to use a potty in the park?

[garfieldrec]

My 29 month old is a month into potty training. When he tells me 'weewee' I grab the potty from under the pram and let him use it. Is this ok?

I empty into a bush out of sight etc. Whole process takes about 20 seconds probably!

It's fine.

@QueenofmyPrinces

I can’t articulate why, but I find it very grim when I see toddlers sitting on a potty having a poo/wee in front of everyone.

Nobody wants to see that

I know I can all look away, and I do, but the initial glimpse of it just makes my toes curl

I never had the need to take potties around with me when I trained my two children.

Each to their own though, I say

If you are happy doing it then just carry on, don’t let the personal feelings of individuals that may pass you impact on your training. Potty/toilet training can be a bloody nightmare so just do whatever works for you and your little one

I agree it's not great, but it's better than seeing an accident I think!

Maybe go places where there are toilets?

@Baaaahhhhh

Like a previous pp, I never had potties either. Make them go before you leave the house, and then make them wait until you can find a loo, or hold on until you get home. Bladders of steel my kids .

If he doesn't need to go before we leave, I can't make him...

@Clymene

Maybe go places where there are toilets?

Yeah cool, so no swings, no pond, no anywhere because of what reason exactly?!

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These are pretty good! Feels more hygienic, just don’t forget about it and leave it in the car for a week! 🙈

Can I just say, I'm not looking for training advice, my son is doing really well.

I was asking an etiquette question.

I have a carry potty for my son. Our local park doesn't have toilets and it's a bit of a walk away so we need to take something. He hasn't needed to use it for ages (he's 3.5) but when he has I try to take him to the side a bit.

Yesterday I saw a mum struggling with using a coat to shield her daughter on the potty. Felt that was over complicating the situation.

Oh god op, you have my full sympathy over some of these replies love your answers though

@Twizbe

I have a carry potty for my son. Our local park doesn't have toilets and it's a bit of a walk away so we need to take something. He hasn't needed to use it for ages (he's 3.5) but when he has I try to take him to the side a bit.

Yesterday I saw a mum struggling with using a coat to shield her daughter on the potty. Felt that was over complicating the situation.

I tend to crouch next to him to shield the view or whatever. But I doubt I could be bothered with a coat situation!

If he doesn't need to go before we leave, I can't make him...

Ohhh, I don't know, there's always a dribble lurking somewhere. It does become a habit though, that's part of the training, every time you sit down, something appears, try running a tap.

DH still can't leave the house without a last minute wee, he blames his mum too .

There’s a known pee bush in our local park that the kids go behind. I’ve never seen anyone use a potty, tbh that seems like more hassle than it’s worth, but I don’t see anything wrong with a kid peeing in a park providing you aim to do it discretely and not right next to the swings!

@Baaaahhhhh

If he doesn't need to go before we leave, I can't make him...

Ohhh, I don't know, there's always a dribble lurking somewhere. It does become a habit though, that's part of the training, every time you sit down, something appears, try running a tap.

DH still can't leave the house without a last minute wee, he blames his mum too .

I get met with a lot of resistance at the moment so I just say 'weewee before we go.' And he'll say no, or he may need to go. I don't want to push it. When he's older and more understand of things, I can explain that he needs to 'try'.

Ime a plus point of having a ds is no need for a potty!!
All my ds's (8) have been potty trained early by pointing and peeing. Simple!!
Sit down for poo only or you have to retrain to point!!

I used to have a potette which is a collapsible potty with special bags in it ... so do a wee, close the bag up and no need to tip wee all over a public area - dispose of it in my bin. It also converted to a toilet seat for public toilets which was handy.

@iamtheoneandonlyyy

Oh god op, you have my full sympathy over some of these replies love your answers though

The perfect parents with perfect children are out in force!!! I don't believe them 100% though

@RhubarbJelly

I used to have a potette which is a collapsible potty with special bags in it ... so do a wee, close the bag up and no need to tip wee all over a public area - dispose of it in my bin. It also converted to a toilet seat for public toilets which was handy.

Yep I have a potette, son prefers the pourty and it's a similar size and no need to faff about with the legs etc

We had a potty seat with folding legs. Could either put a bag in it and make it a potty or place it over a toilet so DD didn’t fall in. She never did a wee in an open space. We always found a toilet and put her in a pull up when there was a risk she might have an accident.

I wouldn’t object to seeing a 2yo using a potty out and about but I would aim to get to a toilet first.

Of course you can make him go! Just sit him on the toilet.

I've never carried a potty either - went straight to the toilet at 2 (24 months for you OP ). If we're out and about he pees in a bush. Still working on standing to pee, so we either risk that or I make a little seat with my hands, it doesn't happen often though. I have no idea how I'd even carry a potty. We haven't used a buggy for months and I hate carrying a bag.

He's 2 and a bit now (nearly 29 months) and he can hold it for a while until it's convenient. I think a big part of potty training is learning to hold it in - no idea how you do that though. Mine more or less potty trained himself (thankfully).

I was sitting by a park the other day and watched someone doing this. It's pretty horrible I think, and very unhygienic.

I have potty trained 6 children and never used a potty in public. There have been lots of mad dashes to the toilet and a few accidents, but I've never needed a public potty. I'm not at all perfect parent, but I don't think it's nice or necessary to do this in public.

I’ve seen someone actually whip a potty out in Tesco. Grim.

I have no idea when this became a thing, like other pp’s I didn’t carry a potty anywhere either.

Oh and my ds wasn't great at potty training. He wouldn't communicate (later found out he has Aspergers) and hated to sit down. He did poo his pants for a bit but he only ever did that at home. One day, he just decided he was going on the toilet. He did have the odd wee 'accident' out and about, but it was never a massive puddle, just a wet patch, so I'd take a change of clothing. He was nearer to 3 though because I gave up in the end! With dd I swore I wouldn't bother before she was 3 unless she showed willing and she just sort of trained herself at 2 3/4. Was dry at night almost immediately too. She had quite a few wild were though but was adept at doing it herself without me having to hold her.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

We had a potty seat with folding legs. Could either put a bag in it and make it a potty or place it over a toilet so DD didn’t fall in. She never did a wee in an open space. We always found a toilet and put her in a pull up when there was a risk she might have an accident.

I wouldn’t object to seeing a 2yo using a potty out and about but I would aim to get to a toilet first.

I won't ever put him back in a nappy. I feel that stretches out training for no reason.

I think the fact that dogs routinely wee on everything in sight, on that basis alone it is absolutely fine for a toddler's wee to go behind a bush.

I’ve toilet trained 5 under 3s. Never took a potty out of the house ever.