on the loo shouting there was no toilet rolls🤷🏼‍♀️What was l supposed to do about it?!

I no do not engage with toilet roll issues

NiceGerbil · 01/08/2020 21:01

Only read op.

Op YANBU.

I just opened our fridge and no milk. What do you think you're playing at Fgs.

DopamineHits · 01/08/2020 21:01

He sounds like a twat.

NiceGerbil · 01/08/2020 21:01

Oops meant to put YABVU Grin

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TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 21:06

@NiceGerbil I'm profusely sorry about your milk situation! My powers are somewhat lacking.

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NiceGerbil · 01/08/2020 21:07

Yeah cut the excuses and sort out out op.

Jeez.

NiceGerbil · 01/08/2020 21:08

Also the tomatoes have gone a bit soggy and they were pricey ones.

Why didn't you suggest using them earlier, huh?

netflixismysidehustle · 01/08/2020 21:10

I have this debate with my teens all the time. They think I am psychic and know when they are bored of something (food wise) or that they actually prefer the other flavour (coke rather than cherry coke sort of thing)
They do that annoying thing or leaving an empty carton in the fridge and expect me to have x-ray vision to see that it's empty. If it's not something I eat how would I know?

WaxOnFeckOff · 01/08/2020 21:10

DH kept coming to tell me every time he ran out of something as if I was to mentally note it and get it.

However, like a toddler with a star chart, i got a wee note pad that magnetically sticks to the fridge and he loves it. I just say that I can't read his handwriting so he had better take the note with him when he gets the shopping in... I still get the main shop as I am a control freak and like to dictate to everyone what they are eating for the week :o

TheABC · 01/08/2020 21:12

I discovered an easy way out of this one.
Our milk consumption went through the roof at the start of the pandemic and DH consistently forgot to get some from the co-op.

So, I bought almond milk and stashed it at the back of the fridge for tea. The DCs got alternatives to cereal. And every time DH asked about milk, he got a wide-eyed shrug.

Oddly enough, he is now The Keeper of the Milk.