Would you cut someone off who behaved like this?

[Maoams]

We have lived in our house for 10 years. Our neighbours have lived there for longer. We've always got on well with them, but the woman in particular is very much an 'I say it like it is' person who can be very catty and unpleasant if someone gets on the wrong side of her. Someone that we know was in her year at school and said she was a bully, and she's never changed really. She has always been very vocal about anything we do that she doesn't like, such as she didn't like it when we did an extension 3 years ago, and was very rude and unpleasant about it, despite the fact that they did a very similar extension a couple of years before that.

We've always tried to stay on the right side of her, mainly because it would have caused aggro to fall out. When her children were younger I'd help her out during school holidays when she was at her job (she's always worked from 9 - 12 each day), and would always do things like take in parcels for them and just generally tried to be good neighbours.

Over the past couple of years I have noticed that she has been very cold and offhand with me, as if she'd suddenly decided that she didn't like me. It has been things like ignoring me at times if she is in the front garden and I arrive home if I say 'hello', whilst at other times she comes over to chat, she sometimes blanks me if I see her out anywhere, and one night earlier this summer they had a BBQ that went on very late. I went to let the dog out in our back garden and could hear her and some friends that they had at the BBQ talking about us and saying we were "cunts" plus a load of other stuff such as she can't stand us. She has also said to a friend of mine that she works with that she doesn't believe that my son has a medical condition that he has been diagnosed with.

I decided to be icily polite after that but no more chatting to her or being smiley or helping her out in anyway. In the last couple of weeks, however, we have had a few times where we have had dog shit on our driveway first thing in the morning, that wasn't there before we went to bed, and wasn't done by our dog as she is only let in the back garden after her evening walk. When it happened again a couple of days ago, DH looked on our doorbell camera and it showed her letting her dog on our driveway early in the morning and standing at the end of the driveway whilst the dog shit. And again this morning, dog shit! Checked the camera and the same thing again. Honestly, if we let our dog do that on her driveway she would come and smash our windows!

Would you totally cut off/blank someone who has behaved like this? Like I said, I've always tried to be pleasant for neighbourly reasons but I am thinking Fuck That now!

Caselgarcia

Scoop the poo up, put it on her drive in the middle of the night. Then if she mentions it say 'yes, we've had some on our drive too, there are some e dirty bastards about who don't deserve to own a dog'.

Do this ^^

I know exactly the kind of person she is and she probably would punch you in front of your kids if you confronted her directly! Fight smart, not hard. Make it a Cold War. We will support you with acts of vengeance.

Don’t confront her.
She will escalate
She will tell the neighbours all sorts of lies about you, and they’ll seem to believe her
You will move house

Happened to us.

She will probably escalate anyway, now that she has started

There is no arguing with Stupid .....

Yep, drop it back on her driveway and act innocent. Will teach her a lesson and drive her mad!

Leave a sign on a stick stating
"You let your dog shit on my property one more time you'll be finding it on every door handle on your home and car that I can reach for the the next month. Now fuck off home you fucking obnoxious chavball"

"The footage is going viral 👋🏼"

Don't be scared of her, be prepared to smash her if need be. Bullies need to know you won't stand their shit. Literally.

So awful for you. I really feel for you all.
We've been having trouble with our neighbours for about 9 months now. We live in a flat and it started as just noise complaints but after a couple of times of us politely asking them to keep it down (we have a baby which is a very light sleeper) it then started to become more sinister. I've bene followed and intimated in a walk to a shop. Verbally abused in the street and called names, even by their 3 year old. And we're not talking about a little bit of noise. We're talking about constant screaming and shouting till 11 o'clock at night that we can hear through the front doors, the closed living room doors and with our TV on. Loads of other problems too like fly tipping and them leaving their kids poo filled nappies in the hallway outside our front door. We were told to log everything and have reported them over and over again. Even had to call the police. It's a slow process but they are finally being evicted soon.
I would assume though that they own their property but something like dog fouling is a criminal offence which produces a fine. So I would catch them, record it and hand it into the police. Have no more contact with her and if she threatens you etc, tell the police again. She will be the one that looks like an idiot. And committing crimes will not go unnoticed. X

She’s detestable. I agree with those who are suggesting that she’s being a bully because she can be. Stand up to her. Bag the dog shit and leave it on her doorstep. Along with the video tape. Vile cunt.

