In finding “I’m crazy!” people boring & annoying

[Sittinonthefloor]

The type of person who is all loud and “life & soul of the party” often saying “I’m so crazy... I’m mad, me!” talking about themselves all the time and oblivious to others. I’ve recently encountered such a person, who’ll be hard to avoid. Any coping strategies? Or am I just a dull, misery guts?

Oh these people are dreadful! My friend's sister is like this and the problem is, my friend buys into it and encourages it. She'll say the night out is about to get so crazy because she's invited Becky and expects us all to whoop like seals and thank her for saving us from another boring night out but actually I'd rather not be around someone who thinks it's funny to go around pinching men's arses and dancing on a table and being generally loud and obnoxious, it's just embarrassing. I think we're all just too polite to not react the way they expect us to. If we all cringed/looked appalled/ignored them, they'd probably calm it down and I really wish I had the guts to do that but it's just so awkward!

YANBU

People who self proclaim 'I'm crazy' are rarely so or they wouldn't be claiming it... They are boorish and insecure about themselves!

They’re usually insecure and desperate for attention and that is why they act that way. Pretending to be someone they’re not so think acting like “the life of the party” is the way to go because actually they don’t really know who they are themselves.

Someone mentioned Su Pollard glasses earlier. To me she is the epitome of the "I'm crazy, me" brigade. Years ago there was a book called "How to be a Wally." These people are like caricatures of the book, trying too hard. The worst thing about the laugh-a-minute, loud self-proclaimed quirky brigade, apart from the feelings of utter exhaustion is that, particularly with the males of the species, is that one feels obliged to at least raise a brief smile of acknowledgement at their feeble jokes or their faces fall like a toddler's. I also feel very sorry for insecure people who behave in this way but do not want to spend too much time in their company.

@Lifeisgenerallyfun

This exact person just appeared on the news, running shed school from his shed )which has been short listed for shed of the year!)

I have just seen him on the news and I feel like I need to lie down, in a darkened room.

@beeetyj

Good grief. Everyone is entitled to their own personality and those who think them ‘too much’ - just stay out of their way! I can’t believe this is a whole thread dedicated to rubbishing a personality type. How boring if we were all the same.

To be fair I don't think anyone is rubbishing a personality type. It's people who go around saying they are crazy is the what we are talking about.

@Doingtheboxerbeat Me too. I wonder how much of it is down to being autistic and how much of it is just who I am. I'm not particularly outgoing, I'm actually quite shy and I don't go on about how WACKY I am but I have been described as 'eccentric'.

Eccentric clothing can look great if it 'goes' and/or fits well, but so many people just end up looking stupid.

I know a couple who are like this - always posting about their crazy life on FB. Such a crazy life that their first child was more or less brought up by its grandparents whilst they built up their businesses and pursued a hectic social life, and continued to have more children. Poor eldest kid is a troubled soul and displays some worrying behaviour - that they fail to acknowledge.

So what, I find a great response.

Is that it? Oh, I thought there's be more.

That's so last decade, I remember my dad doing that when I was a kid.

Just simple things like this shut them up so quickly. You'll also find that not only will THEU avoid you, they'll also clam up when you enter the room.

Just be a damp squib

Ugh my (now ex) friends husband is like this. He walks around in an elf costume from november, literally watching people to make sure they look at him, then does an insane grin, he has an album called 'My mad life' on facebook where his doormat of a wife will post photos of him on his latest escapades, including him crawling IN THE FREEZER CABINETS AT THE SUPERMARKET.
Every year he made these obnoxious photos into a calendar and bestows it upon his friends, I had to say years ago I didn't want one.
He is 'zany' and 'mad' and an absolute sociopath, he's actually very mean and cruel and treats his wife like shit. I can't bear him and my wonderful friend of 15 years is losing friends left, right and centre because of him.

@ChickenFriedFudge

Ugh my (now ex) friends husband is like this. He walks around in an elf costume from november, literally watching people to make sure they look at him, then does an insane grin, he has an album called 'My mad life' on facebook where his doormat of a wife will post photos of him on his latest escapades, including him crawling IN THE FREEZER CABINETS AT THE SUPERMARKET. Every year he made these obnoxious photos into a calendar and bestows it upon his friends, I had to say years ago I didn't want one. He is 'zany' and 'mad' and an absolute sociopath, he's actually very mean and cruel and treats his wife like shit. I can't bear him and my wonderful friend of 15 years is losing friends left, right and centre because of him.

I have never met this man but your description makes me instantly hate him and get the creeps.

Quite inadvertently, speaking to such an 'I'm so crazy!' person I said her view of something seemed quite ordinary to me. Explosion! 'I am NOT ordinary! I AM NOT ORDINARY!!' It felt like bits of her were raining down everywhere and she was furious about the 'whole stupid thing!'

