In finding “I’m crazy!” people boring & annoying

[Sittinonthefloor]

The type of person who is all loud and “life & soul of the party” often saying “I’m so crazy... I’m mad, me!” talking about themselves all the time and oblivious to others. I’ve recently encountered such a person, who’ll be hard to avoid. Any coping strategies? Or am I just a dull, misery guts?

My BIL's best friend is like this (not a teacher). He's the only guy I know whose personality improves the more he drinks. He actually calms down and becomes "normal".

To be fair I think he suffers from insecurity and has developed the loud personality as a shield, he's a nice guy when he forgets to put on the show.

OMG these people are the worst. Now that I am old I don't hang around with anyone I don't want to, but when I was younger went to a lot of gigs and there were women in my wider group who were like this. Often in bands, often trying to show how 'kkeeerraaazzyy' they were and how much they were 'one of the lads' - it was so attention seeking. so fucking boring. I am SO glad I'm old now.

I used to work with a lady like this. She was like some have mentioned here - talking about Christmas in October, making a very mundane story about something into a huge saga, would mention all her friends thought she was ‘mad’....she was also one of those people who was very hard to get get away from once she’d started a conversation, she would talk at you constantly and didn’t/couldn’t pick up any polite cues that you really had to get on.

I know (and despise) someone like this. She makes out like she’s all ditzy and cute when actually she’s a manipulative, thieving, fraudulent CF. Phew, got that out! Now I don’t have to start my own thread 🤯🙏😥

@SwedishEdith - yuck, you're so right! Getting flashbacks of watching the old TOTPs on BBC4 with his "humour" going down like a lead balloon. Cringe! But such people don't like when the joke's on them or if they're pranked and often turn bitchy and nasty.

These OTT wacky people make me realise I'm doing the right thing by being avoidant, at least lockdown is sparing us from many of them

Is this, novelty clothing + certain behaviours, or aren't we now allowed Christmas etc earrings etc?

Totally- this is so funny! They always try to catch your eye too. Everything is a performance. I know lots of male teachers that wear novelty socks and ties and talk about them extensively. It’s definitely a suit of armour! I usually try to avoid eye contact

I don't have any people like this in my life. They are so polar opposite to my personality that I can't even go there.

Similarly any workplace with a poster up saying "You don't have to be crazy to work here, but it helps."
Sigh...
Usually turns out to be an unhappy office.

Can I add those who say things like 'It could only happen to ME!' when telling a banal tale of things that happen to everyone, as though it's some kind of totally unheard of occasion?

People call me 'quirky'. I think I am perfectly normal and would never describe myself thus. My brain just doesn't work the same way as other people's, that's all.

I know one person who is like this but is genuinely nuts! (In an extrovert, exhausting way not in a rude pejorative for people with mental ill health way).
She looks like her brain is on a course of strange drugs, she constantly swears and is prone to random wacky behaviour . But... and I think this is because it is genuinely her, it's ok. She is exhausting in a way that all extroverts are, but I do love her. But just for ten minutes a month.

Its exhausting just reading about people like this! I used to have a colleague who wore a Santa hat at work all through December, even in serious meetings. I think that flashing Christmas earrings may have made an appearance at some point. She was management level too. Deeply inappropriate

I now have a colleague who suggests 'playful' things at work often - dressing up, doing jumping jacks or stretches in a break during a meeting, playing games and icebreakers during training sessions. I just cringe myself inside out, and say no at every opportunity. Maybe I'm a total square but I think playing is something you do with children, not with adults, and certainly not at work!

Second the pp comments about me being so boring they just sort of...fizzle out like a balloon letting out air in my presence. Have to work with one that thinks he’s HILARIOUS and have found the best technique is to just not laugh, or look confused and say ‘hmm’ then get back to work. Basically embody the receptionist slug thing from monsters inc. I’ll engage if he’s starting a normal conversation but practical jokes, terrible jokes and ‘wacky’ stories get a shut down.

My mother is like this. ‘Look at me, I’m cwazy!’ ‘Am I mad!’. Eurgh.
We don’t have much contact.

My ex partner and all his family are like this. “Ooh, we’re so mad, us and our hilarious jokes!” No. No you’re not, you are tedious and never actually have a proper conversation because every bugger’s always trying to jump in with their “comedy” comments. Not having to see them any more is one of the loveliest things about him being an ex

Here you go.

This has me reaching for my blunderbuss -

I don't know people like this, thank G-d. They sound unbearable. I don't mind people who are genuinely happy and positive (or Fotherington-Thomases, as I call them), but people who are always 'on' and LOL ME SO WACKY can sod off.

Timmy Mallett asked my mum out at uni and she said no. He was a student radio DJ and he was just as obnoxious back then as he is now. She dodged a bullet.

Not at all. I used to have meetings with one of those "I'm so crazy" people and a couple of people who thought he was just hilarious with his constant stream of "jokes". Whenever he wasn't there we got through the agenda 25% quicker.
I don't know anyone like that now thank god, but I do know someone who is their close cousin, the "I'm not like other girls/women". Very, very wearing.

I'm a fairly quiet person and find people like this irritating. They often lack self awareness, so won't necessarily respond to other people's body language - the body language that's screaming SHUT UP BEFORE I THROTTLE YOU!

I'm sorry - you are doomed

In my experience there's a direct inverse correlation here: the more people shout about how crazy and wacky they are the duller and more conservative they actually are. David Brent types with boring lives whose only joy comes from having other boring people validate them by listening to their tedious war stories of being "mad for it".

Can’t remember which pp said it but something about “ He’s a nice guy when he’s not putting on a show” & that made me think of my ex BIL. He used to try soooo hard to be funny but when he relaxed, he was much easier to be around. I actually feel sorry for people like this & can see myself in them to a certain extent. I suffer from anxiety so tend to plan what to say on a night out, store up funny stories etc, whereas when I just go with the flow it’s much better. DH has noticed that I can sometimes try too hard & he’s really helped me to build my self esteem & accept that people love me for myself.

I met one of these types last year. He was a visitor in my school and instantly reminded me of David Brent. We all sat down for our meeting and he took off his jacket, put his phone on the table etc. Five minutes into the meeting his phone went off with a text alert which was some cockney bloke saying "DON'T FORGET TO PUT YER BLOODY TRAAAAHSERS ON!" I was slightly stunned and stopped talking as he apologised and fiddled with his phone. I could TELL he wanted someone to comment on the ridiculous alert noise but I just couldn't. I assumed he had switched his phone to silent but five minutes later it did it again!! The people he had come with looked really embarrassed...

They all sound awful

Does anyone care to regale us with one line summaries of the most tedious stories that have been offered up as proof of their krazyness?

I have a morbid curiosity now!

Yes about male wannabe primary school teachers. They often end up working other jobs with kids.

Very off putting to be around.