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In finding “I’m crazy!” people boring & annoying

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Sittinonthefloor · 29/07/2020 09:37

The type of person who is all loud and “life & soul of the party” often saying “I’m so crazy... I’m mad, me!” talking about themselves all the time and oblivious to others. I’ve recently encountered such a person, who’ll be hard to avoid. Any coping strategies? Or am I just a dull, misery guts?

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Livpool · 30/07/2020 08:24

I work with someone different - she goes on about how quirky she is! "I have a dinosaur mug - aren't I quirky".

But all day. Very annoying.

However as we have all been wfh since March I haven't seen her so it's been wonderful

ShitStain · 30/07/2020 08:39

@ShebaShimmyShake. It doesn’t offend me or surprise me. Why do you think it does?

BrokenBrit · 30/07/2020 08:42

I don’t ever say (or think/ hope!) that I am crazy!
But I do work with young children and sometimes will dress up and wear silly outfits for themed days, and Christmas jumpers in December. It’s for the kids benefit and a bit of fun.
Does this mean people will be judging me this way?

SerenDippitty · 30/07/2020 08:42

Yes the 'im mad me' crowd are tedious. And generally the most boring people you'll meet, almost guaranteed to have some kind of wine/gin/booze related mug at work and loudly proclaim their love for whatever the type of drink.

I had one like this at work “shhh - [drink] in disguise* but I was actually the quietest person in the office.

ShebaShimmyShake · 30/07/2020 08:45

[quote ShitStain]@ShebaShimmyShake. It doesn’t offend me or surprise me. Why do you think it does?[/quote]
Because you appear to think there's something wrong with a comedian who isn't "on" all the time and imply that they're fake or insincere if they're not as bouncy in real life as they are when they're performing.

Again, I refer you to Robin Williams.

ShitStain · 30/07/2020 08:52

@ShebaShimmyShake

I never said there was anything wrong with it. My point was people can fake being happy.

Has this thread touched a nerve? Are you related or obsessed with Robin Williams or are you a life and soul of the party type?

SteelyPanther · 30/07/2020 08:59

I find them exhausting !

Blackcurrant66 · 30/07/2020 08:59

Related is the ‘sexually liberated female’ who ‘gets on better with men’. There’s one in my team. She has a weekly anecdote about her dildo collection. ‘We had a workman round and he nearly opened my dildo cupboard!’ Can’t even escape them in lockdown as we have Zoom socials

ShebaShimmyShake · 30/07/2020 09:02

[quote ShitStain]@ShebaShimmyShake

I never said there was anything wrong with it. My point was people can fake being happy.

Has this thread touched a nerve? Are you related or obsessed with Robin Williams or are you a life and soul of the party type?[/quote]
Hmm. So this was a totally neutral comment, devoid of any intent to denigrate? It wasn't intended to be insulting in any way?

"The craaaazy ones are similar to comedians who are all smiles and energy but behind closed doors they sob while trashing their homes and shit on the bed while guzzling gin."

Of course not. It's a sneery post in an admittedly sneery thread, but the clear implication that there's something "wrong" with comedians who aren't actually their stage persona at all times was so ignorant that I felt it was worth pointing out. Especially since, you know, Robin Williams. Guess you didn't think much of him either.

Nice user name, by the way. Quirky.

Livelovebehappy · 30/07/2020 09:05

Lots of ‘crazy’ people out there during lock down. We are wfh, and Microsoft team meetings are very draining at the moment. Lots of very extrovert people grabbing the attention during our daily hour long meetings, as clearly they are not getting the attention and audience they get when working in the office. Two or three people monopolising the meetings with their ‘craziness’.

Lottapianos · 30/07/2020 09:25

'It’s for the kids benefit and a bit of fun.'

Totally fine by me. Wacky, crazy, playful behaviour to amuse children- lovely. The same in an adult environment- NO

AhBallix · 30/07/2020 09:39

Inside my head, what I really want to do when I get hijacked by someone like this, is stare blankly or say 'righty ho' and then crack on with whatever I was doing. But I always end up fake laughing and grinning away like a bloody Cheshire Cat. Grinning until the muscles ache in my face. I don't think it's politeness though. I think it's fear. Because I always imagine there must be a dark side to balance out the crazy and if I don't play along, they might rip me to shreds! But then, I'm a total wuss.

thetrolleywitch · 30/07/2020 09:46

My old boss was like this, what grated for me was the, 'I'm so unique and quirky' thing carried the implication that everyone else was boring and incapable of such 'dynamic' (read ill thought through and haphazard) ideas as her. She basically just wore stupid shoes which were unsuitable for the job. The other thing was that she was just a carbon copy of every other inspirational quote posting Instagram pictures of breakfast dick out there, not as yoonique as she imagined!

Footlooseandfancy · 30/07/2020 09:53

God yes! There's loads of subsections of these people too.
"I'm so alternative" - has a tattoo
"I'm such a player" - endless stories about dates and conquests, usually in detail, never has a long term relationship, frowns on people who do
"Tell it like it is" - zero social skills, rude, no one bothers putting into the leaving collection when they resign
"Really good drinker" - terrible drinker
"It's all fun for the kids" - spends every second of the day instagramming the shit out of their trip to the zoo in matching tops

LolaSmiles · 30/07/2020 10:01

Can we add people who's whole life revolves around Disney so therefore they are really quirky?
Careful, a least a year ago there was a thread on here where someone mentioned finding Disney obsessed adults annoying and it turned into a bun fight. Grin

I agree with you though. I enjoyed Disney as a child and would still see a film if I wanted to, but I don't get having Disney pyjamas, princess mugs, thinking it's quirky and cute to be obsessed with Disney by making sure everyone in the meeting notices you have a Disney notebook.

00100001 · 30/07/2020 10:02

I do find the Disney obsession a bit strange... however, each to their own :)

Horehound · 30/07/2020 10:02

Oh yes. I know someone with the blurb "functioning nutter" on her Facebook profile.
Hmm

LucilleBluth · 30/07/2020 10:09

Oh bloody hell, I wear bright orange Lucy and Yak dungarees 😀.

I also work with children and young people (with special needs) and I do agree that this requires a certain degree of performance. I am ‘on’ from the minute they get into school in order to try and manage behaviour and get them learning. Making them laugh can be the key.

I’m a miserable bastard in real life though, more so as I get older.

Pamalarrrr · 30/07/2020 10:23

"You dont have to be mad to work here - But it helps!!"" = the most boring office ever

TooLittleTooLate80 · 30/07/2020 10:34

Also a giveaway when they start a facebook post with "As if I just..." then proceed to describe something mundane like putting shampoo in the bath instead of bubble bath as if it was the most zany thing in history.

ShebaShimmyShake · 30/07/2020 10:40

@LucilleBluth

Oh bloody hell, I wear bright orange Lucy and Yak dungarees 😀.

I also work with children and young people (with special needs) and I do agree that this requires a certain degree of performance. I am ‘on’ from the minute they get into school in order to try and manage behaviour and get them learning. Making them laugh can be the key.

I’m a miserable bastard in real life though, more so as I get older.

Both sides are you, though. Being "on" or "performing" doesn't mean being insincere or fake. Especially if you're literally standing on a stage for people who have paid you to entertain them!

For many people in the performing arts or "performative" jobs (for want of a better word) such as yours, that's their outlet for a certain part of their personality so they don't need to express it so much elsewhere. Your classroom is your "stage", your students are your "audience" and you're there to do a job; entertainment in a sense, with an educational and supportive motive to it. But that doesn't make it fake. I don't think Lady Gaga wears meat dresses at home alone, or that Dolly Parton wears her wigs, makeup and tight sparkly dresses and heels to lounge around on Sunday morning but I wouldn't say that makes them somehow false. Actually one of the things I love about Dolly is how very sincere and true to herself she always seems to be.

I bet your dungarees look great.

thenightsky · 30/07/2020 11:21

I fear DH might be bordering on being one of these types at work. I've only discovered this since lockdown and him wfh, where I have witnessed a few zoom meetings.

I have told him he sounds like a wanker and to rein it in a bit... he said 'oh I'm known at work for keeping it lighthearted'. No, DH, you are coming across as a bit of a wanker.

QuestionableMouse · 30/07/2020 11:32

I skipped a load of lectures because we had another lecturer taking them (they were in a subject her specialty covered) but I just couldn't stand her. I'm sure she's a lovely person but she grated on me.

She was one of these types and I just don't have the energy to deal with them.

NowYouListenToMeFella · 30/07/2020 11:33

God they really are tiresome. One friend I have is non stop going on about how crazy they are. Jesus wept I think she is the most boring fucker alive who hasn't done one crazy thing ever.

Horehound · 30/07/2020 11:57

@thenightsky

I fear DH might be bordering on being one of these types at work. I've only discovered this since lockdown and him wfh, where I have witnessed a few zoom meetings.

I have told him he sounds like a wanker and to rein it in a bit... he said 'oh I'm known at work for keeping it lighthearted'. No, DH, you are coming across as a bit of a wanker.

😂😂😂