To feel like the only person following the f***ing rules??!!

[Stressingismyhobby]

I know the social distancing rules are contradictory, confusing and mostly bollocks but I don't think I'm above them and follow them as closely as possible.

But hardly anyone else I know does. I've just seen a picture of a friend wearing a mask in a taxi...to go to her friend's house with a load of other friends. All pictured together huddled on the sofa.

A family member keeps posting pics on FB with her kids gathered with all their friends.

And I've been invited to a party in a week's time at someone's house with lots of other people.

Videos of kids running to hug both their grandparents (my kids would love to do that!)

We met with some friends outside a week or two ago who also (without us knowing) invited other people so our group was bigger than 6.

I had to say no to giving someone a lift in my car the other day.

And so it goes on.

I feel like I'm the boring, goody two shoes who's always having to decline invites or say things like "I'm not really sure we're supposed to do that yet" etc only to be met with sighs or rolled eyes. I'm constantly being put in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. I'm made to feel like the bloody fun police who is making live difficult for everyone!

Anybody else feel like this???

Most people I know have been trying to stay a distance from other people too. I'm a long distance driver and unfortunately see loads of people in groups just bimbling about. It's incredibly hard not being able to hug my parents and sister but I am around a lot of people in environments that it isn't feasible to stay two meters apart. I couldn't put my family in a position where I've passed something on to them or other people. So sadly, I stay at home and only see them when we can all sit apart in the garden. I can only assume those thinking they're immune and not staying a safe distance apart are quite happy placing others at risk. You do what you think is safe for you and your loved ones. The ones who want to do otherwise can go bollocks and I'll think my own thoughts on what I wish would happen to them to serve them right.

I too follow the rules and make sure my adult children who love with me do too. I wear face mask in supermarket too. I only go out to shop once a week. I slap on the hand get 5 or 6 times each day and wash my hands 6 times too. I get so fed up when I see raves in the woods, BLM protest, idiots crowded on beaches. Why can't they realise people will die because of their selfish behaviour.

YANBU.

You are not following the rules @caringcarer you're deciding the rules aren't good enough and creating your own rules.

What proof do you have that BLM rallies and crowded beaches have caused more cases?

It's idiots like you that are causing ridiculous anxiety based on no actual science whatsoever!

Op sounds like a sanctimonious martyr. Why her children can't see their grandparents now is questionable.

We've basically obeyed the rules. But this stickler thing seems ridiculous.

I don't even know what the rules are now. I stopped bothering to listen after Dominic Cummings' pissing about was totally within the rules even though it clearly wasn't. People are just doing whatever they feel like now. I just avoid people as much as humanly possible.

[quote Mimi85]@PhilCornwall1 my comment was to say we are all in this together, people should not be selfish....we are all blessed with the NHS so we shouldn't take the p[/quote]
I wish I could join you in feeling blessed. I have had my consultants appointment cancelled and have been told it could be up to 12 months before I get to see him as a result of this bloody virus. I haven't even been able to speak to my specialist nurse throughout this either, as they shut the department down. I don't have an insignificant condition either.

If I want to see him privately? Oh I can have an appointment next week as his list is very flexible at the moment.

Blessed I certainly do not feel.

UK citizen but lived in Italy last 35 years.....as you know we were hit hard early on with corona.....we were TOLD what to do (not suggestions) we stayed home for 2+ months,we are still wearing masks,still distancing & are all frankly worried at the idea of an English family who haven't abided by (our or any) rules to swan in for their much needed holiday and spread infection........I know tens of people who have lost their jobs due to the lock down and a lot of them haven't received any furlough payment since march....do us all a favour and holiday in your own country.....italians ,where possible, are doing just that

And people are still dying daily but no one gives a crap. My family and I have been mega careful - I’m immune compromised and I despair when all you careless arseholes are blocking the hospital wards and I can’t get in. Thanks!! But hey it’s “nothing” right

OP it’s you and people like me who are protecting the “you’re not still following the ruuulzzz” twats we have to share our country with. Thank you from me and the whole beautiful giraffe family for doing this.

I can’t stand the dickheads who think it’s now all a bit of a fun game. Tell that to the families of 45,000 fellow Brits who have suffered loss of a loved one, the loss of the dignity of a proper funeral and the human right to be comforted with physical contact but sacrificed to preserve the lives of strangers.

Seriously, if you’re not following the regulations your government (voted democratically) have imposed to preserve live, then go and live in fucking Trumpland.

Nope I'm with you, try living with someone who is carrying on like normal and gave his work mate a heads up that "the good lady is rather twitchy about social distancing" when he came round to borrow something! I've been visiting my parents via there driveway whilst they stay indoors or if raining we are in the conservatory and they are in the kitchen once a week yet he goes and spends an hour or so sat in his dads living room 2/3 times a week.

