To feel like the only person following the f***ing rules??!!

[Stressingismyhobby]

I know the social distancing rules are contradictory, confusing and mostly bollocks but I don't think I'm above them and follow them as closely as possible.

But hardly anyone else I know does. I've just seen a picture of a friend wearing a mask in a taxi...to go to her friend's house with a load of other friends. All pictured together huddled on the sofa.

A family member keeps posting pics on FB with her kids gathered with all their friends.

And I've been invited to a party in a week's time at someone's house with lots of other people.

Videos of kids running to hug both their grandparents (my kids would love to do that!)

We met with some friends outside a week or two ago who also (without us knowing) invited other people so our group was bigger than 6.

I had to say no to giving someone a lift in my car the other day.

And so it goes on.

I feel like I'm the boring, goody two shoes who's always having to decline invites or say things like "I'm not really sure we're supposed to do that yet" etc only to be met with sighs or rolled eyes. I'm constantly being put in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. I'm made to feel like the bloody fun police who is making live difficult for everyone!

Anybody else feel like this???

[luckylavender]

@TazSyd - people who've worked & contributed, locked up. Schools ignored. No winners.

[luckylavender]

@TazSyd - people who've worked & contributed, locked up. Schools ignored. No winners.

[notreallybotheredaboutausernam]

@Hearhoovesthinkzebras

If I were one of the demographic most affected, ie “old” or with underlying health conditions, I’d be staying at home to avoid being infected.

You do realise that the "underlying health conditions" group is about 20 million people? Many of whom are at work - teachers, bus drivers, drs, nurses, shop workers, police officers, paramedics, office staff... - they don't have the option to stay at home. As of 1st August even the most vulnerable, the shielded, will be back at work and exposed to all the pub goers and social distance avoiders.

I am one of those pub goers. It was incredibly socially distanced. Much, much safer than the supermarket, or even the streets round here. But then you live to criticise, don't you?

[Coronabegone]

@notreallybotheredaboutausernam , yep I was a pub goer this weekend, a beautiful afternoon sat outside at a beach bar, lapping up the weather and watching swimmers, paddle boarders, etc.

I hurt no one, I socially distanced, I wasn't reckless.

Why some people assume that pub instantly means ridiculously drunk people, who are falling over and unable to act reasonably I don't know.

They don't want to go to the pub, that's fine, don't! Mind you it was the same ones whinging about people going to primark and the "spike" we'd get from that, never happened!


Makes me wonder what kind of company they keep.

[NiknicK]

What do you want a bloody medal? Well done you for following the rules, now leave everyone else alone to live their lives how they chose.

[birthdaybelle]

It's a simple case of sheep Vs leaders. In most cases anyway. Some people are just idiots - the crowds in Soho for example. But the majority can think for themselves. So can you OP if you try really hard!

[birthdaybelle]

It's a simple case of sheep Vs leaders. In most cases anyway. Some people are just idiots - the crowds in Soho for example. But the majority can think for themselves. So can you OP if you try really hard!

[birthdaybelle]

If you have done the research and agree with "the rules" then go ahead and follow them but if you're just doing it because some fat white dude with an agenda told you to then catch on!

The analogy of drink drivers is inaccurate as that is actually against the law and carries a very high very real chance of harming yourself or others

[birthdaybelle]

@Stellakent I'm so envious of your day, it sounded absolutely perfect!

[Wannabangbang]

I'm sick of having to shop in my local small store for people to be right up my arse at the till. Have these people forgot this bloody thing hasn't gone away do they not realise i don't want them breathing on me. I think a law needs to be made on masks to be enforced in all indoor shops because to be quite frank we still have a deadly disease circling around

[Pumpertrumper]

I think a law needs to be made on masks to be enforced in all indoor shops because to be quite frank we still have a deadly disease circling around

The issue with this is when people put on masks they suddenly think social distancing isn’t applicable any more and I don’t mean the ‘getting a bit close’ annoying sods I mean literally touching you to squeeze in and grab something from the shelf you’re browsing.

Masks (especially the non clinical grade fave coverings that most regular people are now wearing) are SOOO much less effective than socially distancing. Plus with a baby in a pram (like I have) they can’t wear a mask, so here are a load of people thinking they don’t need to distance anymore and getting too close to my baby!

