Urgent DH refused Annual Leave for next 2 weeks.

[booboo57]

Works starts on house on Monday. Two weeks leave requested over a month ago. Just got message that next week is full so cant have it off. Make a fuss or just call in sick?
He a trainer but since Covid he's been working nights which he hates. He was in tears with the stress of it all. Dont know what to advise.

@Ellisandra thanks for pointing out I should read all 10 pages of a thread and not assume all the facts were in the opening post that was emailed to me .

Same here.
There is an atmosphere of victim blaming and nastiness, an air of superiority rather than support. I’m off too.

Most of our annual leave requests are put in 12 months in advance

@Russ2017 why would you have to read a 10 page thread when there is a handy “see all” option to read the OP’s threads? You don’t think that in 11 OP posts (which hardly take long to read) there might be info that 10 pages in, might be worth reading to answer your question?

Even the OP itself suggests a change in role. It’s not explicit that the move to nights (in first post) precludes training, but it’s a big old red flag that something has changed, so it’s worth taking the minimal time to read the OP’s posts before commenting.

Just read this post through. I'm glad OP that things now seem to be getting sorted. Yiu are absolutely right about your husband needing to be rested and well, to be safe in his line of work. I have a relative who was in the same job (HGV) and was killed in an accident. So without going into upsetting details, I can completely understand what you mean there.
Also it is horrible how nasty some people an be about a man showing emotion, but also not getting why he would be upset. It's fairly obvious really, and I'm sure we would all feel the same in your husband's position. I hope the call back from his manager is positive, and at least now you know how he has been feeling all this time.

Very high stress levels here ...in tears? Hes either generally in need of some psych intervention or needs to frame up. If he is in need of help he needs to notify his HR and GP. Should he be driving at all? I wonder if that's what your asking as it does seem on face value this is a very basic every day problem .My night working daughter sleeping in neighbours shed while her roof is being done ( she loves it)

@Ellisandra possibly because I’m new to the site and not aware of the see all option. Agree with the others , lot of unnecessary snide remarks on here that are just not needed. I won’t be back either.

With all due respect Bettyboo, your daughter being happy with her personal situation is completely irrelevant. Your daughter's job is very likely to be completely different to the OP's husband's job as a HGV driver, and we don't know if there are any other factors which would make his situation even more stressful for him. It isn't an every day thing that happens either. It's in fact a really unprofessional thing for an employer to do, and his union have advised him on this. The stress that he would be under is incredible. You literally have no idea about the effects of his line of work, and the hours and the intensity of the job.

My night working daughter sleeping in neighbours shed while her roof is being done ( she loves it)

And the price of Lapsang Souchong in China is 4.3 kuai/ 30 servings.

I hope he gets sorted OP. He sounds very, very stressed and hopefully his company will realise they are about to lose a good performer to either stress or a job move.

If he's crying with the stress of it all, he needs to get signed off. Finito! Do they have an Occupational Health Department he could consult?

If he requested leave he should have had a more prompt response not stringing him along/messing him about.... ad infinitum.
The company is either extraordinarily inept or deliberately malicious/doesn't value their workers.
Hang the company, life's too short to be crying about work. Does he have union representation?

Good on you sounds like you may be sorted.
Everyone is under pressure atm , having lost sooo much control over our lives duding the present sad situation.
Having worked nights for years its quite extraordinary how altered / irregular sleeping patterns can affect your mood and resilience.
Good luck

"during" even ....doh

Ellisandra "See All "is a premium facility only!

'see all' isn't premium. It's there at the bottom of each of the OP's post.

You don't have to RTFT but the least you can do is read the OP's updates.

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I dont have Premium and I can use the "see all" function so it is definitely not a Premium exclusive feature.

I'm a Hgv driver. My boss also uses agency workers when people are on holiday. But being a small business they have a policy of only 2 drivers off at a time which I think is fair.
Agency drivers are fine but also I suspect expensive to businesses and they also take time getting up to speed with how regular customers work.
I would also advise your husband not to jump ship quite so fast as places are quiet and drivers are worried about redundancies when I've spoken to them.

@cuparfullit definitely not premium as I don’t have that.
Even before it appeared, you could have OP posts in a different colour, and if you’re new and don’t know that yet, you can scroll through and see the names.