To think my bladder should empty first time?

[Whitegrenache]

I'm 44 and not peri menopausal - normal
Blood and no symptoms

So every night I go to the toilet before bed and have a pee - i wait until I'm empty and then wiggle around so that I squeeze every last drop out

So why the fuck do I need to go back 5 minutes later when I am nice and cosy in my bed

It's annoying me a lot

I don't have my symptoms of a urinary infection

I'm now officially and old lady aren't I???

This happens to me a lot too, also 44..... It's infuriating! I'll be interested to see any replies.

do you drink a lot of coffee...? alcohol...? check your diet, you could be taking something that is a diuretic. if you google it, you'll find lots of info... could be that you just drink a lot and it needs to come out... could be diabetes... or pregnancy :-)

I have the same, I’m 42. I assume it’s just age. I’m finding a lot of my body parts are not behaving themselves as they should these days.

Same here!

I get this ALL the time. Its driving me insane. It used to happen a fair bit when I was on my 2nd pregnancy, not only could I not empty my bladder properly, it came out reeeeeaaaaaaally slowly. My bladder was bursting and it was coming out in a trickle. Thankfully I don't have that any more but my bladder is definitely still rubbish.

I'm 40 this month

I'm the same. Or at least I was until I cured my chronic constipation. Do you suffer from constipation? (Now there's a question I thought I'd never ask a stranger ). That can affect your bladder capacity

I also avoid any caffeine after one pm. I avoid Americano completely. Somehow a medium Americano turns into an output of 5 litres spread over around 50 trips to the loo

go to the loo before you brush and floss your teeth, take off your face, change into pyjamas etc,
then go again just before getting into bed.
this is life.

I’m the same here. I Sometimes find standing up from the toilet then sitting back down and having another wee straight away works.

I usually go twice at bedtime. I do teeth, face cleaning, washing, put cream on and then have a second week.

I'm like that when I wake as well. I go to the loo and have what seems like a really long wee, then in no time at all I want another one.

There's nothing wrong with me. I do drink a lot of water during the day. We never really empty our bladders, there's always some residual.

None of that bothers me, it's normal; the only thing that would cause concern would be if I couldn't get to the loo in time, especially if I was out. I hope that doesn't happen!

Same... never a great bladder but post kids, I can never empty it in one go. Last thing at night I wee, brush my teeth, wee again. I could still go again 5 mins later...

I have that when I drink tea. I now drink less tea.

That’s really interesting @Northernsoullover Since lockdown I’ve developed awful constipation as well as needing to wee a lot more often than usual.
How did you solve your constipation?

Northernsoullover how did you cure your constipation? (Asking for a friend )

When you think you have finished, stand up and allow your bladder to drain down some more about 10 seconds or so.Then sit down on the loo again when you sit on the loo, lean forward and open your legs wider.
This helps you firstly empty your bladder of residual urine, and wee more easily.

Have you tried putting your feet on the seat, so that you are squatting? Or at least raising them. That's the natural position to urinate, so sitting may not fully empty the bladder in the first place.

Same. I think it's mental for me. Once in bed I start thinking about the toilet and wondering if I need to go again. Then I can't get the thought out of my head and I end up needing to go.

I'm the same, even if I need to do a tiny minuscule pee I can't sleep. Meanwhile my OH can go back to sleep even when he needs a full on wee, how how how?!?!

@Turnedouttoes

That’s really interesting *@Northernsoullover* Since lockdown I’ve developed awful constipation as well as needing to wee a lot more often than usual. How did you solve your constipation?

I can confirm the Fibogel works well, I've had to use it recently due to dieting post lockdown weight gain.

I only take one a day but two are recommended. It's also not totally vile. I put my vitamin tablet and iron water in with it, a three in one, get it all done in one hit.

I have this too, am 38. I always had quite a slow flow but since kids there’s issues with feeling like I’ve emptied all the dribs and drabs. I also had a mild prolapse after last child so think that plays a part, everything works better when I’ve been doing lots of pelvic floor exercises, but it’s hard to keep motivated when things not bothering you so much.

My bladder is the same. It has been for years (since late teens) and I'm not 40 yet. I've never been pregnant/had kids either. Double voiding is the key - two wees reduces the likelihood of a UTI. You can wait it out or get back out of bed!

if it makes you feel any better, it doesn't make you an old lady –I'm 25 and have had this my whole life!!! it's so bloody annoying and nothing I do makes it better :(

I've always had an overactive bladder. I hate it! Always had constipation too, so there is definitely a link. For the constipation, if its really minor then a maintenance dose to keep things running smoothly, something like Fybogel is helpful. If its a bit more than that, try suppositories to help you push it out. They work really well. If its chronic & drastic, like mine, due to contatnt need to use constipating meds, then something like Laxido, which draws water into the bowel is necessary. I'm currently downing a jug of water & lemon juice mixed with 12 sachets of the stuff. Listed dose for impaction is 8 or 9 sachets, but based on my issues I have been advised that 12 is fine for me. Hope this helps!

I have duplex ureter syndrome which means I cannot empty on first go, sooooo unbearably annoying!! Worst is when I'm camping argh!!!

Ugh! I've just had surgery on my bladder as it turned out I had a congenital condition from birth that they just diagnosed. The tip Uber fripom kidney to bladder had a pouch and an extra tube had grown so wee was circulating in my kidney. Huuuuuuge kidney stone 2,5" had t9 be removed and a load of calcification blasted out.
Woke up with a catheter in and OMG the pain of this huge tube. It still isn't right 2 days later. Having to stand up after peeing and do a little wiggle the sit down again. It's all irritated though and I have a stent in which makes it worse. Having to drink loads so I don't yet another uti so consequently not sleeping much. Just peeing

DH made the mistake of saying maybe it's just in my head: the day after the operation! I told him then maybe this knife might just be in your head. Twat.

@babysharkdoodoodood total twat of the highest order. