to use a potty in the park?

[garfieldrec]

My 29 month old is a month into potty training. When he tells me 'weewee' I grab the potty from under the pram and let him use it. Is this ok?

I empty into a bush out of sight etc. Whole process takes about 20 seconds probably!

In a park is fine.

In a library in the middle of story time, no. Though mother was obviously overjoyed that her child had managed to wee on a potty. She jumped up, clapped her hands and ran off with potty to toilets (all of 5 metres away) to empty it! Just no.

@DivGirl

Of course you can make him go! Just sit him on the toilet.

I've never carried a potty either - went straight to the toilet at 2 (24 months for you OP ). If we're out and about he pees in a bush. Still working on standing to pee, so we either risk that or I make a little seat with my hands, it doesn't happen often though. I have no idea how I'd even carry a potty. We haven't used a buggy for months and I hate carrying a bag.

He's 2 and a bit now (nearly 29 months) and he can hold it for a while until it's convenient. I think a big part of potty training is learning to hold it in - no idea how you do that though. Mine more or less potty trained himself (thankfully).

You can't actually make someone wee! Don't be ridiculous!

Ever thought someone's child may behave differently to your own?

I'm asking an etiquette question, not asking for training tips. Thanks

I take a potty to the park for my 2yo DD, I never even considered that there could be anything wrong with this! I guess I'm probably being judged most of the time she doesn't use it but there aren't any toilets there and if she can't wait until we get home I'd rather she has the option of a potty. This is just for wees though, she wouldn't do a poo in the park

@Tamtam86

I take a potty to the park for my 2yo DD, I never even considered that there could be anything wrong with this! I guess I'm probably being judged most of the time she doesn't use it but there aren't any toilets there and if she can't wait until we get home I'd rather she has the option of a potty. This is just for wees though, she wouldn't do a poo in the park

This is essentially us! He rarely uses it but I'm glad we have it there instead of making him have an accident that's not his fault

@Rocketpants50

In a park is fine.

In a library in the middle of story time, no. Though mother was obviously overjoyed that her child had managed to wee on a potty. She jumped up, clapped her hands and ran off with potty to toilets (all of 5 metres away) to empty it! Just no.

Agreed. Although I have some sympathy with the woman if shed been previously struggling

It's fine. My DC would not have made it to the toilet if it was too far, and had I let them just have an accident it would have set their toilet training back. We had a portable foldup potty with those bag liner things that absorbed all the wee.

@KarenKarendson

It's fine. My DC would not have made it to the toilet if it was too far, and had I let them just have an accident it would have set their toilet training back. We had a portable foldup potty with those bag liner things that absorbed all the wee.

Yes! You get me! Thank you

Ha never get the whole kids must not wee in parks thing. I think YABU just because of the nuisance of the potty. Teach him to wee standing up and there are loads of trees and bushes. Emergency wide necked water bottle if all else fails.
Actually I would vastly rather do that than visit skanky toilets that are too big and hard for little people to use. Dogs, foxes, birds and all of nature lead the way on this one. Wee is no big deal.

I’ve seen someone actually whip a potty out in Tesco.Grim.

I saw someone do it once in the middle of a hospital corridor.

I heard her say to her parents that she needed a wee and they instantly pulled a potty out from a backpack the mom was
wearing, put it on the floor, whipped the girls trousers off and sat her on the potty.

I just felt really uncomfortable. Surely she deserves a bit of privacy regardless of her age? (she looked about 2.5-3 years old)

@QualityFeet

Ha never get the whole kids must not wee in parks thing. I think YABU just because of the nuisance of the potty. Teach him to wee standing up and there are loads of trees and bushes. Emergency wide necked water bottle if all else fails. Actually I would vastly rather do that than visit skanky toilets that are too big and hard for little people to use. Dogs, foxes, birds and all of nature lead the way on this one. Wee is no big deal.

I shall try and work on standing wees. Not sure how to start though!

@QueenofmyPrinces

I’ve seen someone actually whip a potty out in Tesco.Grim.

I saw someone do it once in the middle of a hospital corridor.

I heard her say to her parents that she needed a wee and they instantly pulled a potty out from a backpack the mom was
wearing, put it on the floor, whipped the girls trousers off and sat her on the potty.

I just felt really uncomfortable. Surely she deserves a bit of privacy regardless of her age? (she looked about 2.5-3 years old)

Better than having an accident in public.

A potty should never ever be used in public. It is not about being a perfect parent, it is about consideration for others. No one wants to see a child sit on a potty in public. How will they ever learn to hold? If there is the odd accident just bring spare clothes.

Etiquette-wise it's fine for a newly trained little child. I did this. Yes some people will disapprove but it is a brief time, till he/she can hold on and wait. At first things are Urgent, and you want success not accidents.Carry on.

I think with boys once they can wee standing up they really enjoy it and then it's job done and it all really clicks into place. I've toilet trained two children and I've never brought a potty out with me to be honest. It's never entered me head to bring it.

Yanbu, it's absolutely fine as long as you're not near people eating. You keep potty training toddlers inside all day for weeks it's not fair on them.

Mines bloody stubborn and won't wee out in the open.

Got a back garden - if so get out there. They love it. No plant pot will be safe. Do not let him wee standing up at home - this ensures you end up with a teenager and a toilet that doesn’t smell of piss!

@SebandAlice

A potty should never ever be used in public. It is not about being a perfect parent, it is about consideration for others. No one wants to see a child sit on a potty in public. How will they ever learn to hold? If there is the odd accident just bring spare clothes.

Can you articulate why you find it so abhorrent? It's a child... I don't think a child having a wee should make you feel so uncomfortable. Maybe you should try and look at why you feel that way.

I won't ever put him back in a nappy. I feel that stretches out training for no reason.

We struggled to potty train DD. It took a long time and she was very anxious about it. In the same way you just told a PP that every child is different, putting my child in a pull up in the earlier stages of potty training meant that we could actually go out. If that wasn’t necessary for you, great.

@Wheresthebiffer2

Etiquette-wise it's fine for a newly trained little child. I did this. Yes some people will disapprove but it is a brief time, till he/she can hold on and wait. At first things are Urgent, and you want success not accidents.Carry on.

Yes, I agree

Good for you for sticking up for yourself OP, the posters objecting to you saying '29 months' are obviously being petty just for the sake of it.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

I won't ever put him back in a nappy. I feel that stretches out training for no reason.

We struggled to potty train DD. It took a long time and she was very anxious about it. In the same way you just told a PP that every child is different, putting my child in a pull up in the earlier stages of potty training meant that we could actually go out. If that wasn’t necessary for you, great.

Fair enough

When I was potty training my boys and we were a long way away from the toilets I just let them do a ‘doggy wee’ a wee in to a grid or a patch of grass, no way would I lug a potty about.

We always took a little potette foldable potty - as did most of our friends (lots of kids hate using strange toilets with noisy hand dryers etc. even once they're fine at home). I used to empty the wee in an out of the way place (no worse than dog wee) and then give it a wipe with anti bac on a tissue & pop the tissue in the bin.

@butterpuffed

Good for you for sticking up for yourself OP, the posters objecting to you saying '29 months' are obviously being petty just for the sake of it.

I did pause over that when writing because on one hand people ask age for milestone type posts and I knew they'd be some petty people that would pipe up!