To tell people that my twins are five?

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Even though they technically don't turn five until November?

Dh is in a right hump about it. He thinks by me telling everybody that they are already five that it makes people place age inappropriate expectations on them. I think it's all just semantics, and those who actually need to know their real age know it. It's a bad habit I picked up from my mother, and my older children have survived me rounding their age up once their birthdays drew close with out being labelled as having additional needs, as seems to be DH's primary concern.

Is it really that big of a deal?

Months matter in the lives of young children, quite significantly. This is an extraordinarily bizarre thing to do and there is literally no point to it.

For 4 months your kids hear you describe them as the wrong age?

Irritating and pointless.

Doesn't really make any sense. If they're 4 then they're 4.

They're not 5. They're 4.

Yabu

You should should cal them 4 until their birthday. Very odd to round up when they won’t have their birthday for another 4 months

They are 4 let them be 4. They grow up way too soon!

A bit daft, just say their real ages.

6 pages of responses! OP you sound a bit loopy to be honest. What a strange thread.

Maybe they identify as being 5 in which case they are.

Eh. I don't get it. What is the benefit of this convoluted rounding up system. Why not just say they are 4, then from their 5th birthday say they are 5, and on you go?

What do the children think about this? Don't they correct you?

Isn't it rather demeaning to your daughter that her brother's birthday in February is so significant that you increment your mental count of her age on that date too, even though she's only a third of the way through her year? It must make her November birthday seem less important, when it finally rolls round.

It'll be extra weird soon with the rite-of-passage coming-of-age milestone birthdays."No, nice person who was just making conversation, I'm not having driving lessons. I will do when I actually turn seventeen in eight months' time though." "Well, thanks for offering to buy me a drink, but you'd actually be breaking the law as I won't really be eighteen until November." "No, I'm not taking my GCSEs yet. I suppose I must have been held back a year." 🙄

They are not 5 . Why place pressure on your children adding time . Plus they are NOT the ages you are making them out to be. You are teaching them it's not okay to be your age . It is wrong in different ways . Just stop it now.

I'm not lying; to me they are 5

Oh fabulous,I'm going to start saying I'm 21 then, because that's how old I am in my head!

I think (hope) you're just lockdown bored and are trolling for fun. Given your reply to @Butchyrestingface

One presumes that the OP rounds up her age too.

I bet it was an interesting conversation when the twins came home from the hospital as newborns, and OP was telling everyone they were 12 months.

I feel you are putting extra pressure on your children people expect more from a five year old than 4, but also what about things like entrance prices and public transport... you pay for 5 year olds.
Sorry i just dont get why you would do this.

Batshit. They’re 4. You’re encouraging them to lie about their age. Please don’t.

How many cats do you have?

For 4 months your kids hear you describe them as the wrong age?

No, 8 months. She does it from their sibling's birthday in March. So even more batshit.

My sons birthday is in November, i wouldn't dream of saying he's 12, he's 11. And if I did he would correct me instantly.

@Lovely13

Ex does this. It’s a Greek thing. Son for example becomes 13, he says so he’s turning 14. I say, no he’s 13. He continues to say turning 14. Because your first year you don’t have a number, I guess. 😟 Also. They didn’t do birthdays in the past. Only name days. 🤷‍♀️

But she isn't doing that which does make some sense She doesn't start rounding up until the sibling's birthday.

my df does this still-hes 75 he says to people hes not hes 74 for another 6 months-apprently im 46, no not for another 6 months

isay stop aging me all the time oh but your nearky there-its infuriating

They are 4, they are not even remotely close to being 5. Children are excited about turning a new number, you are taking this excitement and pride away from them. Such a shame to do this to your own kids.

I lied about my child's age for indoor rock climbing (put his DOB back a year) at 11. If we went back now he'd get some funny looks as he's 14, has barely hit puberty and looks 13, but he'd be 15 on their system .

ChaoticCatling really irresponsible.

A rock climbing age group would be based on what they were licenced / insured / qualified for.

YABU. Just say the ages they are!