to just do the thing that DD said?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Because I said yes and then realised I had tuned her out?

She is 9, lovely, sweet and not a piss taker. We talk a lot but I do tune a fair bit out, especially since the Apocalypse. I have 6 kids, you kind of have to do this to survive. Its not that I dont care but there really is only so much you can take in!

So today we had a chat and then I was ..... fuck it. I was on MN. And I got the noise but not the words and then she said "Can we do that when lockdown is over?" So I said yes as I couldnt bear to ask her wtf I was agreeing to. And now she is planning "it". Whatever the hell "it" is!

I mentioned it to mum on the phone and she came up with all sorts of ways to find out what it is, but I am thinking we should just do it. A) to assuage my guilt and B) because it could be fun!

I was also thinking that I make her project manager so if its a home based thing she gives me a shopping list and if its out and about she gives me directions.....

What do we think?

[ColdGreenTeaMug]

I am certain that mine also pick their requests for when I am not listening.

Thankfully the most I have ever agreed to was making apple pie and going to see George Ezra in concert in Hungary. The latter one I am actually totally up for once I realised.

[bridgetreilly]

Three weeks in Disneyland?

[Namechangex10000]

I need to know what the thing is, for the love of all that is mumsnet, you need to find out!

I’d go with a simple “so tell me more about this plan, I’m excited to hear about it”

[MintyMabel]

Just ask her. It’s not difficult.

Put your phone down and listen to your kids.

Didn’t take long for this little gem to come out, did it? Can you read?

Thank fuck that when mine were young there were no mobile phones and social media!

My mum was perfectly able to tune me out without any of those things.

[Cherrysoup]

Ask her to explain her plan to one of the siblings. Easy.

[PhilCornwall1]

OP, just try my trick.

My Youngest: you know that thing we were talking about yesterday?

Me: No, I've slept since then and I'm old, talk to me again about it.....

I'll get a shitty look from him, but he'll always remind me, especially when money, potentially in his favour, is on the cards.

[GinWithASplashOfTonic]

You've just agreed to some or all of the following:
A puppy
A mobile phone & or tablet
Ears being pierced

[Lovemusic33]

I do this to my dd often, she has Aspergers and talks at 100mph non stop, I often stop listening or just agree with her, she’s now 16 and knows I’m often not listening 🤣. Probably best to get her to write down a plan of action and then get her to show it to you?

[Zilla1]

Could it to become world princess and queen to rule over everyone and make the world pink, fluffy, shiny and nice without being too gender-stereotypical and heteronormative. If so, the shopping list and project management plan should be interesting.

[Pelleas]

Another one wondering if you are going to be off to Disneyland!

[Oldraver]

OP I only have two kids but same age gap as the two you mentioned

Older DS frequently says..." I cant believe he managed to talk you into/get out of you xyz". Usually things he couldnt get away with

[Smallsteps88]

Congratulations- you’re now going to be running her Tulsa office

[NannyPear]

Smallsteps88 🤣🤣

[ilikemethewayiam]

Lol! I dread to think! just be honest with her say, ‘sorry darling but I was distracted and I forgotten what we agreed to, can you tell me again‘. Children have to live in the real world and understand parents aren’t always perfect. My mother had 4 kids 2 years apart, very few modern household appliances, an old fashioned husband and also worked outside the home!, did she always listen to my incessant ramblings?, of course not. I was aware she wasn’t listening a lot of the time. I could see she was busy but I just enjoyed talking at her. I lost count of how many times she agreed to getting me a pony 😂. I didn’t hold her to it!

[LabradorGalore]

I really want to know what you’ve agreed to

I occasionally stop listening to my two, because they are both big talkers. DD, also 9, roped me in to baking cupcakes yesterday. Which based on this thread is pretty harmless!

[ilikemethewayiam]

@PhilCornwall1

OP, just try my trick.

My Youngest: you know that thing we were talking about yesterday?

Me: No, I've slept since then and I'm old, talk to me again about it.....

I'll get a shitty look from him, but he'll always remind me, especially when money, potentially in his favour, is on the cards.

^^ perfect!

[Disfordarkchocolate]

Just ask her to tell you what she has planned so far so you can see if it's possible. When she does this listen and hope she doesn't want a baby sister.

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

Pony? You have to post the shopping list.

[bitofasleuth]

I'm waiting here with bated breath...

What have you agreed to, OP?

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

DS8 thinks it's a large fountain for your front garden (the first thing he would ask for if he knew I could be relied upon to say yes). Found one for you.

[Namechangex10000]

@Oldraver I’m in my thirty’s and when I’ve I’m around my mum and younger I sulk and whine and wail about how it’s so unfair and I can’t believe he’s allowed to do that, I wouldn’t have got away with that etc. Some of us just don’t grow out of it 🤣

[Dinnafashyersel]

I am also old and have a 9 year old. PhilCornwall1 has it nailed.

PS when I was 9 my DM sent me outside or to play with my friends elsewhere all day. If she had a mobile phone she might have sat down in the same room long enough for me to actually have a conversation with her.

My 9 year old talks incessantly all the time mostly about mythical nonsense. I would be insane if I listened to her with more than half an ear and I would still be deemed useless compared to interacting with someone her own age.

[Alsohuman]

I need to know.

[Shadeslayer]

I've done this before ds1 was talking rubbish about Minecraft in the co op so I was giving it yup yeah and suddenly he stared taking his shoes off I said what are you doing and he said you just said I could. I had to tell him I wasn't paying attention properly it was one of the funniest parenting fails for me.

I would ask her to tell her siblings or other parent the plan and listen this time

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

If it's a puppy, tell her she has to save up for it (plus inoculations, neutering, toys etc)

The price of puppies had quadrupled over the last couple of months. Westoes have gone from £800 - £900 to £3,000.

Spaniels from £400 - £550 to £2,000+

Jack russels and patterdales (traditionally cheap-as-chips breeds) are now £1,600 - £1,800.

And there is no longer any such thing as a "monger;"