That footage is golden! Our council prosecutes with evidence. Send the footage to your local council department (Google it) and they can issue a fine.

You need to be just ass rough back. It's like getting picked on by the school bully; one they realise that you bite back, they will stay the f away. Do not let yourself be a doormat.

You can't ignore it.
But, you don't need to escalate aggressively.
Be smart, be underhand and do it with a confused smile to avoid confrontation. After all, you wouldn't be so rude as to put dog poo on someone's garden, I mean, like,what kind of crazy person would do that, right? Nudge, nudge,wink, wink.
Fight dirty - look clean.

Only after telling her that if she leaves dog poo on your drive again it would be posted through her letter box.

“@CallMeRachel

Leave a sign on a stick stating
"You let your dog shit on my property one more time you'll be finding it on every door handle on your home and car that I can reach for the the next month. Now fuck off home you fucking obnoxious chavball"

"The footage is going viral 👋🏼"

Don't be scared of her, be prepared to smash her if need be. Bullies need to know you won't stand their shit. Literally.“

I’ve changed my mind! This is definitely the way forward!

I’d remove the dog poo and leave it on her drive. Every single time. If she comes round screaming and smashing windows call the police. Sounds like she behaves this way because she can and she’s never truly grown up.

I do have sympathy btw. I’ve had neighbours like that before- self important gobshites who think they can say and do whatever they like to people without consequence. At first I let it go as I hate confrontation but I realised my kids were looking to me to not put up with this shite so started defending myself. It’s hard but worth it.

I like a lot of the other suggestions btw that are better than mine. Whatever you do, make sure she knows you know she’s a dirty bastard and don’t put up with it.

OP she is literally SHITTING on you... please do not accept this ... Phone the Police and provide the footage...

Just put your house up for sale and move, it won't get any better, only worse, I've lived in the same place for 40+ years and always lived peaceably with everyone, got a new neighbour and they've totally spoilt the atmosphere of the street for everyone.

OP, I really feel for you with this situation it must be a living nightmare. My Aunt had a similar thing happen to her with her next door neighbours and they were vile specimens, she ended up moving in the end, she was a lone female and felt very intimidated. She reported what was happening to her local Council and Police. She had cameras installed and was asked to keep a diary of events. Her neighbours were quite crafty and were reportedly nice to everyone else in the road and just picked on my Aunt so she felt isolated and like she was imagining things.

I'm normally a placid person but I deplore bullies. I don't think I would have been able to bite my tongue like you did if I heard my neighbours calling me a cunt. As for the dog shit that is disgusting and I speak as a dog owner. I'd be putting it right back on her drive. Don't let her know you have footage of her, use that as your own secret weapon against her.

My brother in law had horrible neighbours who let their dog shit all over their little cul-de-sac. He got fed up of it and went out and collected it up then dumped it all by the door of their car. They got the message.

Collect all the shit up and deposit it by her front door.

I would be tempted to bag it in one of those biodegradable bags and lob it in her gutter. Every single time she does it. The warmth and rain we are getting should turn it to a nice noxious sludge in no time

And remember she doesn't have friends, she has people who are too scared of the fall out if they stop being 'friends' with her.

Before you consider reporting her, please consider if you’d rather move, as these things are very hard to get sorted, often escalate, and once you report or the police get involved (which might not be your choice) you have to declare this if you want to sell

And sending hugs, it sounds awful

I’d be careful before you act. The sensible and right thing to do is contact the police as allowing the dog to foul is against the law. It’s awful and anti-social behaviour.
However, we had similar neighbours once. Very aggressive and reactive and a very polite, reasonable request to keep the noise down on our part (2am, weekday BBQ party with loud music, shouting and swearing in a terraced street) resulted in a long and soul destroying period of us being harassed. Police were useless. Thankfully they moved or we would have. It’s horrible living next door to people like that.
Not telling you what to do but sometimes being clearly in the right isn’t enough. good luck

I'd whip that shit at her window. Literally.

When she is letting her dog shit at the front of your house, go and throw bag fills of it in her back garden. Repeat.

Stick the dog poo back at the end of her drive.

Warpdrives idea cracked me up 😂