@Tappering a lot of that post isn't actually accurate.
The thing with Ross is that he's actually a v sinister character. sinister, no, he's selfless If you take his relationship with Rachel in isolation, it's a good sketch of an abusive, controlling man. He adores her, pines over her for years until he's obsessed. he didn't think he was good enough for her and C & J talk him into moving on, that's when he met Julie and Rachel pines over him, he then leaves Rachel to be with her and C&J start making a pros and cons list which Ross gets blamed for When he finally gets into a relationship with her he becomes obsessive and controlling. he becomes jealous, insecure and unstable and talks to Monica about it, she puts him straight He's planned their life together, their children's names, where they'll live yes, he tells her all of this, he doesn't control her behind her back, he's open with her about his dreams
He tells her what to wear no he doesn't with a view to making sure that she's not attractive to other men he is jealous of Mark, who J confirmed only offered her a job because he wants sex from her - which turned out to be true as Mark said he always fancied her when her and Ross split up - Mark even started dating a Rachel look-alike at Bloomingdales (on her first day in her new job he tells her to wear trousers and a high neckline). that was called humour He implies she only gets the new job because Mark wants to have sex with her. see above He goes to her work and makes a scene on several occasions once , he phones up and bothers her jealous and insecure about Mark fancying her, he clearly has trust issues , he accompanies her on work trips he went to one lecture to stop her going with Mark and then falls asleep, he belittles her job every character on Friends belittles Ross' career, all the time, constantly , he sulks over her ex partners ? , he hates her working overtime and tries to stop her doing her job he moaned at her about it, he didn't try to stop her. He then shags somebody else and lies about it he wanted to tell her but C&J talked him out of it, so he decided it should come from him not as gossip , deliberately trying to keep it from her. When confronted about it he says he only did it because he though she was sleeping with Mark no he didn't, he said he thought there was no relationship left , making it her fault he cheated. He never accepts responsibility for it, even lying about it (18 pages front and back, he never read them and lies about it in order to get her back into bed). he dumped Pheobe's friend at 5am and Rachel, more controlling imo, wanted him to agree to being responsible for the break up
He tells Carol Rachel cheated on him with Mark he told her they were interested in eachother. Even apart he controls her. Doesn't tell her they're married he wanted an annulment not divorce but didn't realise he need Rachel present , let's her move in with him and has a baby with her but starts hiding messages from men who call wanting to date her because Rachel requested Ross not to date ANYONE during and after pregnancy and wanted to get back together, but after J "proposed" she didn't bother to tell Ross she'd moved on from the idea, she even thought there was a spark that evening but still gave her number to some random. Drags another unstable woman to the apartment and humiliates her in order to make Rachel feel bad.
Ross was an absolute fool in love with an image of Rachel that could do no wrong and he only had experience with one other woman before dating her - he was learning on the job. I think this post is way off the mark as regards Ross' character - he was not a vindictive man at all, he was just lost and naive. I've watched Friends a few times and I think this poster either saw it once or just doesn't get the character at all.
