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It’s like living in a gaming cafe

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gamerout · 18/07/2020 15:56

2 kids primary age. One game obsessed DH. All they want to do is game. I do sometimes get stuck in but I’d like to do other things with the weekend. I feel like I’m lonely and constantly juggling PlayStation gaming boys/man. Friday eves are game night. Saturday is game day. Sunday I might get them out for a walk. I just wondered how other people handle this? Does it not bother you and you just get on with your own thing 24/7? I have hobbies and pre-pandemic went to the gym/friends on my own a lot. But I’ll be honest, I didn’t have a family to spend all my time doing stuff alone at the weekends and vying against minecraft for my kids/husbands attention. How on earth do I get to the point where there’s some fair balance in the house. During lockdown they’ve been on screens sometimes 12 hours a day. I get moods if I ask them to come off. They just aren’t interested in doing anything else with me because everything else is boring. If my DH stops playing and insists “everyone out for a bike ride” then they’ll do it but it takes for him to do that which makes me feel powerless and just inconsequential as a person in our family. I’m not quite sure what I’m supposed to expect out of family life or if this is normal. I see other people with their kids going for days to the beach or woodland walks and quite frankly it’s just tiring trying to persuade reluctant people all the time. I’m just at a loss. I feel like I should leave my DH and find somebody who isn’t into gaming so at least I’ve got somebody I can hang out with on the weekends!!

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Beachcomber74 · 19/07/2020 21:42

This is so depressing. Do you all eat together? Make a plan to meet some friends and their kids in the park and get the kids outside. Leave you DH to fry his own brain but it’s your responsibility to protect your children.

JRUIN · 19/07/2020 22:14

Why aren't you more worried about the colossal amount of time your young kids are spending gaming? It's so bad for them to spend so much doing nothing else but this. Your lazy husband is a terrible father and an awful husband. Chuck him out, you and your kids would be much better off with him gone.

SeaEagleFeather · 19/07/2020 22:41

Gaming is an addicts drug. Its as bad for him and your kids as if he was sitting down drinking wine all day, every day.

well no, alcohol has some dreadful physical effects and can create more direct abuse of others, including physical.

But this sort of parenting by him is a mix of neglectful and abusive, yes.
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... you know, you're right. Even an alcoholic parent doesn't encourage their 8yo to drink vodka 12 hours in the day.

OhioOhioOhio · 21/07/2020 13:40

It's worse than wine. At least a drunk wakes up. My xh is a computer addict and his sense of reality is completely fkd.

GoodDogBellaBoo · 24/07/2020 14:51

How is it going this weekend @gamerout?

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