to use a potty in the park?

[garfieldrec]

My 29 month old is a month into potty training. When he tells me 'weewee' I grab the potty from under the pram and let him use it. Is this ok?

I empty into a bush out of sight etc. Whole process takes about 20 seconds probably!

@WaterOffADucksCrack reminded me of this old thread where someone whipped one out in Pizza Hut.

You have to laugh at the competitive stupidity on these threads sometimes.

So it's fine for an adult to need the toilets when they feel like it, but it's unacceptable for a toddler (or whatever 29 months might be) to need a pee out of their set times as arbitrarily decided by someone.

I am a grown up, sometimes I might go an entire afternoon without a wee, sometimes I pee every hour. What the hell is wrong with people? Sometimes it's hot, sometimes they drink more, sometimes they pee more. Mum uses a potty. That's what normal life looks like. Unless you come out straight from prison where toilets hours are severely regulated, give us a break.

I agree @WaterOffADucksCrack

Everyone has a phone and are free to take pictures of anything these days.
It’s not appropriate to be whipping a potty out in full view.

No problem if hiding a bit behind a tree or bush, i have seen a family stop right by the path to let their toddler poo in a potty as people werewalking by which i did nt like, liked it even less when they all clapped then chucked it under a tree in full veiw and right where people kids and dogs would be strolling / playing 😡

It wouldn’t bother me to see it, tbh. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid.
I haven’t got to that stage with mine yet (he is 3 in October) so not 100% sure but I wouldn’t do it myself probably.

But I don’t see an issue with it

Goodness me, people are mean aren't they.

Thank goodness for all these perfect parents and perfect children in the world!

And obviously the OP is saying 29 months because there is a difference to her when toilet training her child.

I'm genuinely interested in how a simple, inoffensive questions can result in people being so mean. Aren't parents judged and critiqued enough without jumping on a lady who just wanted to ask a question about peeing in the park.

I'm genuinely interested in how a simple, inoffensive questions can result in people being so mean

Because it’s AIBU

If it makes you feel better OP I do the "take-a-potty" with DC2 (age 2.5). If I didn't they'd be loads of accidents as he can't hold it for any meaningful amount of time.

However, DC1 was a unicorn child - trained in a weekend. I followed the same process with both. DC2 just doesn't get it and can only (just about) manage on a potty.

Thank goodness for all these perfect parents and perfect children in the world!

A snarky comment and then a question as to how people can be mean!

I hate the "perfect parent" crack whenever anyone claims not to do something other people are doing. It's so bloody childish.

@Crystal87

Never took a potty out with me and never seen anyone else do it either. If I was going out for hours I'd put a pull up on them or bring spare clothes depending on what stage of training they were at and every opportunity to take them the toilet, you take. If I was just popping out quickly I wouldn't bother. If they have an accident you just change them when you get home.

Again, how is an accident better than taking a potty

Nah, I think it's childish when people jump down someone's throat. The OP was asking a simple question and some, by no means all, people shout her down because what she does is not the same as they do.

The 'perfect parent' description is because some people are unable to see anything other that what they did as the right way. But it's very hard to explain reason to a person like that, so it's really pointless to try.

Yes, I think when people have been super nasty to someone, its deserving of a snarky comment. It's not unpleasant or personal though, not like when people jump on OP. Weird that people can't see the difference!

Again, how is an accident better than taking a potty

It's not better. It's creating more work for yourself and it's unpleasant for the child.

@Jellybeansincognito

I agree *@WaterOffADucksCrack*

Everyone has a phone and are free to take pictures of anything these days.
It’s not appropriate to be whipping a potty out in full view.

Oh stop

I haven't read the whole thread but just so you know you're not alone I too had to take a potty out with me at times. And also had a delightful phase of having to bring one of those small padded toilet seat inserts everywhere too. I don't drive, my eldest was terrified of toilets and any unfamiliar potty/seat. It was that or she'd hold it, for as long as it took, she never wet herself and was possibly terrified of that too. She would also not do a nature pee. She took to toilet training really well surprisingly. And is fine now.

Not exactly common but I have come across quite a few children who are very similar in my years as a nursery nurse. Some children need the security of a familiar seat to go. And often parents have to bring in there potty.

So yes for slightly different reasons I did the same. My child's comfort came first.

I wouldn’t judge you but would much prefer it to be discreetly out of sight.

DC2 has a bladder of steel and can wait all day whereas DC1 can wee before we go out, need to wee soon afterwards and then have an accident if waiting too long (followed by a uti).

Oh god 29months 😂😂😂 your one of those 😂 your childs 2

I don’t really get this. No, her child is 29 months? Months make every bit of difference when your child is that age in regards to milestones.

No but they've wee'd in plenty bushes as have i I think as long as you are not in the middle of the play area, take him to the side away from other people it's fine. I do think it's a good idea to teach them to wait a few minutes though or they won't learn the ability too.

Oh and if you're teaching him to wee stud up stand behind him and press you knee gently into his bum so he will naturally push his hips forward so it doesn't go everywhere.

Also don’t get the ridicule re 29 months - there’s a massive difference in maturity between a child who has just turned 2 and one who is about to turn 3.

Also - why do people persist in saying “whipping out” when they refer to people doing something they don’t like? I see it all the time when people complain about other people breastfeeding “whipping their boobs out”...now people are “whipping potties out”...really?! I suppose feeding a hungry child and stopping your toddler wetting themselves does involve some degree of speed.

@WaterOffADucksCrack the cricket was happening in the middle of a cricket match. Don't know if you've ever seen one but it's a big, wide open green space where people play the game and then around the outside you'll get some benches or picnic tables perhaps. A toddler using a potty somewhere in the grounds in no way becomes the centre show, they weren't putting people off their pint, their food or their game.
Should we all be including a map to indicate privacy levels?

I don’t see the issue at all. Better than a kid peeing themselves. Any sane parent would totally understand IMO! My neighbour used to let her kid pee outside the back of our houses rather than sending him in. That I did not understand.

@KarenKarendson

Again, how is an accident better than taking a potty

It's not better. It's creating more work for yourself and it's unpleasant for the child.

Indeed

@Thefaceofboe

Oh god 29months 😂😂😂 your one of those 😂 your childs 2

I don’t really get this. No, her child is 29 months? Months make every bit of difference when your child is that age in regards to milestones.

Thank you

@Thehogfatherstolemycurry

Oh and if you're teaching him to wee stud up stand behind him and press you knee gently into his bum so he will naturally push his hips forward so it doesn't go everywhere.

Great tip!