40+ year old women posting selfies on social media - is this a new trend?

[bogeywoman]

Quite a few of my friends/acquaintances have recently started posting very posed selfies (without much in the way of a description) on FB and instagram. Women who are well into their 40s, married with children. Is this some sort of lockdown related insecurity? I find it so strange.

I'd be more trouble by having ageist, misogynist ideas about what women should and shouldn't be doing, over 40 or otherwise.

@happymealwithlegs 😂😂

Over the last few days I’ve unfollowed a few people on Instagram because they’ve suddenly started posting selfies all the time.
I follow them because I am interesting in sewing and they run small sewing businesses. I don’t want to see their faces multiple times a day. It’s very odd.

I think it is weird for anyone of any age to put very posed selfies on FB.

I thought the OP meant that women over 40 are generally smarter than the selfie obsessed, not that they should be leaving the house with a paper bag over their head!

Regardless of age, I hate selfies. To the people who said 'if it bothers you then don't follow'- fair point. I left social media because I couldn't be arsed with it all.

Someone who posts a selfie is guilty of, at worst, asking their friends to say that they look nice. It builds them up without taking anyone else down. It is not a moral issue.

Someone who takes to the internet in an attempt to start a bitchfest about these people, or who obliges, is most certainly looking to take people down to make themselves feel superior for being less vain, attention seeking or whatever silly moralistic labels they have decided to slap on to selfies.

And there's nothing at all weird about it. It is literally the entire point of social media: to express yourself and share information that you want to share. Might not be your thing but stop acting like it's a weird and inexplicable phenomenon.

I'm writing them down in case I inadvertently offend someone
Dont bother! Just live your life as happily as you can

I was a bit tongue in cheek, I'm not really writing them down - luckily I don't give a flying fuck what others think of me and I'll carry on

I'm early 30s I personally don't take selfies. However if you want to then go for it. I certainly don't think your gender or age is relevant. I wish we could somehow stop with this horrid view that women over 40 are some how pasted it. Most of the people who do it on my social media are around my age I don't have a problem with it and certainly don't think they should stop if it makes them happy.

*I'm writing them down in case I inadvertently offend someone
Dont bother! Just live your life as happily as you can

I was a bit tongue in cheek, I'm not really writing them down - luckily I don't give a flying fuck what others think of me and I'll carry on I know! I was havng a laugh back with you saying to people" hate me now for the things I do and I'm OVER 50!!!

Tip: You know, if you put your finger on the screen and do a little upward flicking motion, it SCROLLS PAST the selfies. And the BEE who offended a PP.

And it's much kinder than all this bitching and cat's bottom mouthing and competitive priggishness.

You're welcome.

I'm OVER 50!!!

That's even worse, shouldn't you be in a rocking chair with your pipe and slippers or knitting at that age shouting at clouds or something?!

Before I was 30, married and with a child I was like that because my shallow self back then wanted to be liked especially by men. Now I see so many women and men in their late 30's and early 40's doing it, some divorced, some married or in long term relationships. Maybe I will go back to it as well but for now no. Yes it is weird and looks desperate to me tbh and in fact I hid all my photos from before because I looked so desperate to be out there and it's very cringe .

@Newbiehere123

Before I was 30, married and with a child I was like that because my shallow self back then wanted to be liked especially by men. Now I see so many women and men in their late 30's and early 40's doing it, some divorced, some married or in long term relationships. Maybe I will go back to it as well but for now no. Yes it is weird and looks desperate to me tbh and in fact I hid all my photos from before because I looked so desperate to be out there and it's very cringe .

Ok, that's why you did it. Why do you think that's why others do it?

and in fact I hid all my photos from before because I looked so desperate to be out there and it's very cringe

the fact you're hiding old pictures of yourself sounds like you still have self confidence issues going on - just because you in your own words were doing it as you wanted to be liked, why assume that's why everyone does it?
Maybe they're just confident in themselves? Nowt wrong with that

The cheek of them! They should slither off into invisibility at 39!

I am 60. I post selfies. Clearly I am a BAD PERSON.

It is weird and narcissistic

Rembrandt created an awful lot of selfies. What an arsehole!

Before I was 30, married and with a child I was like that because my shallow self back then wanted to be liked especially by men. Now I see so many women and men in their late 30's and early 40's doing it, some divorced, some married or in long term relationships. Maybe I will go back to it as well but for now no. Yes it is weird and looks desperate to me tbh and in fact I hid all my photos from before because I looked so desperate to be out there and it's very cringe

Don’t judge others by your own standards

Gosh op, fancy having to see those images of married women over 40 - sending thoughts and prayers to you as you deal with this.

We once asked a woman to take a family shot of us in the park with my phone. She somehow flipped the image and when I looked she had taken three very unflattering selfies of herself

Not relevant I know.

Not getting the over 40 angle really. Women can look hot at that age-really beautiful. The fact is copious selfies at any age is cringe worthy, let's leave it there.

Oh for gods sakes

Are we not permitted then ??

I sort of agree in a way as I am tired of being on FB groups with all these fishing for compliments Then and Now photos . People have rightly told these (Mainly) Women to keep it to their own feed .
But why people over 40 cannot post selfies to SM I do not know .
You have a darn cheek to be honest.

It is weird and narcissistic

Just the over 40s or anyone who posts a Selfie ?

I took the most selfies when my ex was being unfaithful to me. In retrospect I can see I was craving the likes and the validation as my self-esteem was on the floor due to his behaviour. It gratified me that he could see other men liking and commenting too, which is juvenile really.

That was about 7 years ago and I haven't changed hardly at all physically but rarely bother with them now, if a nice photo is taken of me and my friends or family that's great but I don't feel the need to take a load of selfies, select the best, edit it or filter it etc. I don't think it's a coincidence that I'm so much happier now.

Saying that I don't judge, you never know what people are going through behind the 'everything is perfect' SM facade.

@LemonadeAndDaisyChains that's the whole point of social media isn't it?