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AIBU?

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SIL (to be) on show

65 replies

Softcentres · 29/07/2020 15:58

My SIL to be (DB's fiance) is very outgoing and sociable, and in the company of my family at least, I've rarely seen her take anything very seriously.

Having met up with them both recently (me, DP, other DB and his DP, who all share a flat together and try to give each other as much privacy as we can), she hosted wearing the shortest dress I've seen someone wear in real life, and as the night went on, it left nothing to the imagination.

Both my other DB (not her partner) and my DP said later that they were very uncomfortable, but as she fidgeted in her seat, stretched out her legs on the table, jumped up regularly to replenish drinks and had no qualms about bending over right in front of us, nobody said anything right away and it got to the point where it was too late to acknowledge at all, and difficult because she was in her own house.

AIBU to want to avoid going round again, or is there any way of saying something to her or DB that won't cause a row after the event?!

OP posts:
TheQueef · 29/07/2020 17:18

Oh really?

SIL (to be) on show
PawPawNoodle · 29/07/2020 17:26

Presumably she didn't flash her arsehole to you all then?

I think you're all a bit shit for not telling her, she might not have realised that she wasn't fully covered.

SeasonFinale · 29/07/2020 17:28

If all of you were bothered why didn't one of you say something.

Perhaps you are bothered because your DP was liking the view too much?

Would she tradionally be considered more attractive than you and are you perhaps a bit jealous?

Shoxfordian · 29/07/2020 17:34

Yabu
She probably looked great and felt comfortable
Please let go of your internalised misogyny

gonshite · 29/07/2020 17:40

It's not normal for a man or women to flash their pants repeatedly. It's also not normal to not mention when someone in your company is doing this.

Somethingsnappy · 29/07/2020 18:15

Were the pants nice ones at least?

WellThisWentWell · 29/07/2020 18:42

Yanbu.
She sounds like one of those women who need to make show out of themselfs and at least in their head, being the most desired woman in the room.
Sad,really.
She knew what she was doing.

user1493413286 · 29/07/2020 18:45

If it happens again I’d laugh and say “name you’re flashing your knickers” and laugh it off.

PablosHoney · 29/07/2020 18:46

Your brother and partner felt uncomfortable, bullshit they did 😂😂

Crankley · 29/07/2020 18:48

I'm getting the vibe that you don't like your SIL to be so assume this will be the first of many threads.

Nighttown · 29/07/2020 18:53

Are the four of you stalwarts of the Mary Whitehouse Modest Dressing Campaign or something?

Cyllie33 · 29/07/2020 18:58

I think it’s unreasonable not to tell someone if you can see their knickers! I’d be v pissed off if my brother/partner didn’t point it out or say something to me.

iklboo · 29/07/2020 19:01

Sorry to ask but are you from a different culture? If my SIL kept flashing her drawers I'd let her know quietly in the kitchen or something. Would you not let your partner or DB know their fly was down all night?

Gurtcha · 29/07/2020 19:06

She was wearing knickers, but they weren't big ones.

I don’t know why but this made me howl and snort GrinGrinGrin

LakieLady · 29/07/2020 19:11

Knickers on show - YABU.

Foof on show - YANBU.

LakieLady · 29/07/2020 19:14

Maybe you should order a pair of these for her, OP.

www.thebigbloomerscompany.co.uk/products/anti-chafing-seamless-with-lace

They'd keep her nice and decent.

Enchantmentz · 29/07/2020 19:18

Honestly yabu for not saying anything then she might have considered putting something else on. I have dresses that are quite short that I lounge around in. Neighbours once commented they could see my arse when I bent over, my response was 'I know'. Couldn't care less tbh don't look then you don't see.

The ball was firmly in all your courts to say something, what she wears is not her problem. Being prudish over someone rear end is ridiculous to me.

Tunnocks34 · 29/07/2020 19:20

Ffs so what.

HotSauceCommittee · 29/07/2020 19:20

If it's only knickers she's flashing, that's fine, surely?
Or did you spy a piss flap or some pubes?

BritWifeinUSA · 29/07/2020 19:20

Sounds like you’re jealous of her and the attention she gets.

Next!

Mummyshark2018 · 29/07/2020 19:35

Did she have a nice bum?

PablosHoney · 29/07/2020 19:35

You could have flopped a boob out and one upped her.

HaudMaDug · 29/07/2020 19:51

God forbid you go on holiday with them and she dares to wear a bikini.
Wait, no, you obviously don't like her so would never dream of going on holiday with such a harlot but will probably show distaste and bitch at her holiday photos.
Hmm

Thehop · 29/07/2020 19:57

See, I’d have had a glass of wine and said “mandy I think i just saw your fanny and I’d rather you didn’t get Pete riled up I’m not in the mood, you show off! ”

Or “ooh you look fabulous, been doing those kegels I see” but I know my friends quite well.

WhenCoronaWasALager · 29/07/2020 20:03

How can you go round if you already live there?