AIBU to not take son on Holiday

[pinksoda35]

We have booked a few days away in North Norfolk,staying on a caravan site for myself,Partner an our two boys(13 and 6)
Ideally we wanted a Cottage with 3 bedroom's but everything we looked at was already booked up.
The Caravan we have picked is only a 2bedroom but we paid extra for a double wide..it looks nice and is local to all the places we want to visit and the beach is on our doorstep.
My 13 is now complaining saying he does not want to go,he doesn't want to share a bedroom and he thinks it will be boring.
Admittedly some of the places we have picked to go to would be more suited to his younger brother,though we would also go to places he fancied...I have asked him what he would like to do and explained all of this to him but he refuses to even engage or just walks off!
My Mum will be coming to house and pet sit so he wants to stay with her.
I feel really upset by this...his disconnect with our family is upsetting.
Just everyday things like family bike rides or dog walks he won't take part!
We are booking to go out for a curry knowing he likes it and he has now turned to us and said he doesn't want to come.
He is only happy sat on his own either on his xbox or phone..we try so hard to include him but are always met with resistance,the times we have made him come he does nothing g but moan or pick fights with his brother and it runs what should be a nice day out,which I do not want this holiday to turn out like.
So would you all let him get this way and leave him with grandma?
Or make him come and pay money for someone totally ungrateful who will do everything to show his dislike?
I am quite upset that he wants to spend so little time with us and has no interests other than gaming and YouTube.

I dont know the answer but I have the same problem with my 13 year old who is just awful at the moment. The only thing he wants to do is watch gory films and when I say his 10 year old brother cant watch them he has a strop. Im 40 on Saturday and actually dreading it because he has ruined my last 2 birthdays with his awful attitude.

Solidity, OP. I'm divorced from my DSs Dad so at least he goes there and gives us a break from the constant, draining attitude.

I would take him, if he can't behave when hes there I would tell him his xbox will be gone for x number of days which would increase for bad behaviour and decrease for good.

My DD is 16 now and loves coming away with me (she told me this when talking about me and DP going away for a weekend). But at 13/14 she could be a pain in the arse, once she was there she was fine (except one awful camping holiday and when she refused to do stuff I removed electronics and she sorted out her attitude). I dont agree that children shouldn't be heard or feelings considered but I also dont want her growing up thinking the world revolves around her.

At 13 he is made to come. He’ll enjoy it once there.

Thank you to all who took the time to read and reply.
I really would like him to come and we have had a long talk about things, agreeing that we would do things suitable for him also and that sometimes both boys would just have to put up with things the other might not enjoy!
However, He is adamant that he wants to stay with Grandma, they are very close and she will spoil him and I think they will both enjoy the time together without his little brother.
I know he does not feel left out-though I feel like this for him.
We have compromised and are going to stay at Alton Towers for a weekend which is something he wants to do before we go on the Holiday without him.
We used to do lots as a family and it is only really this last year that he decided he did not want to be involved, though we are now going to plan more things around him and he comes whether he likes it or not!!
I want everyone to be happy and this way I think they will be.
By the way the curry thing @ohcaptain was just a meal out we planned for a weekend night nothing to do with the Holiday, and we would have planned things with elder son in mind but it is hard when almost everything is geared towards the younger one.
Again thank you all.

That's a lovely update to read :) I hope things go well for you all.

I do think even if it is separate from the holiday, the Xbox time needs to be reduced.

That’s a great update @pinksoda35!

I really do get it. Mine are 14, 11, and 8! I feel your pain.

I was the same at 13 / 14. Only child though and our camping holidays consisted of walking up hills, and into boring villages where the shops didn't let you touch anything. Then to the pub for food and back to tent and in bed for 10pm. I genuinely would have rather slit my wrists than do that for 7 days, and this was before 'xbox' was the go to problem for parents. It sounds lovely you're doing the Alton Towers thing, and as he's close with granny I'm sure the pair of them and the dog will have a good time together.

Hes 13. Very normal. I make my 13 year old still come though as he enjoys it once hes there.

I would leave him home. Won't be much of a holiday for anyone if he is forced to come and sulks all week.