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To be majorly pissed off at new lockdown rules?

544 replies

mediciempire · 31/07/2020 20:20

Teen DD has been looking forward to Eid for weeks. She has desperately been waiting to see the rest of her family and now we've been absolutely screwed over. She cried for most of the morning on and off and I'm just so annoyed that she's entering this state of absolute desolation again because she wasn't given a chance to prepare for Eid not being on. She was okay the last time if not very bored because she knew what was happening but this time she's just absolutely gutted. AIBU to be so angry? I just feel like it's ruined our day and I've wasted a whole load of money that I won't get back on food.

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HeIenaDove · 31/07/2020 22:58

The cynic in me thinks they wanted money spent

THIS

Eid Mubarak OP Flowers

PregnantAndTiredMum · 31/07/2020 22:58

Sorry, just to clear, obviously Easter has existed for thousands of years. The " celebration" has existed for a short time.....10/15 years maybe.

This is such a lot of shite! I'm 33 and we've been celebrating Easter my whole life with church, egg painting and rolling, Easter bonnets, a brand new dress, family round every day of the long weekend.
I remember my Gran who would have been in her mid 90s showing me photographs of her and her sister dressed in new dresses and hats for Easter Sunday at church which was followed by an extended family meal.

Originalyellowbelly · 31/07/2020 22:59

This pandemic has affected everyone in different ways, it has stopped people celebrating Easter, weddings, birthdays, exams and being unable to say goodbye and comfort dying loved ones, in the big scheme of things does it really matter if you have too much food. Yes, it was crap to find out so soon before celebrations began but surely saving lives is more important than having a party.

PregnantAndTiredMum · 31/07/2020 23:00

Sorry, just to clear, obviously Easter has existed for thousands of years. The " celebration" has existed for a short time.....10/15 years maybe.

^ this reminds me of the ignorant people who say that Halloween is American and wasn't 'a thing' until 10 years ago.

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 23:00

Originalyellowbelly do you know the significance of the occasion that you're dismissing as a party?

Pelleas · 31/07/2020 23:02

@cyclingmad

Oh look another article in media saying Swindon , North Yorkshire and other areas close to being lockdown.....bet get people moaning when it happens and lack of notice yet the warning has already been put put there in the media.....

#buryheadinsand

The problem is, there's been little logic or consistency in the lockdown measures applied so far. So even if (like me) you had been watching the numbers closely, and suspecting that further measures would be on the cards, without knowing exactly what those might be, it isn't possible to plan.

Many areas of E Lancs and W Yorks jumped straight from being an 'area of concern' to the 'national intervention' stage, leapfrogging the 'enhanced support phase'. It's unreasonable to suggest people planning to celebrate Eid should have been able to predict the exact measures that would be announced, and that they'd land within hours of when Eid was due to begin.

cyclingmad · 31/07/2020 23:02

What is so hard to understand....the government have said they will impose restrictions at short notice .......stop moaning and get informed and keep up to date with the information being given to you well in advance and Leicester was the perfect example of what can happen anywhere, overnight everything had to close. Even today they are telling you to expect this to happen if cases increase i your area. Get with the program otherwise ull just end up stressed out and putting your mental health at risk

Originalyellowbelly · 31/07/2020 23:03

MaxNormal why is that more important than any of the other things I mention, especially the fact that it may save lives of loved ones?

Bravefarts · 31/07/2020 23:03

"having a party"

Religion was one of the first things we did as a species to evolve our societies. I'd argue it's these things, these rituals, that make us human. These "parties" are essential to our wellbeing as humans. It was badly handled.

Polkasquare · 31/07/2020 23:04

@randomer

Sorry, just to clear, obviously Easter has existed for thousands of years. The " celebration" has existed for a short time.....10/15 years maybe.
What do you mean by "the celebration"?
Porcupineinwaiting · 31/07/2020 23:04

@RockingMyFiftiesNot I would sincerely hope that by December people are at least aware that lockdowns can come at short notice and have a plan b. This was a shock but we've all seen it can happen now.

Eid Mubarak OP and keep well.

rosiejaune · 31/07/2020 23:04

YANBU. It was poorly done (and probably not even necessary as the increased cases seem to be as a result of increased testing). And at the very least indirectly discriminatory.

