We have lived in our house for 10 years. Our neighbours have lived there for longer. We've always got on well with them, but the woman in particular is very much an 'I say it like it is' person who can be very catty and unpleasant if someone gets on the wrong side of her. Someone that we know was in her year at school and said she was a bully, and she's never changed really. She has always been very vocal about anything we do that she doesn't like, such as she didn't like it when we did an extension 3 years ago, and was very rude and unpleasant about it, despite the fact that they did a very similar extension a couple of years before that.
We've always tried to stay on the right side of her, mainly because it would have caused aggro to fall out. When her children were younger I'd help her out during school holidays when she was at her job (she's always worked from 9 - 12 each day), and would always do things like take in parcels for them and just generally tried to be good neighbours.
Over the past couple of years I have noticed that she has been very cold and offhand with me, as if she'd suddenly decided that she didn't like me. It has been things like ignoring me at times if she is in the front garden and I arrive home if I say 'hello', whilst at other times she comes over to chat, she sometimes blanks me if I see her out anywhere, and one night earlier this summer they had a BBQ that went on very late. I went to let the dog out in our back garden and could hear her and some friends that they had at the BBQ talking about us and saying we were "cunts" plus a load of other stuff such as she can't stand us. She has also said to a friend of mine that she works with that she doesn't believe that my son has a medical condition that he has been diagnosed with.
I decided to be icily polite after that but no more chatting to her or being smiley or helping her out in anyway. In the last couple of weeks, however, we have had a few times where we have had dog shit on our driveway first thing in the morning, that wasn't there before we went to bed, and wasn't done by our dog as she is only let in the back garden after her evening walk. When it happened again a couple of days ago, DH looked on our doorbell camera and it showed her letting her dog on our driveway early in the morning and standing at the end of the driveway whilst the dog shit. And again this morning, dog shit! Checked the camera and the same thing again. Honestly, if we let our dog do that on her driveway she would come and smash our windows!
Would you totally cut off/blank someone who has behaved like this? Like I said, I've always tried to be pleasant for neighbourly reasons but I am thinking Fuck That now!