to use a potty in the park?

[garfieldrec]

My 29 month old is a month into potty training. When he tells me 'weewee' I grab the potty from under the pram and let him use it. Is this ok?

I empty into a bush out of sight etc. Whole process takes about 20 seconds probably!

I just have mine wear their special outside nappy , If they need to go we go somewhere discreet and they go in the nappy and I throw it away. If there’s a toilet nearby we would use it but obviously not a lot around right now. I dunno probably just me being a prude but I hate people weeing in public now even more that I have a toddler that wants to touch everything.

They used to,sell collapsible potties that you could put a nappy bag into, then tie up the bag afterwards. Can't you buy those anymore?

@GameSetMatch

When I was potty training my boys and we were a long way away from the toilets I just let them do a ‘doggy wee’ a wee in to a grid or a patch of grass, no way would I lug a potty about.

I don't see it as lugging tbh, it's just in the bottom of the pram. Nowt else needs to go in there.

I’m not having a go at anyone who does it discreetly or anything it’s just how I am. You could always get. Portable potty.

I never used a potty. I don't believe it sets their toilet training back if they have an accident. IME they learn to hold it faster when there's no incentive to if they can't sit down for a wee any time, anywhere.

You are also trying to teach them that there are appropriate places for wees and poos (toilets) and inappropriate places.

There was a post on here years ago by a bloke who was incensed when he got told off for letting his kid take a shit in a potty in the middle of the curtain department at Peter Jones.

@Clymene

I never used a potty. I don't believe it sets their toilet training back if they have an accident. IME they learn to hold it faster when there's no incentive to if they can't sit down for a wee any time, anywhere.

You are also trying to teach them that there are appropriate places for wees and poos (toilets) and inappropriate places.

There was a post on here years ago by a bloke who was incensed when he got told off for letting his kid take a shit in a potty in the middle of the curtain department at Peter Jones.

This lesson will come with time, maybe even in the next month. He's a month in, and not even 2.5 yet

It’s fine, I’ve potty trained my eldest during lockdown. He can usually hold it until we get to a toilet but sometimes he can’t so I bring a pottette which has been handy so far and folds flat so is easy to bring along.

I thought everyone let their kids have a nature wee when necessary. My 3 year old could hold it for up to about 10 mins but after that there would be an accident and having to strip her off and change out of wee soaked clothes would be more upsetting than a quick wee behind a bush.

We had a day out at the weekend but found when we got there that the public toilets were closed. The playground was a 15 minute walk from the car and it was a 15 minute drive home. Wouldn't have been possible to make it back home.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

Just let him pee in a bush or something. At 126 weeks old, he should be able to manage that. I'm guessing you are chucking it away anyway.

Personally, I think showing a 29.44444444 month year old to wee outside in front of goodness knows who is more of a backwards step than carrying spare clothes or putting some pull ups on just in case

I did laugh at 29 months .

Is he your PFB?

You're being quite defensive and set in your thinking which is fine but does beg the question why you asked for opinions if you were just going to accuse people of being "perfect" because they managed not to take potties out with them.

My tuppence worth - I think it's gross. I never did it. Trained three dc and just never needed one while out and about. No, I'm not perfect and yes, I'm telling the truth.

It's unnecessary, IMO. If you need to be whipping out a potty in the middle of a park he mightn't be ready to go big distances yet.

polkasquare yes they do and they are amazing! We still use ours for long car journeys.

OP google potette.

My son is a similar age to you and we did this literally the other day.

My son just shouts toilet when he wants to go and I never have long to get him to a toilet in time.

We went to the park and I knew the toilets would be closed as the council have been cautious with everything going on. I just took it in a large bag, whipped it out, emptied it by a bush, quick wipe with an anti bac wipe and jobs a goodun. I'd rather he be comfortable and not stressing about not making it to the loo in time than care about all the judgemental people with nothing better to do.

He's a month in, and not even 2.5 yet

A month??

@OhCaptain

He's a month in, and not even 2.5 yet

A month??

Yes?

Trained properly for 3/4 weeks, now just finessing.

@OhCaptain

I did laugh at 29 months .

Is he your PFB?

You're being quite defensive and set in your thinking which is fine but does beg the question why you asked for opinions if you were just going to accuse people of being "perfect" because they managed not to take potties out with them.

My tuppence worth - I think it's gross. I never did it. Trained three dc and just never needed one while out and about. No, I'm not perfect and yes, I'm telling the truth.

It's unnecessary, IMO. If you need to be whipping out a potty in the middle of a park he mightn't be ready to go big distances yet.

Yes I'm defensive. Because I asked an etiquette question, NOT training tips!

And I have a potette. But that's not what I'm asking

I certianly wouldn't judge you for this - better in the potty than on the swings!

I do think more generally that its odd to train kids to use a potty though....we just went straight for the loo when ours was old enough to cope with it. I think she had just the one accident - but that was more stomach upset related than anything else.

Why don't people just wait until kids are a bit older and have a bit more control and ability to hold it in?

Ok but when people are telling you its grim and they wouldn't do it, you're arguing that he's only a toddler and saying it's fine.

Which it is! For you. So why ask?

There's no definitive etiquette. That's clear from the thread. Some people don't mind it, and some do. Most don't or didn't find it necessary.

But you seem to think they're claiming to be perfect! I'm just not sure what you want from this.

Your child deserves some level of privacy - when is it inappropriate for your child to be naked/exposed in public?

@Justpassingthroughagain

I certianly wouldn't judge you for this - better in the potty than on the swings!

I do think more generally that its odd to train kids to use a potty though....we just went straight for the loo when ours was old enough to cope with it. I think she had just the one accident - but that was more stomach upset related than anything else.

Why don't people just wait until kids are a bit older and have a bit more control and ability to hold it in?

People leave it too late in my opinion. Just my opinion though.

We're a few weeks in and have a travel potty that you then just close and take home to empty. If she says she needs a wee, we take her to the side somewhere and kneel in front of her, it takes about 30 seconds. She can hold it long enough for us to do it discreetly but not always long enough to find a public toilet. I'd always take her to the toilets if inside in somewhere like Tesco's or a restaurant though!

Don't understand the posters who find it so strange! Dogs wee in the exact same spots without anyone blinking twice! Crack on OP!

Another who never took a potty out for any of my 3 DC.

Plan your trip, make sure you know where the toilets are, go before you leave, when you get to your destination and ask regularly if they need to go.

@OhCaptain

Ok but when people are telling you its grim and they wouldn't do it, you're arguing that he's only a toddler and saying it's fine.

Which it is! For you. So why ask?

There's no definitive etiquette. That's clear from the thread. Some people don't mind it, and some do. Most don't or didn't find it necessary.

But you seem to think they're claiming to be perfect! I'm just not sure what you want from this.

Yes there's no definite answer which is my answer! So I'll crack on!

I also used a potette and had it with us all the time. Bin the bag as you would bin a nappy, couldn't be easier. I have used them everywhere, planes included (not in the middle of the aisle obviously!)

I never used a potty. I don't believe it sets their toilet training back if they have an accident. IME they learn to hold it faster when there's no incentive to if they can't sit down for a wee any time, anywhere.

so you never took your children out for a few hours at a time? Sounds grim.

I thought you meant for you. Fuck yeah.