to just do the thing that DD said?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Because I said yes and then realised I had tuned her out?

She is 9, lovely, sweet and not a piss taker. We talk a lot but I do tune a fair bit out, especially since the Apocalypse. I have 6 kids, you kind of have to do this to survive. Its not that I dont care but there really is only so much you can take in!

So today we had a chat and then I was ..... fuck it. I was on MN. And I got the noise but not the words and then she said "Can we do that when lockdown is over?" So I said yes as I couldnt bear to ask her wtf I was agreeing to. And now she is planning "it". Whatever the hell "it" is!

I mentioned it to mum on the phone and she came up with all sorts of ways to find out what it is, but I am thinking we should just do it. A) to assuage my guilt and B) because it could be fun!

I was also thinking that I make her project manager so if its a home based thing she gives me a shopping list and if its out and about she gives me directions.....

What do we think?

A puppy was my first thought too. DC1 has been literally begging on her knees for one for the last few weeks, though in fairness, has been regularly asking for one since age 4!

I agreed to make lemonade without realising it today as I was distracted. It was only when my 9 year old asked if the co op sold them and could we get some tomorrow that I realised what I’d agreed to!

My 7yo witters on and on and on sometimes. I do actually tell them that I'm not listening because they're wittering (same for the 12yo) and if it's important to just tell me again.

I think you need to ask her to remind you what you've agreed to, because you got distracted and can't remember exactly.

And then you need to re-think whether or not you actually can do it - without actually refusing, you could potentially modify the activity.

And in future be honest that you weren't listening!

@PyongyangKipperbang

Because I said yes and then realised I had tuned her out?

She is 9, lovely, sweet and not a piss taker. We talk a lot but I do tune a fair bit out, especially since the Apocalypse. I have 6 kids, you kind of have to do this to survive. Its not that I dont care but there really is only so much you can take in!

So today we had a chat and then I was ..... fuck it. I was on MN. And I got the noise but not the words and then she said "Can we do that when lockdown is over?" So I said yes as I couldnt bear to ask her wtf I was agreeing to. And now she is planning "it". Whatever the hell "it" is!

I mentioned it to mum on the phone and she came up with all sorts of ways to find out what it is, but I am thinking we should just do it. A) to assuage my guilt and B) because it could be fun!

I was also thinking that I make her project manager so if its a home based thing she gives me a shopping list and if its out and about she gives me directions.....

What do we think?

Let's just hope what you've agreed to isn't expensive and/or alive.

This could be fun

Oh god, I have a machine gun talking four year old and I have to tune out at times for survival reasons, especially in the car. I sometimes get caught out when she asks me something, but she always assumes I got the answer wrong because I'm dim rather than not listening!

I recently agreed to a fortnite all nighter while I was cooking dinner

@LunaNorth

You’re so getting a puppy...

or a pony!!!

Tell her that her plan needs to meet safety standards & make up a form that needs to be filled in

People attending
Location
Duration
Primary Activity
Etc.

Then pray 🤣

It's an expensive holiday!

Ooh can we all help name the new puppy?!

Brilliant!

I agreed once to my son making an all singing and dancing heliport for his remote control coptor - whilst emptying bins!

It ended with "what time does the shop open then - can we go first thing" as I tied the bad up.

Me:

Ds "the craft shop"

Me: thinking it can't be that bad then!

But I got out of it or at least prior warning by asking for a design and all I needed to buy for it!

I have a 9 year old
Over breakfast just say

“Love, my brain is full of so much atm I realise I squeezed out what you chatted to me about yesterday. I’m so sorry! Can we have talk about it now”

I am very interested in finding out what the 'thing' is!

Just ask her to go over what she asked to do in more detail once she is up today. I am sure you can word it so she doesn't realise you have no idea what it is.

Puppies are for life, not just for Lockdown Op.
Seriously, we all tune out at times. We’re not super human 😄

This is exactly how I got to Disney World for the first time as a child

I'd just say something like "can you tell me again all about that thing you want to do when lockdown is over... I just want to make sure I've got it right". From a mum of a 13 year old girl

The tips on how to find out politely are the funniest part if this thread.

I think op really needs that help.

We call it the talks. They even say jt themselves "blah blah I think I've got the talks blah blah

It's not unusual for this to happen to me at work.

It's perfectly reasonable to say 'let's start to make a plan about how it's all going to work. Now, say in one sentence what the overall objective will be. What will it be like when it is finished?

Working back from that end result, what are all the different things we need to do, there may be lots of different things. Some of them may also how other things that need to be done first.

And hey, you are teaching them how to plan. And shaping that plan as you go along. Identifying intermediate milestones ...

and how to keep your stakeholders happy

Invaluable life skills.

It has to be something after lockdown is completely eased, that's your first clue.

This is hilarious! I often tune out when my children give me a long and convoluted explanation of the plot of whichever book they're reading at the time!

She's redecorating the whole house in disgusting primary colours. You won't have the heart to stop her because she will do it so enthusiastically. When she's finished ruining your home you will look at her smiling, earnest face and tell her that it looks amazing.

Good luck!

DD is 9 and mostly has expensive / inappropriate ideas. Anything from "can we buy a house in Florida" to "can I wear a crop top", not forgetting when she wanted me to set up a direct debit so she could get Roblox money every month.

Oh and she also asked if we could get a swimming pool 😂

Good luck OP!

I do this all the time - and yes sometimes I'm , gasp, on my phone. Dd7 talks at you incessantly form dawn to dusk, I can't listen to all of it! She often says 'but mummy you said' to which I just explain she says so much I can't possibly remember all of it and sometimes times if I'm distracted agree without listening. Dd knows this anyway as she clearly targets the times I'm obviously busy to try her luck. It pays off for her if it's something instant like food I'd usually not allow for breakfast and especially in the supermarket when I'm clearly concentrating on what I need and she manages to get all sorts in the trolley. As your dd has 2 extra years on mine I'd suspect she's knows fine she caught you at a distracted moment and that you've unwittingly agreed so I'd just own up so you know your fate 😆. It's actually ok for dc to know you cant be available to them at all times and that sometimes you need to check mumsnet emails etc!

I thought puppy too 😂