to use a potty in the park?

[garfieldrec]

My 29 month old is a month into potty training. When he tells me 'weewee' I grab the potty from under the pram and let him use it. Is this ok?

I empty into a bush out of sight etc. Whole process takes about 20 seconds probably!

Yes it's fine but don't be surprised if you get the odd "Muuummm, what's that boy doing?" Or "Mum, is that boy having a WEE?" 😂

So many mums who potty trained toddlers to not need the loo anywhere, and yet a mere half generation ago so many mums who did terrible jobs as evidenced by all the grown men who can’t control their bladders and need to pee in public.
FFS do people not realise we’re in the middle of a fucking pandemic and almost all public loos are closed, and there is a non zero risk of contagion in public loos? We go places 2 hours from home, I hold it in, DD who is 2.5 uses a potty in public. It’s insane to consider locking yourself in for another few months until kids have stronger bladder control and I think it’s honestly impossible for kids to be able to hold it in for a few hours.
So either parents stay for the whole damn year within 15 mins of home, or use a potty since public loos aren’t going to be safe for a while!
And all these smug parents pretending like there is no virus and public loos are safe and easy to access are just ridiculous.

I had one child who got it very quickly and although we stayed in for a couple of weeks, after that it was fine if we went for wee just before we went out. I couldn't understand people taking a potty everywhere.

Then my second came along and week 5 of potty training and we still have about 3 seconds notice. I have another child and cant stay in indefinitely. And she is improving just very slowly so I think it will be confusing for her to go back in nappies. So I don't think I've got much choice about a potty in the park

If that’s aimed at me @Jellybeansincognito I’d say that being able to tell me he needed to use the potty and wait until he was on if before going, such that we were able to ditch nappies completely in 4 days was enough evidence of potty training readiness to me. By about 20 months he could wait for up to 2 hours so in hindsight would have been easier for me to wait the extra couple of months til then, but he was absolutely ready when we trained him.

Oh god 29months 😂😂😂 your one of those 😂 your childs 2.

I think that's a bit harsh. If OP had said 2, people would have asked if he'd just turned two or was nearly three, as it might be relevant to how long it was reasonable for them to wait to wee etc.

Lol at this post!!! Fucking hell, I need a wee half the time when I go out and I’m 37!!! I can assure you I’m potty trained. I don’t bother with a potty coz I often go places with no buggy. We all just do nature wees. Tbh half the time we do nature wees even in the garden coz I can’t be arsed to take them upstairs. My kids like weeing on the flowers and choose which ones to wee on. Boys often piss on their trousers at that age so I face them away from me and pick them up behind knees. So potty position but you’re holding them up. Have to be careful they don’t wee on your shoes. Same with girls.

@Jellybeansincognito

one of the signs of readiness for potty training is weeing less.

If they’re not weeing less and you’re having to take a potty on a one/2 hour trip out, there’s something wrong.

• in my opinion.

My 22MO is potty trained. He doesn’t need a nappy. But he still wees plenty. Not really sure why the frequency matters? He’s still better off not sitting in his own urine because he’s capable of not doing so!

We take a potty everywhere just in case. For the most part we don’t need it, but I do make him try before any car journey of more than a few minutes. Even if that means a car park potty sit.

@Jellybeansincognito

one of the signs of readiness for potty training is weeing less.

If they’re not weeing less and you’re having to take a potty on a one/2 hour trip out, there’s something wrong.

• in my opinion.

He holds for 2/3 hours easily. But we could end up going to the park at the time where he'll need to go within an hour of getting there

@Frazzled13

Oh god 29months 😂😂😂 your one of those 😂 your childs 2.

I think that's a bit harsh. If OP had said 2, people would have asked if he'd just turned two or was nearly three, as it might be relevant to how long it was reasonable for them to wait to wee etc.

I was damned if I did etc

OP, my lol was not at you. It was at the responses about how he’s not ready if he can’t hold a wee for a gazillion hours. My daughter sometimes wees once in four hours. And sometimes three times in an hour. Just depends doesn’t it? I defo recommend mastering nature wees so you don’t have to faff with a potty.

I'd much prefer my son to use a clean potty than a public toilet especially at the minute so we've started taking ours out with us again (he's 3). We took it out for a few months after he initially trained too so don't see any issue with this.

It's fine! All my friends do it with their toddlers especially now toilets are either not open or not risk free.

I have 2dd and they trained when they were 3, so got it in a couple of days. Also they did not want to do a woodland wee. We just used toilets when out or went home. Neither had any accidents which I put down to them being older.

I can beat the Boots potty story.

Grandad, with small grand-daughter - maybe 4 ish - who suddenly needed to go, while at playpark.

Hung her over the low seat in the middle of the playpark to allow her to do a huge poo.

He'd have left it, too, the dirty bugger, had I not handed him a nappy and told him to pick it up and put it in the bin.

I’m just potty training my toddler who is slightly older. Haven’t ventured out the house yet but we have a my carry potty for when we do.

I genuinely don’t know how anyone could go out without one, my toddler really doesn’t give much notice!

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No toilets where you want to go, then don't go until he is more capable of holding until you find a toilet. It's a few months of not visiting your favourite places, but it is better long term as he won't be reliant on you whipped out the potty whenever he needs to go, regardless of where you are.
This is the most ridiculous advice I've ever heard just say op needs to go shopping or has other children they just stay at home.[/quote]
I am not suggesting the Op, or anyone else toilet training a toddler, stays at home. I was suggesting that you go to places you know there is a toilet while they still need to go with urgency.

I've been shielding since the middle of March, and have only left the house three times, so I've no idea what is and isn't open toilet wise, so forgive my naivety about current public toilet situations.

We sometimes took it with us but I wouldn’t whip it out right in the middle of the play park, I would walk them away from others to a quiet spot Or behind a tree or bush. If they can’t last the 60secs to get to a quieter spot then they aren’t ready. Mostly I had to drive to parks so I kept in the car.

I used a portable potty for the first few weeks post training. She definitely wasn’t trained in a day or two and remains petrified of hand dryers in public loos. I had the one with bags attached so you just chuck everything away. Not ideal but if people would rather my child pissed herself than see her on a potty, then that’s for them to deal with.

Never took a potty out with me and never seen anyone else do it either. If I was going out for hours I'd put a pull up on them or bring spare clothes depending on what stage of training they were at and every opportunity to take them the toilet, you take. If I was just popping out quickly I wouldn't bother. If they have an accident you just change them when you get home.

You’re fine op don’t worry about it. Obviously your not whipping out a potty in the middle of a restaurant with toilets. When little kids need to go they need to go- apart from the perfect children on here who can hold a wee for 7 hours until they are in an appropriate place 😉
Although do move to one side though! My dd was learning to ride her bike in the local park. Lots of wide flat paths. She was starting to build her confidence up and was starting to go faster when a mother up ahead suddenly whipped a potty out of the bottom of a buggy and plonked her kid on it in the middle of the path and left her buggy and herself blocking the rest. Dd very almost crashed into her- I just managed to catch her in time I was raging more so because that’s the fastest I’ve had to run since year 9 PE.

Gosh people are so judge! One of my children needed a potty everywhere we went and one was able to hold it from the moment she was wearing pants. Not all kids are the same!! Op, you're fine

With ds we planned outings with toilet stops and he learnt to hold on fairly quickly. If he was desperate and there was no toilet near I would find somewhere discreet, trousers down, hold him off the ground in a sitting position and make sure his penis was pointing south.

He soon learned to go standing up outdoors.

Tip, make sure your shoes are out of firing range.

What’s with the 29 months? I stopped months at 24 months. But I’ve heard it used up to 36 months. So what? You are fine to use 29 months OP.

You are asking mumsnet here OP.

Ofcourse people will think its disgusting on here.

In real life, it is absolutely fine.
Its a baby having a wee for goodness sake, its fine.

You can get a foldable potty with bags , incase child needs a poo...

Mine is only 18 months so not quite at that stage yet, but I think it's absolutely fine for a 2 year old to have a quick wee in a potty in a park. It's added another thing to my things to worry about list though! It's much better than them having an accident and getting upset, and it's not like it's the middle of a restaurant.

I could've done with a potty myself last time I was out and about - tried so many places that weren't letting people use the loo.

What I don't get is the parents who whip the potty out in full view of others. I've seen it in a supermarket trolley, in cafes, the poster upthread who got it out in the middle of a cricket match! The park is ok as long as it's really secluded, why anyone wouldn't automatically go to the most shielded from view place is beyond me. It's up to us to give our children dignity and it's a good time to teach them about privacy when it comes to their bodies.