To drink alcohol whilst awaiting termination

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Found out I was pregnant yesterday which came as a complete shock as I’ve got a coil fitted. DH and I categorically do not want any children so sadly we will be terminating the pregnancy (and changing to a more reliable form of birth control!). After finding out the news I immediately contacted my local clinic and am booked in on Monday to start the process. It’s very early so thankfully I haven’t yet noticed any symptoms of pregnancy except for the one missed period. DH and I are out celebrating a friend’s birthday this evening and we’d booked a hotel nearby so that we could both have a drink. I’ve never been in this situation before so I’m not really sure how I should be thinking or feeling. Would it be unreasonable of me to drink whilst pregnant, as I have no intention of proceeding with the pregnancy?

Notredamn Back at ya.

@IsAnybodyListening

Notredamn Your stance is yours. And mine is my own. In my teens and twenties I thought like you. Late 30's now and I don't have the same perspective in terms of certain reasoning for abortion. I will not apologise for that. I hope the OP is fine, i really do.

If you really hoped that you’d have kept your snidey thoughts to yourself in the first place, really, wouldn’t you?

IsAnybodyListening Whats your aim on this thread?

I am a teetotaler and not a fan of alcohol, so wouldn't generally "encourage" boozing as such. I also struggled to conceive for years and so can't actually imagine an unwanted pregnancy.

But, as some posters have failed to understand, this is not about me. My personal choices on abortions have nothing to do with the OP and she doesn't share my view on alcohol.

So OP I would say I'm sorry you've found yourself in this situation, you should go out tonight and enjoy yourself exactly as you wish, and make sure you pay no attention to the judgemental people who apparently have never had sex without 5 forms or contraception 🙄

Of course you can have a drink, enjoy yourself and take care xxx

@IsAnybodyListening so don’t have an abortion if you are ever faced with an unwanted pregnancy.

I had numerous miscarriages and struggled to conceive my beautiful children but I have chosen to terminate an unplanned pregnancy after a contraception failure. It is my right to chose and I am so happy to be able to have that choice.

Good luck OP. Have a drink

I imagine people are being shitty because it's an emotive subject for some. there are many people on here who are ttc

Then don't read the thread. Whether a random person is ttc, is nothing to do with the ops situation

Choose*

Nicknacky I don't have an aim!? This thread is beginning to look like a parallel of a GC being bastardised in a boardroom. Honestly. OP posted a thread. I'm in the minority. Fair do's. Nothing else to say. I've said it. Good luck to the OP.

IsAnybodyListening If you don’t have an aim then give it a rest. The op is doing nothing wrong.

If your issue is her having a drink then just say that.

Drink yourself silly (as long as it's not against the hospital's preoperative procedure advice)

Hope it goes well

When I was pregnant with the coil in I didn't realise as I kept bleeding, but I couldn't drink. I threw up after a glass of wine, so don't be surprised if that happens. I went to 16 weeks before miscarrying. It was only then that I found out I was pregnant. People need to put into context that coil failure rarely ends with a viable pregnancy and a later miscarriage is awful.

Here's my two pennies worth. You seem quite certain that you do not want this pregnancy. Yet you also say that, sadly, you will be terminating. And you are also concerned about the effect of alcohol? Do you think that you may just need a few extra days to get your mind around this? It seems very quick. Only finding out yesterday to having a termination on Monday.

I agree with @Arthersleep.

I do know 2 people who changed her mind at the last moment, so on that basis I think YABU, but in principal I suppose YANBU.

The fact that you're asking makes me wonder if you will also make a different decision at crunch time, so to speak.

Have a drink op. Ignore the tits commenting on contraception. You didn’t know it was gonna fail and you’re obviously gonna look for alternatives. Not that that was even what you were asking.

IsAnybodyListening Whats your aim on this thread?

To be judgemental 🤷‍♂️

Why would you even post about this ?

Yeah it’s fine.
I didn’t find out I was pregnant for months, and actually got trashed on Christmas Eve and NYE. And that was with a baby I had planned. (I kept having periods)
You’ll be fine, although I’ve heard you can few drink quicker.

I wouldnt wqnt a hqngover, as mine would last until Monday.

You're having an abortion and you're worried that alcohol might harm the foetus?

That’s not what the op said at all.

Do whatever feels right and will be a help and comfort to you OP. Don't feel like you have to drink so as not to waste the hotel.

Sending you supportive vibes and

At this point the tiny clump of cells is nowhere near being a foetus with any kind of sentience. The only person feeling sick or ill will be OP when she's hungover the next morning.

You have nothing to feel guilty about OP.

@formerbabe I was giving reasons why some might be writing shitty comments lol......wasnt talking about myself was I, if you're looking for an argument plenty of comments on here to pick up and give an attitude to