I've paid for next week's group holiday but no one has paid their contribution!

[Waferbiscuit]

Weird situation. Going on UK holiday with a friend, her two friends and our 5 children. I agreed to pay for the whole thing on a spare credit card on the basis that they'd BACS me their contribution but I've not received a dime. I paid 5 weeks ago and we leave next Monday.

What's the standard protocol on this? I don't want to get into a situation where I have to chase them for money after the holiday, when they'd obviously be less inclined to pay or where I may get dribs and drabs over an extended period. Given the number of people coming it's obviously cost quite a bit.

Forgot to add - AIBU to get a bit snippy about this and demand payment before we set off?

Tell them they need to pay you, today! How bloody rude of them.

What would happen if you cancel it?

Urgh. Bad luck. No good deed unpunished...

message them and tell them you need payment

Just message and say that you need the money transferred to you by 10am tomorrow, and include your bank details. Take it from there and see what happens.

Just keep it simple, send a message saying Hey everyone, looking forward to the holiday, my bank details are ........ and it's £xx each. Thanks!

@Gamerchick - it's my only holiday of the year (no surprise there!) and I'd be loathe to cancel, but can't afford to just go on my own, if you see what I mean.

Message them all now. Tell them you want the money.

You shouldn’t have paid for it on your credit card until you received the money from them all; they’ve no incentive to pay quickly now so will likely drag their heels as they know it’s awkward for you.

Can you cancel?

I was thinking that some people get paid on Friday, but that's for them to tell you.

I'd send a jokey passive aggressive text to everyone. "I hope no one is expecting to go on holiday next week. No money in my account yet".

Totally unacceptable behaviour from your friends.

I have been in this situation before. Suggest you tell them very nicely that you will soon have to pay interest on the credit card bill if they don't pay up by [date] and that you will expect them to pay that interest if they don't clear the balance in time. You are not a bank! I'd be nice but very clear about what I want with the first ask, less nice if they don't pay up! Hope all goes well

Thx - probably best to keep it simple. I'm not from the UK so sometimes wonder if there is a different type of protocol for these things e.g. an assumption that everyone pays at the end. who knows!

You can get in touch with your friend and remind her that the credit card bill needs to be paid this week and they need to pay you their share please before you go. Remind her that it was 5 weeks ago when they agreed to pay and you just want to check in that they are all still going.

But what would happen if you cancel? Would you get your money back?

Tell them your statement is due and the outstanding will incur interest can they pay tonight.

Current English rules on meeting up indoors:

1. Social contact and events

2.1 Can I visit people indoors? Yes, you are able to meet indoors in groups of up to two households (anyone in your support bubble counts as one household). This includes inviting people from one household into your home or visiting the home of someone else with members of your own household. You should continue to maintain social distancing with anyone you do not live with or who is not in your support bubble when doing so.

If you are in a support bubble you can continue to see each other without needing to maintain social distancing.

The more people you have interactions with, the more chance the virus has to spread. Therefore, try to limit the number of people you see – especially over short periods of time. The risk of transmission is also higher indoors, so you should take extra care to stay as safe as possible.

Not sure how many bubbles/households you’ll be but may be they are wanting to cancel. Cancel and get your money back I reckon. Saves hassle all round.

As above. Money by Friday or you cancel (even if you have to call their bluff)

And the full amount. Don’t accept half because it’s the end of the month and they don’t have it. It’s not like it’s an unexpected payment for them

They’re CF’s

Remember this. Don’t book a holiday with them again.

@Waferbiscuit

Thx - probably best to keep it simple. I'm not from the UK so sometimes wonder if there is a different type of protocol for these things e.g. an assumption that everyone pays at the end. who knows!

No. It's generally understood that people pay before the holiday. Why on earth would anyone expect you to be out of pocket until they decide to cough up. Good luck

Do they have all your bank details to send you the money, it doesn't matter that you are overseas, the money can be transferred pretty quickly.

You MUST get payment before you go. It's not like they don't know it's due! You've done the favour by booking it, they should feel bad for not having sent. Have you not chased since booking?

Send a message, pleasant but factual requesting funds tomorrow since it's almost departure time. Hopefully it's a bit of a misunderstanding!

“Hi everyone, just to let you know I’m still waiting for payment for the holiday, so exciting it’s nearly here! Let me know ASAP how you want to pay, hope you’re all good!” Something like that would be ok :)

'Hi all, credit card bill is in, please transfer x payment to x account by tomorrow and post back here when you have done it so I can track everyone's.payments, thanks.'