To drink alcohol whilst awaiting termination

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Found out I was pregnant yesterday which came as a complete shock as I’ve got a coil fitted. DH and I categorically do not want any children so sadly we will be terminating the pregnancy (and changing to a more reliable form of birth control!). After finding out the news I immediately contacted my local clinic and am booked in on Monday to start the process. It’s very early so thankfully I haven’t yet noticed any symptoms of pregnancy except for the one missed period. DH and I are out celebrating a friend’s birthday this evening and we’d booked a hotel nearby so that we could both have a drink. I’ve never been in this situation before so I’m not really sure how I should be thinking or feeling. Would it be unreasonable of me to drink whilst pregnant, as I have no intention of proceeding with the pregnancy?

I don't see why not. Alcohol is a problem in later pregnancy as it damages the liver of the foetus but if you are not planning on keeping it then I think a glass of wine (or two) to deal with the stress of the situation is fine!!

Have a drink, if you don’t intend to continue the pregnancy then there’s nothing to stop you.

I think you need a drink. It’s a weird time, but definitely have one. Be warned though... it does make it feel more “real”.... sorry 😐

Do whatever helps you get through it. Good luck 💐

Not at all.

I'd just be worried that after a few drinks it might make you emotional (the alcohol) I'd go and enjoy your night and hotel but maybe not overdo it (I mean this coming from a good place and hope that comes across)

As you're not continuing the pregnancy there's no reason not to have a few drinks with your friends this evening. You've made your decision, you're still allowed to enjoy yourself. Hope all goes ok

Of course not. Knock it back op. Sorry you're in this position.

If you’ve decided to terminate and you’re sure of that decision then I don’t see what reason there is to stop you drinking.

I would only be a bit wary due to the affect that alcohol can have on me emotionally. But you know how it affects you and whether or not it could be a problem. Have a good night.

No reason why not. Enjoy your night.

Even if you ended up continuing the pregnancy (which I'm not advocating, just saying is a possibility) one night on the alcohol isn't actually going to affect the pregnancy.

From an ethical point I see no issue, but have you checked with the clinic regards to alcohol consumption prior to the procedure just in case there's any interaction between the 2?

I mean honestly it sounds like you are in the stage of pregnancy where lots of women don't know they are pregnant and have big nights out only to find out two or three weeks later they had been pregnant during it!

Yes to drinks, it will hopefully take your mind off things now.

Is there any way to check with your abortion provider? Alcohol can make you more prone to blood loss, which may complicate your recovery. Otherwise I don't see what harm a few drinks could do.

I'm really sorry

Anything that makes this easier is fine.

If you’re an emotional person then it’s probably best to avoid it. Physically there’s not really a reason why you shouldn’t. As pp mentioned, alcohol thins the blood and can make blood loss worse if you’re having a procedure that day/the day after. As you’re drinking tonight though I think you should be fine by Monday

If you don't want children then why doesn't he get a vasectomy. Why fuck up your system with drugs and the coil.

sorry I pressed the wrong button! Please ignore at least one of the YABU votes

Have a drink