To feel like the only person following the f***ing rules??!!

[Stressingismyhobby]

I know the social distancing rules are contradictory, confusing and mostly bollocks but I don't think I'm above them and follow them as closely as possible.

But hardly anyone else I know does. I've just seen a picture of a friend wearing a mask in a taxi...to go to her friend's house with a load of other friends. All pictured together huddled on the sofa.

A family member keeps posting pics on FB with her kids gathered with all their friends.

And I've been invited to a party in a week's time at someone's house with lots of other people.

Videos of kids running to hug both their grandparents (my kids would love to do that!)

We met with some friends outside a week or two ago who also (without us knowing) invited other people so our group was bigger than 6.

I had to say no to giving someone a lift in my car the other day.

And so it goes on.

I feel like I'm the boring, goody two shoes who's always having to decline invites or say things like "I'm not really sure we're supposed to do that yet" etc only to be met with sighs or rolled eyes. I'm constantly being put in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. I'm made to feel like the bloody fun police who is making live difficult for everyone!

Anybody else feel like this???

It's time to realise that these 'rules' you go on about are from 4 months ago

Not really. People are supposed to still give 2m distance unless wearing masks etc and you're not all supposed to congregate outside a pub. I was in my first pub since lockdown started last night and was a bit surprised that they let someone order from the bar, as I didn't think it was allowed. There are new rules which should be followed.

I also think that people on holiday will just forget all the rules, I was in Devon over the weekend and it was quite busy everywhere and people just weren't giving space. Went for a walk at home in Hampshire this afternoon and most people still were.

However, there was lots of shouting about a second wave after the beach visits, VE day "celebrations" and the BLM protests and they haven't happened, so maybe it doesn't matter if people are not spaced out outside.

I know some of the rules might seem daft but it’s about reducing risky contacts. Hairdressers etc need to go back to work so help stop the economy tanking and can’t work at 2m distance. You can still have a nice time in the garden with your friends 2m apart. If you have Covid though and spread it to your hairdresser at least you won’t also be spreading it to your brother if you sit 2m from him in the garden, but next to him on the sofa you might. So it helps with reducing transmission.

I know what you mean.
I have done my best to follow the rules, but people in the shops just don't seem to get it, yes the rules have been relaxed, but some just seem to think it's OK to stand as close to me as possible. Like on my shoulder. Or when walking with my son, we were aproching a c on the path, I ask ds to move I front of me, to give a bigger gap. But the couple didn't do the same, so we didn't have a big gap, less than 1 metre. The rules have been relaxed, but its still 1 meter gap.

YANBU....stick to your guns.

Say I have been indoors following the "rules" for 8 weeks and so has my Mother with not a smidgen of a symptom then why would the risk of me seeing her be any greater than me going to the store with strangers who I don't know at all. Not knowing if they've been sticking to the "rules" or anything from day dot of lockdown? Everyone can have control over their own lives and deem what they see fit for themselves. Someone may not agree with it but that's how it is. If people want to start socialising thats their choice. If people still want to sit at home that's also their choice. People are talking about second wave, I mean those mass gatherings were weeks ago (VE Day/BLM) and surely if a second wave was to happen it would have but now. You cant compare here to America as they never really bothered with lockdown to start with as it's their "rights".

Totally agree OP my dad died of covid during lockdown and now the briefings aren’t on everyday I am not up to date with the ever changing rules and peoples interpretations of them.
My mums neighbour had about 20 people in her house for her 40th birthday a fortnight ago.

Yesterday I saw a bragging post on FB about how someone was so proud of her lovely 17 year old daughter and her friends who had raised money over the last few weeks (they were all very close and had their arms round each other on every photos).
Then same FB friend goes to the pub and is sat on a tiny with umpteen people from outside of her household (or is that now allowed).
Then another ex work colleague posts photos and a video up of a hen party on what should have been her wedding day. Video shows her hugging all friends in the house then them all sitting together in a tiny inflatable hot tub.
Then my beautician texted me yesterday saying she was back and asking if I wanted to book any treatments to just let her know (yet the rules I looked at said they could only do treatments not involving the face or is that not right)?
MIL hinted on a FT call last night that SIL might be popping into see us next weekend on her way to X place (she lives nearly 3 hours away) so not sure whether they would be happy sitting in the garden (we haven’t had anyone in the house yet).