Im following them too. only 3 people in my bubble always meet them alone on a one to one basis, always outside, always 2 metres apart. wearing a mask. Went for a walk today along the river near by, hundreds and i mean hundreds, some with boats, paddleboards, crates of larger, bags of food ect all mixing and sitting together, kids swimming in large groups! So yes think we are in the minority.

YANBU. The worst thing is people mocking you for following ‘the rules’, and/or inviting you to things where they’ve said they’ll stick to ‘the rules’ and then you find out they’ve not intention (lots of people, or inside, or everyone hugging kissing etc)
Like you’re the dickhead! Yes the individual risks are small but it all adds up if we all Just do what we want! It’s not going to be forever.

I think if you’re that worried about social distancing and people not abiding by guidelines, just stay indoors till an antidote is found. I’m sick of people moaning about everyone not complying, posting pictures with sarcy comments when everyone is entitled to react however they want. It’s taking away people’s freedom, affecting mental/physical health and destroying families. You can’t control other people.

Yes I’m still social distancing and yes things will get worse again, no question. As summer ends and windows close, heating goes on, infection rates will rise. Colds and flu will increase and Covid will reappear more easily as people’s immune systems will be lower. Some people will b hit harder than if they caught it in the summer. I will continue to wear my mask, social distance where possible and be sensible NOT paranoid. Each to their own but I wish to do so more for the protection of my elderly parents than me.

Yanbu. People are idiots. Second wave is going to be bad. UK is already worst hit country in world after Brazil and USA accoridng to CNN today.

Why is Britain so bad at this??? Is it because Asia is good at it, so we feel we have to do the opposite to be patriotic?! Or have most people in UK just had such easy lives that they can’t imagine anything bad happening to them? Or could it be the effect of our bumbling ‘leadership’?

I think it’s because we’re such a selfish society. Wearing a mask is mostly to protect others, not the wearer. So people don’t bother.

What really puzzles me is the supermarkets where people carefully stand 2m apart in the queue then bash you out of the way as soon as they’re inside.

The parties - I just don’t get it.

Idiots. 🤷‍♀️

I think people are forgetting that now the government guidelines say we can be in bubbles with 2 households

Can we? Pretty sure in England the bubble can only be with one other household, and either you or the other household need to be a single adult household. I think Scotland may be the same, but not certain. Wales I believe doesn't have the single adult clause, so you can bubble (or have an extended household) with one other household, and it doesn't matter how many adults are in each household. You can't bubble with 2 other households (unless you can in NI?)

@Auckland11

Kids are allowed hug their grandparents, under 12 dont need to socially distant so thats not breaking the rules? Your allowed up to like 13 folk in your garden?

I believe those are Scottish guidelines so not applicable to the rest of the UK.

No. Masks don’t protect the wearer (unless they are specific medical ones). They stop the wearer spreading the virus.

I know. I was questioning the poster who wrote it.

@Helensmelon

I think if you’re that worried about social distancing and people not abiding by guidelines, just stay indoors till an antidote is found. I’m sick of people moaning about everyone not complying, posting pictures with sarcy comments when everyone is entitled to react however they want. It’s taking away people’s freedom, affecting mental/physical health and destroying families. You can’t control other people.

Agree with this

YANBU
I am the same.
We have only been going out to shops when necessary, wearing masks when inside shops, nobody is allowed to come into our house, only meet with family or friends outdoors, get our shop delivered online, will definitely not be entering a pub or restaurant. As somebody else here pointed out we do not know what the long term effects might be. I will do all I can to avoid myself and my family catching coronavirus.

@phoenixrosehere

No. Masks don’t protect the wearer (unless they are specific medical ones). They stop the wearer spreading the virus.

I know. I was questioning the poster who wrote it.

Total bollox.

The science “is weak” only because the government wanted to protect supplies of PPE.

Of course wearing a mask is going to protect the wearer. If someone were to cough in your direction, the mask would protect you from having droplets from being splashed into your face therefore reducing your exposure of inhaling the virus. Just remove mask, bag it and replace immediately.

I suppose it depends on whether you have common sense or if you prefer to err on the side of the fashionable opinion.

The wearer may offer more protection to others if he/she were infected but you DO receive some protection from the virus if you wear one. A lower percentage perhaps but a damn sight higher than if you don't wear a mask.

@boon

YANBU I am the same. We have only been going out to shops when necessary, wearing masks when inside shops, nobody is allowed to come into our house, only meet with family or friends outdoors, get our shop delivered online, will definitely not be entering a pub or restaurant. As somebody else here pointed out we do not know what the long term effects might be. I will do all I can to avoid myself and my family catching coronavirus.

What a miserable existence.

YANBU
I feel like I'm the only one too round where I live.

YANBU. I don't like people close to me at the best of times.