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About a baby being at the pub?

126 replies

Hcisab · 24/07/2020 22:27

Its friday night, baby was maybe 1year old, seemed very happy and energetic, mum and dad both drinking but neither seemed drunk, both giving lots of attention to the baby and they left at 9 when all minors had to leave.

Would you judge them?

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BackforGood · 24/07/2020 23:14

I realise this is a loaded question, and we are all suposed to say "Of course we wouldn't judge", but I would.

DS was having a great time, dancing on the tables and all !

That really doesn't improve things.

Maybe it's my age. When I was young, pubs were for adults.
Indeed, when my dc were small and we'd paid for a sitter so we could go out and relax, I thought it really selfish that people took small children out and let them run about and disturb others.

This is before you throw COVID 19 into the mix, social distancing, face masks, etc

TheWayOfTheWorld · 24/07/2020 23:15

@FilthyforFirth

Personally yes. One of my pet hates is seeing small children out late and presumably very out of their routine. Having small children means your life changes a bit for a while... Not that you cant go out, I went out for a meal with DH when DS was about 5 weeks old, but he was left at home with someone so as to not interrupt his routine.

I am a massive stickler for routine still and he is 3 now so perhaps I am the other end of the extreme!

Tell that to the French, Italians, Spanish, Greeks - not an all unusual, esp with a young child that naps frequently. As long as it wasn't too noisy and they weren't over-stimulated/over-tired I don't see the problem.
Beautiful3 · 24/07/2020 23:20

Yes I would judge. Sorry.

UnholyStramash · 24/07/2020 23:23

No, no judgment from me. It sounds like they were all doing fine.

phoenixrosehere · 24/07/2020 23:23

I would especially if they drove there, however I wouldn’t say anything. Besides, the last place I would want to go is to a place in the evening, especially with children. How people find that relaxing is beyond me...

Winterwoollies · 24/07/2020 23:23

Anyone judging you wants to go to Spain or Italy... all families go out together, dinner doesn’t start until 10pm and kids stay up among their families, before bedding down in their prams while their families enjoy each other’s company until 2 or 3am. It’s continental and I think it’s great. Beats leaving the kids with a sitter!

phoenixrosehere · 24/07/2020 23:24

*pub

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Hcisab · 24/07/2020 23:24

Okay, to clear a few things up.. it's a pretty calm pub, lots of other families just not children as young. DS wasnt dancing on the tables, that sounded wrong, he was dancing and having fun, got on the table once and started dancing but I pulled him down straight away and I only mention because the few suggesting it's unfair on him to be out that late. He wasnt being loud or disruptive and the few times he did get over excited, I took him outside and calmed him down. DS has never slept well, trying to impliment any kind of routine would make us all miserable so we just go by him.

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Rtmhwales · 24/07/2020 23:24

I thought the dancing on tables meant her baby was in a great mood, not literally dancing on the table .. but OP can clarify.

VioletGrace · 24/07/2020 23:24

I wouldn't judge as such but it would piss me off if a toddler was running around all over the place whilst all other adults were expecting to awww and aaaah about them. I don't go out for a drink to have to fawn over other peoples' kids.

anon5000 · 24/07/2020 23:24

@Beautiful3

Yes I would judge. Sorry.
Why?
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Hcisab · 24/07/2020 23:25

Also, no of course we didnt drive there!

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onlinelinda · 24/07/2020 23:26

I wouldn't judge. I would if it were very late, or they were drunk, or it was cold.

FlamedToACrisp · 24/07/2020 23:27

It's a long time since I went to a pub, so I don't know the law, but I thought kids had to be over 14?

I used to live above a pub, and we often took our baby with us when he was asleep - the landlord was a friend, so we just put the baby in his moses basket under the bar billiard table. If he woke up, I'd take him upstairs while my DP kept drinking.

GabsAlot · 24/07/2020 23:30

at the moment they shoulsnt be dancing around or toddling about because of covid

apart from that its fine

SickToDeathOfThis · 24/07/2020 23:32

What pub isn’t full of screaming pukers by 9?? The baby’s fine!

TrainspottingWelsh · 24/07/2020 23:33

No, I've never bought into the bullshit about all dc needing to be at home in bed by dinner time just on principle. From the start mine went to bed at a time that suited them and our lifestyle and allowed far more freedom and wider experiences. And unless people with older dc restrict their activities also, staying at home every evening is only practical with the first.

Although I don't think it's acceptable to let dc on tables.

Thisismytimetoshine · 24/07/2020 23:35

Why the pub, though? Personally I hate being surrounded by other people's kids when I'm in a pub, having left my own kids with a babysitter.
It's an adult environment.

june2007 · 24/07/2020 23:35

Why judge them?

Whatisthisfuckery · 24/07/2020 23:37

Absolutely, how dare they occupy space they are allowed to occupy.

verypeckish · 24/07/2020 23:38

Routine - what routine? Having had a dc who never went to sleep before about 9.30pm, I'd be thinking, 'why did I never think of that?!'

Good on you. Much nicer than one parent having to stay at home with the baby while the other one goes out on the lash.

Sarahplane · 24/07/2020 23:39

sounds fine to me

isitorisntit · 24/07/2020 23:41

I would have a problem with the child being on the table! Absolutely take your kids to the pub, as long as they are annoying for others. They shouldn't be running around (it's not cute) and I hate when people sit their kids on the table. It's gross. Not cute. Other people have to eat/drink on that. 😷

MorganKitten · 24/07/2020 23:48

Nope

ginandgingers92 · 24/07/2020 23:48

No judgment from me!