Of course it is similar to Christmas. Regardless of exactly how religious (or not) people celebrating Christmas or Eid are, it is normal at both celebrations for families to see each other and eat together and exchange gifts.

You can still meet outside in groups of up to 30 though (while distancing), so hopefully some people took that option instead as the weather was good today. The six people/two households thing is national guidance at the moment, not law (though they haven't publicised the 30 people thing, so most people don't realise you can). Unless they're going to add that restriction to the local legislation too.

HeIenaDove · 31/07/2020 23:04

How gracious of you, Livelovebehappy. Would that be your attitude if households were banned from mixing indoors 90 minutes before midnight on Christmas Eve

If it was social housing estates .........yes she would.

Allywill · 31/07/2020 23:06

I have massive empathy for everyone missing out on their normal Eid celebrations. I am just pointing out that at least they still have mosques open which is something positive. At Easter we had no family celebrations allowed plus no churches etc. and while it’s not a competition in who had it worse, (It’s All crap I agree,) but it is what it is and we have to adapt ouR celebrations as best we can. And look forward to next year! Hopefully!

DarkHelmet · 31/07/2020 23:07

Basically they only want us to meet inside if there's a card reader involved to take payment. It's all about cash being spent.

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 23:08

Originalyellowbelly who said anything about it being more important? Certainly not the OP. Can she not just have a vent and be upset and sad at seeing her daughter disappointed and her mental health affected? And can others not just empathise with that?

Sh05 · 31/07/2020 23:08

I know exactly how you feel op. The kids were all so excited as this Eid they thought they were going to Grandma's for a garden party. We had it all planned including picnic plates and a large picnic mat already packed in the car.
My mil has been shielding and today was supposed to be her last day so the plan was to have Eid in their garden, grandma and grand dad on one side us on another and my sis in law with her daughter on a blanket of her own.
I also had a huge pot of meat prepped for biryani as I said I would cook the mains, my mil was doing desserts and sil roast chicken.
Imagine the horror at 10 pm last night when we realised the rules had changed but we thought we were okay in the garden.( Dunno if that was issued in the morning or we missed it last night).
Come 9 am and I am prepping the biryani and someone messaged to say garden meet ups were also banned!
Deflated... That's the only word to describe my household this morning.
I ended up doing small pots and my oh dropped of hot pots of cooked biryani to both households.
We have strictly followed all the rules so far but I couldn't find a way to justify this one to the kids especially my 4 yr old as she was already asleep last night so was just so upset at the sudden change.
We are in Bolton, infection rates are low but still lumped in with the overall ban in greater Manchester.

Dutchesss · 31/07/2020 23:09

YANBU
To have one thing to look forward to through all of this mess and then have that taken away at the last moment would make a lot of adults upset, let alone a teenager. Taking care of our mental health is important.

I don't know why people are confused about the amount of food, I could easily spend £100 plus on just food for a special occasion when one other household comes to visit. And yes I could eat my £20 worth of cake all to myself but that doesn't mean I'd be happy about it.Wink

PinkiOcelot · 31/07/2020 23:09

Do you think they’ve just done it for shits and giggles?!

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 23:09

Allywill you do realise that Ramadam fell during the lockdown this year?

YewHedge · 31/07/2020 23:13

It's really difficult OP but it has probably saved a lot of lives in the community.

Originalyellowbelly · 31/07/2020 23:14

MaxNormal we have all been disappointed by this pandemic, I have been indoors since the start of March, I have missed birthdays, birth of grandchildren and not seen family for months, I haven't bought any new clothes or had a haircut. Life is not fair but we are all in this together and we must all take measures to keep each other safe, it doesn't do any good to come on here and complain about something that is affecting everyone in the world.

StarUtopia · 31/07/2020 23:15

Well you weren't able to meet up and party anyway?!!! Or you should n't have been.

I missed Easter. Same thing.

Allywill · 31/07/2020 23:16

I do yes. Lockdown changed the way we did many things and it is not wrong to feel sad about missing the “normal” way we would have celebrated either Eid, Easter or even graduations or whatever.

MaxNormal · 31/07/2020 23:17

Originalyellowbelly why shouldn't people be able to vent? This has been really hard on people's mental health for various reasons and bottling it up isn't good.

And honestly, it doesn't feel like we're all in it together. Some people have been massively disproportionately affected compared to others, and saying we're all in it together actually just sticks the knife in.

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