AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

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Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

We have a Sunday roast from Autumn to late Spring then we switch to bbq.

Christmas we plan in December. My mother used to plan it all in August but by the time it came she had had enough of it and had a face like a slapped arse all the time. Despite all of us being obliged to do the extra chores that Christmas and New Year apparently required while she sat around complaining things weren't right.

Christmas no but Sunday lunch yes, although we have it as our evening meal rather than at lunchtime.

I think this is lovely.

Shows you have old fashioned values and l think this speaks volumes for you in a good way.

When i have time not so often at the moment i love to make my kids a Sunday lunch feels me with joy like im being a good mummy.

I know sounds crazy.

I didn't have a Sunday lunch growing up but my mum made lot out of xmas prep.

He should thank his lucky stars.

Omg someone that talks my language! 😊 We have a Sunday roast every Sunday except in the summer, as we now have BBQs. Christmas dinner guests are sorted for this year already and i've already started writing a Christmas list. 😂

How are we supposed to vote if we agree on Sunday roasts but think you're a loon for worrying about Christmas when we've barely had the last one?

I had the Christmas conversation at the weekend. Suffice to say I'm not hosting, flat no from me!

Large family here which takes planning (step and half siblings, in-laws etc) so yes I think it’s totally reasonable to want to sort Christmas plans now!

And I love a Sunday roast. I don’t do one every week but pretty often. One of the only meals I’m confident both my children will eat!

I agree with you - planning for Christmas takes time! As much as I'd love a weekly road it's too much faff

But saying you come from a backward part of the country - he can fuck off!

Hell yea.... do a Sunday Roast every week as does all my siblings and their families.

Ive not started writing the family Christmas list yet, but already made the plans and awaiting confirmation if any extended family will be joining us (COVID19 considering of course).

Bloody love Christmas at the best of times, but after all the lockdown shenanigans, cancelled summer holidays and the overall shit that 2020 has thrown at us this year - we’re going all out this Christmas with the kids. Fuck it!

Christmas is planned in December here.

I love a Sunday roast though, in autumn and winter particularly! I even like preparing it. The act of cooking it feels therapeutic to me. I feel like I'm nurturing myself and my family with lots of vegetables and the slow steadiness of chopping peeling etc are an antidote to this fast paced life.

I chuck a halted butternut squash into roast before the roast, scoop it out and that goes in the slow cooker for soup for lunches in the week ahead. The veggies and potatoes also get used as left overs the next day. I work late on a Monday so having an easy dinner is brilliant.

I also love a carvery in a restaurant as a second best!

I would most definitely have a Sunday roast every week if I had the time and will cook one at any given opportunity. Anybody who thinks otherwise is clearly mad

I view Sunday roast cooking as practice for Christmas dinner, the menu for which was loosely decided at Easter and will continue to be tweaked up until December.

Meat for Christmas dinner has been purchased in this house as early as October (there was an amazing discount on some beef joints on the Waitrose meat counter) and frozen. I begin running the freezer down in early Autumn to make way for Christmas deliciousness.

I technically started Christmas shopping two weeks ago when I saw a few massively discounted bits of stationery in John Lewis which will make perfect stocking fillers.

I’m so glad my tribe have finally come along.

@Helpimfalling I’m fairly sure he does. But definitely not because of my obsession with Sunday roasts.

@Lordgooseofbumpington you’ve put it much more eloquently than I could have but that’s exactly how I feel. It makes Sundays feel slower and warmer and cosier.

@borisjohnsonsstylist yep. Cooking a roast every (most) weeks makes Christmas dinner a breeze.

Sunday lunch happened each week in my house until lockdown. Older relatives would join us. Can't wait to start up again.
Christmas we don't plan till later in the year.

I think your bf is right in that it is diminishing as a tradition. I have no evidence for this other than this thread, and my own friends and family, oh, and all the people that are out and about doing activities throughout the day on Sunday. There are so many more activities on a Sunday, it isn't that practical. Much as we love a roast dinner, we've not regularly had one on a Sunday for 30 odd years.

However, your bf's comment about being backward is not very nice.

All that said, you should do what you want - nothing to do with anyone else if it suits your family.

Christmas ? You are FAR too early.

We have a Sunday roast maybe once a month and way to.early to think about Christmas plans !!

“Sunday roast” has never been a thing in my family or household, I don’t think I’ve had a Sunday roast dinner in many years. But it’s not odd, just different people have different lifestyles. It’s perhaps less common nowadays but that doesn’t make it odd.

I cook a roast most Sundays. I've not thought about Christmas yet though.

We usually do a roast on either a Saturday or Sunday. Pre covid it usually included guests, and is something we all enjoy.

Christmas usually includes guests, not sure that it will tjis yesr, but usually discussed around October(ish) as to who to invite/where to go.

and even the supermarkets haven't put Christmas stuff out yet so it's probably a little early.
Unusual for them to be this late though. Usually they start shortly after the New Year's Eve fireworks have sold out.

Christmas arrangements in July? YABU. Sunday roast? YANBU. Perfectly normal.

The opinion that there are “backward” parts of the country/union is really unpleasant.

I have friends and family dotted around south, north and Scotland who all have Sunday roasts.
Thinking about Christmas now is necessary for a lot of poor people.
Your boyfriend needs to learn empathy and courtesy.

I don't think either of you are odd, a Sunday roast is lovely if you can be bothered. I understand wanting to know what you are doing for Christmas early, it's hard to make plans if you are waiting on others to know what they are doing.

I was in my 20s before ever experienced a “Sunday roast” as this is not a Sicilian thing. Though am Aussie so a Sunday BBQ is probably out equivalent. Am now all for Sunday roasts & will visit a pub if they specifically cater for this.

However all Xmas discussion should only start in December, am loathe to consider or discuss it outside of the yuletide timeframe.

My folks host Sunday lunch for all kids plus partners and kids every Sunday. I don’t think that’s odd at all, it’s the opportunity to catch up on the week’s news.

Don’t tend to start thinking about Christmas till October-ish though, other than which family we’ll be spending it with (we alternate years between my and DH’s family)