"I don't know why i never put weight on because i eat alot" comment is just being smug?

[SummerPeonies]

lighthearted

Or am i being unfair?

Boring!

This is the garbage I had to put up with ex work colleagues.
“You won’t always be that skinny”
“I was like you then I put on loads of weight”

Whilst eating a hefty salad from Tesco - “you enjoy your 600 calorie meal” - I will babe, don’t worry yourself!

I’ve never gone over 8 stone, even when I was pregnant. Some people are just slim. It’s not a crime. It’s life. Some gain weight, some don’t. Some have to diet, some don’t. You can’t base yourself on 7billion people with different lives, different diets and different genetics. /:

Exactly bodged, but have a look at the "being fat is a choice", a lot of people hate that there are these variances as it does not suit their narrative of fat person = fat, lazy, unable to control their portions, don't eat like thin people etc etc (with the usual caveat of illnesses and meds etc).

I struggle to lose weight, eat soup for lunch and dinner, portion control excellent, do not snack, rarely drink alcohol - like once a month tops, exercise like mad - 9-10 hours a week, every day, I lose a pound a month at most. However went on holiday for 5 days and put on a stone (2 stone but 1 stone came off overnight as that was water, the stone took ages to lose again) . But like you, it can't be true, Apparently.

Ps no bad feeling to the naturally slim, mild jealousy, but take your luck where it comes I say 😊.

I am mid 40's eat a huge amount, some days well over 3000 calories (most of it junk too) and I am 5 7" and weight about 8 stone

While I eat a lot and always have I eat differently to most people. My first food of the day is about 2/3 and I only eat for about 6 hours of the day. Drink wine too at the weekends.
I remember thinking I ate a lot but once while away with a overweight friend I realized I didn't compared to her. She had a massive icecream on the beach at 10.30 and I remember thinking I would never do that. She ate a full pie when we got home from a night out at 2.30, I wouldn't do that either. She says she doesn't eat much but I think for most people they vastly under estimate what they eat and until they write down every morsel that enters their mouth they don't see it.

Is the being fat is a choice thread still there? It disappeared from my threads and I thought it had been deleted but not sure why.

[quote Lostinbooksandcoffee]@SoftBlocks
It's not always said out of smugness. For me it's me feeling like I have to defend myself.
I've been told I look anorexic, too skinny, ill, and so on, including 'you need to eat!' I'm a size 8-10 so a bloody healthy weight but these comments are from relatives who are slightly overweight. I then feel like I have to defend myself because I do actually have 3 good meals a day, which include lasagne and macaroni cheese. I love cheese and chocolate. And yet they assume I live off half a lettuce leaf a day, so yes, it's usually in response to these comments because it makes me feel like shit.[/quote]
I can relate to that except replace ''relatives'' with ''everyone I meet for the first time''.

I'm very skinny (I have described myself in another thread so will not repeat that here) and eat a lot.

When I say ''I can eat a lot and stay the same'' - I'm not being smug, I'm actually upset as been trying to put on weight for a long time (think decades).

@workshy44 it is odd how you’re listing what your overweight friend eats but avoiding mentioning what you eat, which is 3000 calories and mostly junk.

I lost a lot of weight years ago by eating bucket loads of fruit, salad and vegetables plus obviously healthy carbs and protein. So yes technically I was eating a lot but the food I was eating was very low calorie.

I only mentioned it as a contrast to how I would eat (yet stay thin)
So basically 3 packets of crisps a day, three bars of chocolate, bread, cheese, biscuits, could easily eat half a pack in one sitting. Don't have a big lunch though - my main eating is between 6- 7.30 where I basically don't stop
Weekends take aways

The two women I knew who said this actually ate very little (to the point of eating disorders). One was particularly weird, she'd order these big plates of food (think steak and chips) then spend the meal cutting up and pushing it around her plate whilst commenting on what a big appetite she had. About two chips would actually make it into her mouth. Then having mashed and left it she'd order dessert then leave that too.

