About a baby being at the pub?

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Its friday night, baby was maybe 1year old, seemed very happy and energetic, mum and dad both drinking but neither seemed drunk, both giving lots of attention to the baby and they left at 9 when all minors had to leave.

Would you judge them?

Nope, sounds fine! I took my dd aged 3 to the pub one night because she was obsessed with the bit in the Tiger who Came to Tea where they walk down the road to a cafe, but there's no cafe near us, so i took her up the local for a lemonade while I had a pint and she did some drawing. No one batted an eyelid but my local is pretty laid back . At least with her for company no one offered to sell me a puppy or tell me about their life behind bars...

I’d be jealous. Have a 5 month old and happily drag him to pubs at lunch on weekends but by 8pm on a Friday I’m a zombie. Good on you for having the energy. With DD (now 12) I was young and just slotted her into my life pretty successfully.

No, not at all.

@FilthyforFirth and how exactly can you tell what a child's routine is by looking at them!?

Also, an uninterruptable routine is a rod for your back any way you slice it. MN loves a schedule but unless you (and your baby) can be a little flexible you'll be utterly miserable.

Umm no why would you judge them?

Always love it in Spain when little children are out and about with their parents in the evening. It’s very accepted and they always seem to be happy.

Nope. I took my 2 to a beer garden this afternoon. They read books / did some stickers while DH and I had a pint.

I would if they were in any of the places I go to because I hate being around children in the pub, so I choose places that aren't really family friendly.

Not at all. I would have happily done it myself if I'd had anyone to go with. I had one of those non sleeping babies who told me to get to fuck when I trief to implement a routine.
I found being in the house really hard with a baby that wouldn't chill. I used to tread the aisles at Sainsbury's instead for our evening entertainment.

I’d maybe wonder why a pub for a one year old rather than an activity to suit them. Both parents drinking though I wouldn’t do personally, I think one parent should be always sober when caring for children.

Some pubs near me are saying children must be seated at all times (because of social distancing) was he toddling around the place? Could that be a reason for the looks?

I dont need to know from looking at a 1 year old that they shouldnt be in a pub at 9pm @bitchinkitchen. I have no idea what their specific routine is, but I have my own DS and multiple neices and nephews and none of them were still out at 9pm. I did say personally, and that in general I am a fan of routine.

I more meant in the sense that at family parties, for example, whilst I would be happy for DS to be up slightly later than his normal 7/730 bed time. I wont stay until 10 as he is only 3 and being out that late is for me not him.

To me it depends what kind of pub. I think there is massive difference between a country pub and a town centre Friday / Saturday night noisy bar.

I've seen babies out at 11pm with parents pissed out there faces in our local social club which seems really wrong to me

I'd be jealous more than anything else. When my DDs were that age, by that time I would have been completely shattered, desperate for them to get to sleep whilst lying on our bed. I definitely wouldn't have felt up to going to the pub!

I wouldn’t judge you for being there but would raise an eyebrow at a 1 year old being allowed to dance on a table in a pub at any time to be completely honest...

That’s just me though and if the staff were ok with it then crack on!

Bit sad that you should even feel the need to ask
What are parents supposed to do? I don't have any baby sitters even if I could afford one
You need to stop the judgey voice in your head
Babies do need to be swiftly taken outside if they make a noise though I judge people who don't do that

I can’t figure out what you are judging them for?

I have a baby whose routine has been shaped by their own body clock so they often go to sleep at 9.30-10pm. Those assuming a baby is out of their routine because they sleep from then til 7 or 8am rather than 7pm to 5 or 6am really annoy me. I probably wouldn’t go to a pub in Covid times but did go to a few restaurants before.

Don’t think it’s great but your choice if pub allows it

My kids are night owls and late risers so 9 would never be late for any of them. When we go on holiday they are up till 1am and sleep till 11. They are all still awake now at 7,5 and 3yo. We took ours to the pub often when under 1 and content to sit on my lap and look round, I used to sit and bf them quite happily, they never caused a fuss.

Make the most of it while you can I say! If you ever have another baby then you won't have the same flexibility to just pop out like that because the older one will need to be in bed.

Nothing wrong with it. I have a 7 mo and prior to Covid (when he was 3 months ish) have taken him out until midnight or later, with no ill effects. Whatever works for you.

Nope! Enjoy yourselves!
DD is 18 months and currently had a bed time of 10pm (not ideal, but last four teeth coming through and sleep regression hit us at the same time) and I'd absolutely take her out to the pub if we fancied a drink!

If it was a child friendly pub there would be absolutely no judgement from me. Is think good on them. If it was a bit rough and rowdy I’d probably be wishing the baby was at home. I take my kids to the pub gardens in the summer, I don’t really drink, I may have one. But there’s always parents in the pub garden getting smashed while their kids run riot in the garden, I don’t like that very much. But what you’ve described sounds fine!!

I wouldn't bat an eyelid at your OP.

However, the update, I wouldn't be impressed by a 1 yr old dancing on the table. I don't care what age the child is, a surface that people put their food and drink on should not be used to put dirty shoes on. If your going to say he's only a baby and doesn't walk on the floor yet so shoes were clean, it's still not a great idea to encourage them to do something that in a years time you'd tell them off for. Or at least I hope you would tell a 2 yr old to get down off of a table. Likewise I hate it when kids are allowed to put their dirty shoes all over seats where people will want to sit.