Awful, can’t stand them - I’d put them in the same box as those who are just incredibly rude and justify it with “I always speak as I find, I say it as I see it...” blah blah blah, no matter how offensive the comment or observation.
But I don’t find primary teachers to be that way at all ... although I have come across a few such TA’s in my time.

They lack confidence and a personality, but have the sheer arrogance to just not care.

I hate them with a passion - wankers

@toxic44

Quite inadvertently, speaking to such an 'I'm so crazy!' person I said her view of something seemed quite ordinary to me. Explosion! 'I am NOT ordinary! I AM NOT ORDINARY!!' It felt like bits of her were raining down everywhere and she was furious about the 'whole stupid thing!'

What was the opinion?

@OP

The solution is to surround yourself with people who genuinely are a few sandwiches short of a picnic. Never a dull moment, and it tends to keep the genuine bores at arms' length.

People like this are the opposite of fun. They think they are fun because they adhere to some self proclaimed textbook definition of fun- which includes weird clothing, doing "random" things. And anyone who doesn't find their behaviour funny (I.e. me) is labelled as boring or having no sense of humour.

The reality is that fun is much more organic- if it's prescribed in glitter wrapped packages by these morons then any enjoyment for anyone else is sucked right out of it.

I think people only laugh with/ give these folks attention because they feel sorry for them. I don't so have a few times been met with the bitter end of this personality type- often judgemental and rude.

While I completely agree I also find the “I’m an introvert and sooo different and misunderstood” crowd pretty irritating too. In fact I find them more annoying than the “I’m crazy” crowd

@Toomuchtrouble4me I agree. Have you noticed the people who say "I say it how it is" only ever mean the bad stuff? You never hear these people say "You know, you look gorgeous today, and I say it how it is"

@Scentsandsensible oh god yes I forgot about those types. I have one on my FB constantly posting about how her friends are draining and she has to hide away for months on end to 're charge ' Extroverts are always arrogant, selfish people in her eyes and she is just so above them and deeper than that.

@Scentsandsensible

While I completely agree I also find the “I’m an introvert and sooo different and misunderstood” crowd pretty irritating too. In fact I find them more annoying than the “I’m crazy” crowd

Yep. Sick of these people.

So...
So far we have dissed/written off as boring/annoying/tedious/devoid of a worthwhile life or genuinely engaging personality ....

Those with self deprecating humour
Those who are loud
Those who promote themselves as kerraaazy
Those who genuinely are a bit crazy? But possibly in a sane way?!
Those who hide their social anxiety with silly stories (real or otherwise) about themselves
Those who wear Christmas ear rings too early
Those who wear Christmas jumpers too early
Those who wear ANYTHING that flashes
Those who over enthuse about Christmas
Those who claim to hate Christmas but get into the spirit of it in the end
Teachers.. who are seemingly quite likely to develop the above traits purely on the basis of their profession

Those who proclaim themselves to be weird/odd/quirky but aren’t
Those who proclaim themselves to be weird/odd/quirky and are

It’s a bloody good job we’re all so perfect isn’t it!

@RoyEastmannKodak

So... So far we have dissed/written off as boring/annoying/tedious/devoid of a worthwhile life or genuinely engaging personality ....

Those with self deprecating humour
Those who are loud
Those who promote themselves as kerraaazy
Those who genuinely are a bit crazy? But possibly in a sane way?!
Those who hide their social anxiety with silly stories (real or otherwise) about themselves
Those who wear Christmas ear rings too early
Those who wear Christmas jumpers too early
Those who wear ANYTHING that flashes
Those who over enthuse about Christmas
Those who claim to hate Christmas but get into the spirit of it in the end
Teachers.. who are seemingly quite likely to develop the above traits purely on the basis of their profession

Those who proclaim themselves to be weird/odd/quirky but aren’t
Those who proclaim themselves to be weird/odd/quirky and are

It’s a bloody good job we’re all so perfect isn’t it!

Haha!

This was me in my 20s. Maaaaaaasive cringe now. I had no friends and no idea why. Looking back it was 1/2 this giant ego, 1/2 desperately low self esteem. Thank you years of therapy

[quote ChickenFriedFudge]@Scentsandsensible oh god yes I forgot about those types. I have one on my FB constantly posting about how her friends are draining and she has to hide away for months on end to 're charge ' Extroverts are always arrogant, selfish people in her eyes and she is just so above them and deeper than that.[/quote]
I'm an introvert but don't post any look-at-me type posts about my life or feelings but I do have a proclaimed introvert friend who does it All The Time. Very big on the constantly needing to tell people every detail including when she's having time out (why not just have time out, why declare it)? She's a big fan of those 'post one thing you love about me to prove we're more than just FB friends' threads that I cringe at too.

Verdict - I don't think it's not an introvert/extrovert thing, it's a self-esteem/need for constant validation thing that some people have regardless of personality type - and those types are annoying as hell (sorry if that's mean).