To feel like the only person following the f***ing rules??!!

[Stressingismyhobby]

I know the social distancing rules are contradictory, confusing and mostly bollocks but I don't think I'm above them and follow them as closely as possible.

But hardly anyone else I know does. I've just seen a picture of a friend wearing a mask in a taxi...to go to her friend's house with a load of other friends. All pictured together huddled on the sofa.

A family member keeps posting pics on FB with her kids gathered with all their friends.

And I've been invited to a party in a week's time at someone's house with lots of other people.

Videos of kids running to hug both their grandparents (my kids would love to do that!)

We met with some friends outside a week or two ago who also (without us knowing) invited other people so our group was bigger than 6.

I had to say no to giving someone a lift in my car the other day.

And so it goes on.

I feel like I'm the boring, goody two shoes who's always having to decline invites or say things like "I'm not really sure we're supposed to do that yet" etc only to be met with sighs or rolled eyes. I'm constantly being put in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. I'm made to feel like the bloody fun police who is making live difficult for everyone!

Anybody else feel like this???

@Stressingismyhobby yes, people who are happy not to social distance. I always make sure I social distance from people who want to, and when I'm in public.

What if everyone did that - well, a large number of people are. And infection rates are still dropping.

@Stressingismyhobby I’ve no idea what you’re getting at now.

You will never get full compliance with these things.

Government was surprised to get the level of compliance it did at the beginning of lockdown (think it 70% ish they expected 50%)

But restrictions are now being eased so I don’t know what you’re realistically expecting? People are being actively encouraged to mix (pubs open) by those setting the “rules”.

If you’re not comfortable with it then you stay in Phase 1 or whatever.

Let the rest of the world get on with life.

To be fair, this thread really highlights (as if we weren't all acutely aware) what an awful job the government has done. "Guidelines" and "advice" don't work in a crisis- we needed actual rules and laws that are not open to interpretation.

@EnlightenedOwl
Disgusting, ignorant comment. We’ll be lucky if we have any nurses left wanting to do the job with attitudes like that!

I think it is about common sense at this stage. My son is back at school and not socially distancing within his bubble, therefore I let him play with the children within that bubble outside of school also as they have already been together all day. I don’t think that is within guidelines (although I’ve lost track by now) but it’s not increasing any risk.

@EnlightenedOwl

Erm, yeah I'm sick of it too tbh. I said I want to get back to normal as soon as possible too.

Once you compared it to drink driving you made yourself look stupid, OP. Very stupid

Yep we’ve binned them off. Too long. Bored now. We need to get back to normal.

I'm with you OP, I'm following the rules and watching family, friends and others completely ignore them.

I understand that it's been a long time we have been in lockdown but I would rather sit in and protect my DC then risk the chance of grieving rather than being bored.

I think the trouble is people have the attitude that it won't happen to them, I'm not taking any risk, if others want to then that's fine but respect my decision for wanting to stay in.

Oh,for god's sake, I'm not saying it's the same as drink driving, it was just an example of people interpreting a risk themselves rather than listening to expert advice.

Have you informed the church elders OP?

I feel a bit like this. However, I am having chemotherapy after surgery for cancer so I feel vulnerable anyway. My ex-h, however, is behaving like an utter prick and despite deciding he wouldn't see DS until "after the virus" is now telling me that I am completely unreasonable because he wants to wheel him out for a family party put on a public show of what a great dad he is and appears to think I am "not putting DS first" by not agreeing to this...nor agreeing to a weekend in Legoland. He really doesn't care how this might impact on me while I am immune suppressed. People are just carrying on as normal now and quite honestly, had this not happened to me literally days before lockdown, I would have considered myself a fit and healthy person and probably would have taken my chances. Life has to go on, I understand that, but I still remain very frightened and will continue to follow the "rules" as best I can or at least until my active treatment is completed.

I have no choice but to follow the guidelines whilst at the same time knowing that there is no end in sight. A second wave is more likely than my life returning to any sort of normality. I cannot remember the last day I didn’t cry.

We're allowed to do many of the things on your list because we live in Scotland, so maybe the videos are from there?

But yes, everyone I know is generally following the rules, a few minor slip ups, but nothing too bad.

The Westminster government has totally fudged the rules, made them hard to follow, but I do think the Scottish government has done a better job of putting families first before money and been much clearer from the get go.

I'm making my own decisions now. I was following the rules to the letter until Nicola Sturgeon made wearing face coverings mandatory in shops despite extremely weak scientific evidence that they actually are effective given how most people use / wear them.

I no longer get the rules - we can meet indoors with SD, my son can run around outside with other children without SD yet we have to wear masks in an environment where SD is generally possible and there isn't much risk of transmission.There is so much contradiction I believe the government is making it up as they go along and we seem to have quietly dropped the idea we are 'following the science'.

In Scotland there were 18 positive tests today ... it has been proven most transmission is in hospitals, care settings, care homes yet the nanny state is in full force. IMO at some stage we have to accept the risks of the virus are less than all the other associated negative impacts - I dread to think what this is doing to my young son's mental health

Guidelines" and "advice" don't work in a crisis- we needed actual rules and laws that are not open to interpretation

It's so obvious that this pandemic is a wet dream for some.

I don’t care if I catch COVID-19. I really couldn’t give a toss, i give my odds of emerging unscathed as pretty high and it pales into significance compared to what’s going to happen to the economy.
I also very much doubt I’ll give it to anyone else if I do catch it. After all, those that are old and vulnerable are presumably doing what’s best for themselves, ie staying at home and shielding? And if they’re not, well, at some point we have all got to take responsible for our ourselves and our health.
I do wash my hands very regularly , don’t hug anyone outside/touch anyone outside of my household, haven’t been to a pub or restaurant yet and that’s as much as I’m going to do.

If I were one of the demographic most affected, ie “old” or with underlying health conditions, I’d be staying at home to avoid being infected.

I’ve been following the rules too. I have a support bubble with my dad and stepmum, and they’re the only people I’ve been in close contact with. Oh, and my children’s father too.

I do get out and about a lot more now though. I didn’t leave the house for about 2 months at one point and it was making me ill. I went to the zoo earlier this week and I don’t feel bad about that.

I decided a while ago that "guidelines" were irrelevant and I would do what I decided was right for me and mine so I am usually more cautious than most people

@EnlightenedOwl What a nasty, ignorant comment.

The Scotland figures today also coincide with vastly higher test numbers than previous days so the figure is skewed. Conveniently the day after the latest dire warnings from BS sorry NS.

The rules r social distance and wash ya hands plus its guidance not rules pretty much everything has opened bk up or will be in the next week am sure your quite capable of judging if a place or household is to busy to go in.

Op - I posted about this last week. Very similar post to yours.

I had several replies telling me I was judgey, OTT and unreasonable:

I agree with you. So many people are just doing what that want and not really following any of the guidance at all.