Regular on adoption boards but also regular NC'r
DD(5 yo) has been home since the start of lockdown.
She is emotionally 18months- 2 years below her age
She is also very wilful. I have no idea if this an 'adoption thing' or an 'age thing'. If I ask her not to do something, she has to do it once more... Often while watching me.
We have a 19 year old cat who is scared of DD and DS, but the DC have, on the whole, been brilliant with her and left her alone.
Tonight DD has been in a tearful mood (another disrupted night last night)
She started stroking the cat who was visibly upset by it so I said, gently, leave the cat alone darling, look she's scared. At this point DD stroked her again.
I wasn't annoyed on behalf of the cat - I'm annoyed that she Never Bloody Listens.
I picked her up and moved her away from the cat at which point she started crying saying 'I didn't want you to do that'
I yelled 'well I didn't want you to touch the cat either but you did'
Then she started crying more and saying she wanted her birth father and birth mother (she's never done this before)
I calmed down, apologised for shouting and explained sometimes Mummy's get cross too. I said I still loved her but didn't like her when she didn't listen (I know, I know... I should have said I didn't like the behaviour)
I said I knew her missing her birth mother and father was difficult but me and DH loved her.
I feel awful. This wasn't just a raised voice, this was yelling.
Could just do with a bit of handholding.
I would put a thread on here about other issues but a recent post from a regular saying (and I'm paraphrasing) why do adoptive parents make all these promises to be really good, and then don't live up to that promise has put me off. In fact, I thought twice about this one too. But flame away if needs be!