Shows how much you know..... The staff at my local hospital are having to work overtime to cover all of the services in use because even hospital staff have shielding needs and sickness......

Mask wearing protects others, so if I, in my mask, and in the supermarket it's my fault that you, without a mask and embracing your freedoms, infect me with something that could kill me because I should be staying home if I'm worried?

How would they infect you if you’re wearing a mask? Wouldn’t they just infect someone else who is also not wearing a mask?

I no longer follow the rules with my grandkids. It is now allowed for family to meet indoors and also to provide childcare. So I look after them one day a week. It's not possible to do that properly if you socially distance from them. Also I refuse to reject a 2 year old that wants to hold my hand. We have followed every other rule to the letter and didn't see our grandchildren or children at all until outdoor meetings were allowed. Now I see ourselves as in a bubble. I still follow all the rules with friends etc. And I do not hug or touch my children as much as I would like to.

Agree. People petting in the pool really gets my goat.

And don't get me started on dive bombing..

Follow the rules I say, and be proud of it. It's simply not fair on the wider community to do whatever you feel like... If you do end up in hospital because of your own negligence, it's the taxpayer picking up the bill

Taxpayers will be picking up the bill for a ridiculous lockdown for generations!!!!!

If you do end up in hospital because of your own negligence, it's the taxpayer picking up the bill

Tax payers pick up the bill for a lot of things. Do you think that people who do dangerous sports should be forced to have private healthcare? How about the obese, should they be banned from NHS treatment?

@PhilCornwall1

Spot on.

YANBU OP unreasonable I feel the same

And don't forget smokers @TazSyd !

I don't understand what the fact that other people's parents are hugging their grandchildren has got to do with you? If you don't want your parents to hug your kids, fine, don't let them.
If you're not mixing with those people who are doing that, then it's no odds to you. If you are mixing with them, and you are socially distancing, then what's the problem.
Just leave them to it. Stick to the rules (whatever they are now) and leave those who don't choose to, to do what they want

@Coronabegone

Smokers are already paying for their healthcare via the extra “sin” tax they pay.

Speaking as a non smoker, it does irritate me when people go on about how much smokers cost the NHS.

@phoenixrosehere my mask protects you, your mask protects me

stress I feel the same as you, we try and do what we should and we have been shielded for 12 weeks, some will say its enough now but am not sure, there will always be people doing just as they want and others doing just as they should and i admit its frustrating when i see beaches packed and demonstraters etc, but what can you do , no one is being forced to do anything , politicians are hoping common sense will prevail but, honestly, in some cases I`m all right jack takes over

@phoenixrosehere

Mask wearing protects others, so if I, in my mask, and in the supermarket it's my fault that you, without a mask and embracing your freedoms, infect me with something that could kill me because I should be staying home if I'm worried?

How would they infect you if you’re wearing a mask? Wouldn’t they just infect someone else who is also not wearing a mask?

No. Masks don’t protect the wearer (unless they are specific medical ones). They stop the wearer spreading the virus.

I was amazed when I went into my local Tesco this weekend. They have been really strict all through lockdown - queuing to get in, one way and then queuing to be allocated a cashier. Anyway I went in yesterday and a man at the door said there are no restrictions now. How can this be when the virus hasn't gone away and Boris Johnson has been talking about making wearing face-masks in shops compulsory!

I have absolutely no idea what the rules are now. However if other people want to isolate/social distance from others that is their choice and they have their reasons. Noone should be rolling their eyes and making you feel bad about deciding what is best for yourself and your family

I haven’t RTFT - I’ve read a lot, but not all.
I have stuck to the letter of both law and guidance until now.
I’m a secondary teacher and the government have told me it’s ok for me to be in a small room with 30 people for an hour, then to change those people and do that 5 times a day for 5 days a week. The pupils I see will mix with other groups for sets and options, so I’ll be in direct or indirect contact with literally hundreds of people - and PPE of any kind is unnecessary.
If this is safe, I’m buggered if I won’t meet friends, go into their houses and basically do what the fuck I want. If it isn’t safe, the government should be removed from office for attempting to infect large numbers of people. Which is it?