Greedy teenager

[Brownthomas]

I remember being a teenager and I was very self centered & preoccupatied.

Our 15 year old is out of control with food. He is average weight etc but needs to eat everything in the house.

Today I asked him not to eat the food for his brothers birthday party this week, but I didn’t mention the drinks .,,, I’ve just found a 12 pack of Capri sun demolished in his bedroom.

They don’t even that good I have to specifically ask him or else he eats all the food in the house

It’s a teenage boy thing I’m afraid. My 15 almost 16 year old is the same. Needs to be specifically told or we have to hide it.

Yeah, that's a shitty thing to do, presumably he knew they were for the party. My brother used to do stuff like that and Mum had to hide things like biscuits. She told me where they were because she knew I could be trusted not to overdo it - and I am a big eater myself - but my brother had a habit of going through packs of stuff very quickly. And it didn't stop when he grew up, he was living with Mum before she and my stepdad moved in and treats would always disappear. The bastard ate a piece of birthday cake Mum had saved for me one year. I was not pleased.

@mathanxiety my eldest son is in Uni and he has become a fantastic cook. He sends me pictures of the stuff he makes. When he comes home he does all the cooking and even has eyes for a bargain. I'm pleased he eats healthy I was worried he'd live off baked beans😁

@Brownthomas
Forgot to add at end of post that if he is taking food drink meant for others I don't agree with that but teenage boys do have big appetites is there healthy snacks/cereal for when he is hungry? We weren't allowed snacks growing up and the feeling of hunger is horrible.
When my son was/is home there's a cupboard that has healthy snacks , cereals etc that he is welcome to and if he uses something up he writes down that we need it. But we also have other stuff that he knows he asks for before taking. Do you think you could do something like that.

@corythatwas

Those who say it's totally normal boy behaviour to take everything of something, even if that leaves other people without, would you be happy for your boys to display this totally normal boy behaviour outside of the family? At a party? When staying with friends? At grandma's? What would it be like to be the girl in a family where somebody else grabbing all the treats is seen as totally normal for a boy? Would you just expect them to shrug their shoulders and accept that boys are like this?

I am speaking from my own experience of being the only girl in a family of teen boys. My eldest brother was a gannet and if left to his own devices all the treats would have disappeared down his throat leaving nothing for me. My parents came down on his behaviour like a tonne of bricks to make sure that myself and our smaller brother got our share of treats too. It was good for me to see that my needs still mattered though I wasn't a boy, and it was good for him to be socialised into good behaviour.

They pointed out perfectly reasonably that actual hunger can be assuaged by filling but boring food. In fact, there were fewer treats all round in those days and teenagers didn't starve to death: they just filled up on food items instead.

This!

[quote Brownthomas]@EggBoxes I haven’t yet as he’s still asleep! We won’t see him until around 2.

I’m usually very tolerant of his sleeping and eating. I buy extra foods that he likes so he can’t be hungry.

My gripe is that he took a huge amount of something that he knew was not for him. He ate all the doughnuts knowing they were for the family. He drank all the Capri suns knowing they were for the party. To bring a whole box up to his room is bad behaviour.

He’s not a difficult teen but he would be very selfish with food. For example when I ordered Chinese food last week he tried to order two main courses for himself. He was really put out when I told him the day he’s paying he can two main courses

It’s greed[/quote]
You are absolutely right. It's pure greed. A word that seems to have fallen out of use among a lot of euphemisms.

@Brownthomas how much of your story is true? In your first post you said it was a 12 pack of capri sun but later you remembered it as 10 then again in your first post you said you told him not to touch party food which he didn't but you clearly said you didn't mention the drinks but in following post you said you did tell him not to touch them. If you're getting confused writing down what happened you might have got mixed up telling him. Also cones off your not happy with him so he might not be asking for things maybe because coming to you he'll be told he's being greedy and no he can't have them. Next time maybe put down one story not different versions. I feel sorry for the poor boy.

@Astrid09 you’re weird
Of all the threads to find unbelievable - one about a teenager drinking too much is hardly troll catching!

He was asked not to eat the party food. I didn’t mention the drinks.
He took all the drinks that were kept with the party food.
It’s a 10 pack of Capri sun.
Two boxes were finished over 1 afternoon & evening by him.
He has no problem asking for food - even if I’m eating it!
This is not a shy, starving, deprived, in loved teenager

OP, my 15yr old goes crazy over sugary food

I never bought them fizzy drinks as kids, but the other day I bought 2 bottles of lucozade (1ltr bottles) and he drank both in an hour

My 17 yr old is much more restrained, they grow out of the sugar-greed

Back to buying cheap squash again

He should not be so selfish though and needs to be corrected. We have a few rules about food, mainly “you have to leave enough for other people in the house”

He’ll learn

My 17 year old are normally till he turned 16 - then it just got ridiculous, he eats a huge amount of good - it’s hard to believe how much and how often - it’s like a plague of locusts hit the fridge - I would say he eats about 6-7 large meals a day - he’s very slim. Not sure when it ends but we find it both shocking and funny and sometimes bloody annoying - the kitchen is always a mess!

You don't drink a load of capri suns because you're hungry.

You'd do that if you were bored, greedy, selfish...something else but not to stop being hungry.

@Brownthomas I'm not weird I was pointing out how your story kept changing and it has again because you said in first post that he drank them all at once now it's a afternoon and evening which is still a lot but not as bad as one after the other. I've made that point so I'm not making any more comments.

[quote Astrid09]@Brownthomas I'm not weird I was pointing out how your story kept changing and it has again because you said in first post that he drank them all at once now it's a afternoon and evening which is still a lot but not as bad as one after the other. I've made that point so I'm not making any more comments.[/quote]
20 Capri sun in one day IS a lot!