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CF home buyers

604 replies

Teenangels · 28/07/2020 13:04

I am being unreasonable.

Bit of background put my house up for sale, just after lockdown ended.
I had 9 viewing on the first Saturday and 3 offers. All at different levels one at full price from someone with something to sell, one just under the asking price think 10k in a chain, the third offer was 10% off the asking price, chain free mortgage offer in place. The first time buyers also wanted a second viewing before they offered and wanted me to cancel all other bookings so they could get first chance of buying it, they were told to F off. They put in an offer.
We negotiated with the first time buyers and managed to get them to offer 5% of the asking price this was still 40K under the asking price. but we had found a house and for ease went with them but told them that this was a fixed price and there would be no further movement on price from either party.
This was beginning of June, they have had a mortgage offer and surveyor round, all fine house was valued at over their offer, I did not move on our price.
Fast forward to beginning of July another surveyors has come round and found some issues, like moss of the roof I kid you not!! That the electrics are not up to current 2019 regulations, the house was re wired in 2016, that they should check the drainage, and one of the struts in the roof is bending by 5 degrees (this is not a supporting part and there is no movement and if they wanted to replace it, it would cost no more than £50.

My buyer wrote a long email to the estate agent 3.5 weeks after they got the report to say that they wanted a structural engineer to come into the house, a builder and a plumber and electrician and we would have to vacate the house for the day so that they could check everything.
He wants the electrician to take off all the plugs and check the wiring in some of the walls (Channel them out) but not be responsible for any damage. I told them to f off, he wants to check that the electrics are working and safe ( we live in the house with 4 kids).
He is now saying that I have to let him have access.
I have given him access on Thursday to look at the roof, but not to do any electrical work.
I have said that if he plays anymore games the house will be back on the market, I think he wants me to reduce the price, there is no chance.

OP posts:
ClaryFray · 28/07/2020 13:07

Pull out and tell him to F off.

I don't know about the legalities as have never sold or brought a house but no. Unless he owns your house, he is a quest and should act like one

Apolloanddaphne · 28/07/2020 13:07

I would tell them to bugger off and put the house right back on the market.

Gabrielknight · 28/07/2020 13:07

Pull out of the sale. Back on the market it goes!

Original poster
Teenangels · 28/07/2020 13:08

Sorry forgot AIBU telling them no

OP posts:
Maryhadalittlejam · 28/07/2020 13:09

What a pain, I think you've been tolerant

HollyBollyBooBoo · 28/07/2020 13:09

Honestly pull out, they will cause you nothing but grief, given the offer and viewings you should feel confident you'll sell easily again.

Shelley54 · 28/07/2020 13:11

What is the point in carrying on here? Back on the market, more fish in the sea.

Rafflesway · 28/07/2020 13:11

Sounds as if you are in a healthy selling area.

Don't put up with this garbage! Another vote for telling them to go forth and multiply.😡

MadeForThis · 28/07/2020 13:11

I imagine they will only get worse.

MrsOrMiss · 28/07/2020 13:12

He certainly is a CF, if this were me, he'd be history too.

YANBU at all.

HermioneWeasley · 28/07/2020 13:13

They’re going to carry on being a nightmare. If you can, I’d put it back on the market or I suspect they will threaten to pull out at the last minute once you’ve got sunk costs

Nottherealslimshady · 28/07/2020 13:13

Just say no but dont get in any arguments. They can take their offer back if you say no but you can say no. Hope you didn't actually tell them to fuck off because I'd have removed my offer there and then.

MysteryParcels · 28/07/2020 13:14

I think it's worth one more "any more stunts and I'll withdraw from the sale" and either do or don't allow him access, but stick with your threat and follow it through if you need to. I think it's worth a final severe warning shot - they are first time buyers, and I'd give them the benefit of the doubt.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 28/07/2020 13:15

This would push me over the edge. Definitely put it back on the market.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 28/07/2020 13:16

not be responsible for any damage.???

now saying that I have to let him have access.???

Bin them off OP.

Buttercupsandroses · 28/07/2020 13:17

Your definitely not being unreasonable op

onlyk · 28/07/2020 13:17

I would have gone with the asking price buyers.

You’ve got a first time buyer who is taking the piss, don’t be surprised if on the day of exchange he try’s to knock another couple of £k off. He’s going to try every trick he can because what’s the worst you can do? Say No. Actually the worst you could do is put the house back on the market and get a high offer with less hassle ( maybe the asking price buyers now have an offer on their house?)

Flatpackback · 28/07/2020 13:18

That is totally ridiculous, tell them to sod off.

Home42 · 28/07/2020 13:19

I had buyers like these once. I eventually had to say a full on no. Buy for agreed price with no more access to the house until after sale or sod off. They bought and lived there for another 5 years so I’m sure it was fine!!!

Passtherioja · 28/07/2020 13:19

These people will get you right to the edge of exchanging then pull another stunt to knock more money off, they're just trying to get you back to their original offer. Tell them no!

VictoriousSockPuppet · 28/07/2020 13:20

Can the EA contact either of the others who were previously interested to see if they still want it?

Username7521 · 28/07/2020 13:22

The reason why you went with these buyers was in theory a less stressful sale period.
They are making it more stressful than it needs to be so its time to move on.
If they were paying full price then I would give them more leeway, but as you know the house is worth more to others, and probably would be less trouble I would put the house back on the market.

Jellybeansincognito · 28/07/2020 13:23

I know it’s the biggest purchase of your life and all that jazz, but this is insane.
I would pull out of the sale and put it back on the market, it’s a stressful enough process without this.

LadyOfTheImprovisedBath · 28/07/2020 13:23

He is now saying that I have to let him have access.

No you don't - I'd say no and put it back on the market - assuming it's in an area selling well - as I image it will just get worse and there will be games around exchange time.

We had entire last house re-wired 18 months later kichen fitters giving quotes kept insisting it would need to re-wired as it no longer met standards. If you have the paper work that work was done that should be enough for most buyers.

Flatpackback · 28/07/2020 13:24

If you’ve got an electrical certificate from 2016 that should do. Do they really thing every house gets the electrics updated every time there’s a change in regulations? They are seriously misguided. Sounds like the are inexperienced and way OTT, getting crap advice from somewhere. I stick to my early comment, tell them NO.