[TimeForLunch]

Don't you have to be in close contact with someone (who actually has the virus) for 15 minutes to stand a chance of catching it? The contact tracers are apparently only interested in those instances. We don't need to be jumping out of the way every time someone gets a bit close, mask or not.

[Freezy]

YANBU. My friend and her son wanted to come over; son had just been on a four day trip with friends. I said no. Oh, disappointed, pout pout.

If people can't or won't think maybe I shouldn't do this or that, I'll just have to set my own boundaries. Easy at home, but not when I'm out shopping being leaned across and people standing right in front or behind me. I'm sick of these idiots.

And you don't have to be in close contact with an infectious person for fifteen minutes to catch it. Covid is more infectious than was previously thought, it can be passed on by breathing/talking loudly/ aerosol transmission hanging in the air after someone's left a room. How do people think it spreads so easily?! If they can think for themselves, why bloody don't they.

[labyrinthloafer]

@TimeForLunch

Don't you have to be in close contact with someone (who actually has the virus) for 15 minutes to stand a chance of catching it? The contact tracers are apparently only interested in those instances. We don't need to be jumping out of the way every time someone gets a bit close, mask or not.

No, absolutely not! People need to read up.

15 mins is higher risk than 10 mins, but the virus doesn't wear a watch.

[Susan1961]

Well said, as a keyworker it's been irrelevant for me!

[TimeForLunch]

@labyrinthloafer however, the risk is very, very low. Firstly to come across anyone who actually has it and secondly to contract it if not in sustained close contact. I'm not saying SD shouldn't be adhered to most of the time but I really wouldn't worry about people passing by a bit close in the supermarket.

[labyrinthloafer]

[quote TimeForLunch]@labyrinthloafer however, the risk is very, very low. Firstly to come across anyone who actually has it and secondly to contract it if not in sustained close contact. I'm not saying SD shouldn't be adhered to most of the time but I really wouldn't worry about people passing by a bit close in the supermarket.[/quote]
Each individual event is in itself low risk, although higher than if SD was observed. But a society of 70m needs to keep all the total of all the interactions low.

SD should be observed in the supermarket. A society that observes it more consistently will have fewer transmissions than one that doesn't.

People need to stop seeing the individual risks only and see this as a society-wide pooled risk.

[Merryweather80]

@lettybrigs shielded people might want to leave the house too safely. We're not all 90 and ready to pop our clogs. Some of us have young children who would like to go out and see their friends, go to school, see family etc, but still can't.
I've forgotten what it's like outside my home. Life as you all know it is something I've yet to experience. Shops with visits, routes marked on the floor, queuing to get into shops its all still alien to me and my family.

Are you saying it's okay for me to die for the sake if you not following the guidelines? If everyone follows them everyone benefits. If I catch covid I won't survive, which means my children will be without their mom for a lot longer than a few weeks of lockdown.

[FiveToFour]

My understanding is that she is making the point that older and those with underlying conditions (ie more vulnerable to covid) aren’t more important than younger people. What we’ve done is trash the economy at the expense of younger people’s life chances (financial stability and increased MH problems - that we will start to see) in order to protect older people.

And this is that false dichotomy again...
It was not either lockdown and trash the economy or preserve the economy and have more deaths.It was have more deaths and trash the economy.
And also the group "those with underlying conditions" is not a separate group from "younger people".
If people who are younger and healthy should take priority over everyone else then say so directly please. (Of course Stephen Hawking would have been one of those people with underlying conditions,we could be losing some irreplaceable talent 😕)
And younger people have time on their side.

[meditrina]

It was not either lockdown and trash the economy or preserve the economy and have more deaths.It was have more deaths and trash the economy

That is so true, and not really appreciated. An uncontrolled peak would have meant an uncontrolled crash, which would have wrecked the economy comprehensively.

[Mood84]

You are doing the right thing. Don't worry about what other people think or say or do. Keep yourself and your family safe as well as you possibly can ❤️

[Busymum45]

Yes v annoying,. idiots who think they don't have to follow the rules!!

[earnshaw47]

i have heard that this lockdown etc brings out the best in people, where are they because I`ve not seen it, I have though seen the worst , from packing the beaches like sardines in a tin then leaving their tins etc for someone else to pick up. all the ,,, black lives matter, marches, mob rule in trying to dismantle statues and on and on,,,, it really is no big deal to wear face masks, its not forever goodness sake

[labyrinthloafer]

Please don't conflate BLM with selfishness. Not the same at all.