As PP have said, it isn't smug, just true for some people. It was true for me until I turned 50. I could honestly eat anything and lots of it so when people asked how I remained so slim I would reply with something like your title.
I didn't mean it smugly, more just to say it wasn't anything I did, just the way I was made. I couldn't give helpful advice because I never had to think about weight, or about food with anything but pleasure.
Then I turned 50, and my DM and DGM's warnings came true. Apparently genetically predisposed to pile on weight, mostly around the middle, with the menopause. So now I do have to think, and I can give advice!

But eating between 6am to 7.30pm is 13.5 hours not 6? I can’t see how a massive ice cream at 10.30am is worse than 3 chocolate bars and 3 packets of crisps?

^ to @workshy44

6 in the evening. So I eat from 2-3 in the afternoon until about 7.30. Apparently it works as you have 18/19 hours where you have no food at all.
It is the only reason I can see how I have remained thin as I have gotten older. She would eat throughout the day and late at night so again I am presuming this is why she has struggled with her weight.
it was just a contrast to show while I am one of those people "who eats a lot and stays thin" I also don't eat like a normal person

Ps no bad feeling to the naturally slim, mild jealousy, but take your luck where it comes I say 😊.

I've been slim all my life I eat well and exercise a lot. I had cancer at an early age and have a rare gene mutation which means I have a v. high chance of getting a recurrence. We all have issues to deal with and I doubt anyone is jealous of my crappy genes.

Naturally slim my arse. If anyone ate like them they'd be slim, too.

@MynameisHappind

Naturally slim my arse. If anyone ate like them they'd be slim, too.

Yes. This.

I am in my 40s, 2DC, still pretty much the same size I was in my 20s and eat generally what I feel like. I really do just put it down to luck.

I eat three meals a day, although lunch is usually a fairly small meal if I'm at work. I usually snack once or twice a day - a packet of crisps, a biscuit or two, some dark chocolate or cheese and crackers. I do have a sweet tooth so I try not to buy too much that will tempt me but we often have biscuits and cakes at work and I always seem to be the person that eats most.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe I eat quite small portions? It's hard to compare as I don't often eat out or alongside people outside my family. I certainly eat a much smaller portion than DH but he cycles to work which is 14 miles a day whereas I go by car. I wouldn't really know what other people's portions look like. I don't think I eat noticeably less than friends when I go to their houses for dinner. Thinking about it, I eat a similar sized portion to my good friend who battles with her weight. I remember going to dinner at her house when she was on a diet once and she gave me half a salmon fillet and some green veg and I was starving.

I certainly don't feel smug about my size. I'm not particularly blessed in the looks department! Oh well, I'll keep eating as I do and doubtless at some point in the next few years I will pile on the pounds.

I have a very slim tall sister who enjoys showing how much she can eat. Pilling her plate high at buffets etc. All the overweight members of the family comment on how 'lucky' she is to be able to eat so much and stay so slim. I know she is bulimic.

*piling

Depends how the person says it. If they say it smugly, it's smug.

But I imagine some slim people might say this in order to assure me that they don't deserve praise for having achieved slimness. And therefore I might not feel bad about myself for being overweight. I would think, "That person finds it easy to stay slim and I don't. It isn't some moral superiority on their part, so it is not a failing on my part that I find it hard to get slim." So I think this could be a very empathetic thing to say, but it depends on the spirit in which it was intended.

This was me before kids. Never got it back after pregnancy!

Hmmmmm I am not one of these, however, I have always thought I am less fat than I deserve to be, considering. DH eats a fair bit at meal times and after the dcs go to best yet he is very slim, but he doesn't really snack very much during the day.

I'll go with YABU, as some people genuinely do eat more than much larger people seem to. I actually don't know that many overweight people (other than myself ), but I do know one who is always on diets, doesn't seem to eat much at all and is still pretty heavy.