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Original poster

to just do the thing that DD said?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:31

Because I said yes and then realised I had tuned her out?

She is 9, lovely, sweet and not a piss taker. We talk a lot but I do tune a fair bit out, especially since the Apocalypse. I have 6 kids, you kind of have to do this to survive. Its not that I dont care but there really is only so much you can take in!

So today we had a chat and then I was ..... fuck it. I was on MN. And I got the noise but not the words and then she said "Can we do that when lockdown is over?" So I said yes as I couldnt bear to ask her wtf I was agreeing to. And now she is planning "it". Whatever the hell "it" is!

I mentioned it to mum on the phone and she came up with all sorts of ways to find out what it is, but I am thinking we should just do it. A) to assuage my guilt and B) because it could be fun!

I was also thinking that I make her project manager so if its a home based thing she gives me a shopping list and if its out and about she gives me directions.....

What do we think?

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katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:33

I'm a bit confused... Did you just say yes to agree with your 9 year old without knowing what she wanted?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:34

Pretty much!

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katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:34

Because I've got a 9 year old and I dread to think what you've just signed up to.

katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:35

I wish you luck... You're gonna need it.

Weenurse · 12/07/2020 01:35

This could be fun

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:35

Because I wasnt listening and I felt bad,

It may be something to do with Mister Maker as she has been rewatching them, and was quite excited about the idea she had.....

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Sugarplumfairy65 · 12/07/2020 01:36

Put your phone down and listen to your kids. Thank fuck that when mine were young there were no mobile phones and social media!

katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:36

The last thing I subconsciously agreed to by my 9 year old was being pretty much buried alive so she could learn about photosynthesis... Tell her she dreamt about your agreement

Lightofthephoenix · 12/07/2020 01:36

I hate those moments

Hopefully your mum can just ask if DD has anything nice planned for later on this month/next month.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:37

Oh shit.

Just read that back. Its going to be expensive and probably messy isnt it?

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katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:37

Disclaimer* I was cleaning my oven, not on my phone... Just so any perfect parents know

GrumpyHoonMain · 12/07/2020 01:38

Be honest that you don’t remember, apologise for being distracted , and ask her to repeat her request. If it’s reasonable then of course you should do it but she’s 9 years old - so you need to be the adult here and find out what her request is.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:38

@Sugarplumfairy65

Put your phone down and listen to your kids. Thank fuck that when mine were young there were no mobile phones and social media!
My eldest is 30 this year..... I tuned him out sometimes too!

I dont do it often, honest!

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katie43210 · 12/07/2020 01:38

Yes. And it may hurt

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 01:39

@GrumpyHoonMain

Be honest that you don’t remember, apologise for being distracted , and ask her to repeat her request. If it’s reasonable then of course you should do it but she’s 9 years old - so you need to be the adult here and find out what her request is.
I was thinking of saying to her "You know that plan? Can you tell me again because I forgot some of it"

I wont say no, but at least I will be forewarned!

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ThisMustBeMyDream · 12/07/2020 01:48

Fuck I do this all the time. My son has autism and adhd, and he goes on and on and on and on and I just can't understand his wittetings. I've agreed to more shit than I care to ever admit to. Then had to extract myself out of.

He actually has a talent for slyly getting shit out of me. 😬

TigerDroveAgain · 12/07/2020 01:51

It might be something perfectly innocuous

But if not I’d bet you have slightly better negotiating skills than a 9 year old

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/07/2020 02:00

@TigerDroveAgain

It might be something perfectly innocuous

But if not I’d bet you have slightly better negotiating skills than a 9 year old

Yeah, you'd think.....but after 30 years of being beaten down by the little basta.....darlings, not so much...
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sofan · 12/07/2020 02:09

GrinI have the same problem! They talk so much at times

Mothership4two · 12/07/2020 02:22

If it were one of mine I would just ask her because I had forgotten what it was. My kids wouldn't be offended

Then stand back, keep your fingers crossed, and hopefully it's something harmless, age appropriate and inexpensive! Grin

Monty27 · 12/07/2020 02:47

Ask her to write a shopping list for it and take it from there Grin
Do keep us posted and good luck Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/07/2020 03:15

Take her for a long walk. That always gets mine blabbing about her plans.

user1473878824 · 12/07/2020 03:18

@Sugarplumfairy65

Put your phone down and listen to your kids. Thank fuck that when mine were young there were no mobile phones and social media!
If only everyone was more like you....
LunaNorth · 12/07/2020 03:21

You’re so getting a puppy...

Coyoacan · 12/07/2020 03:27

hahaha.

And the pedant telling you how to be a perfect mother is the icing on the cake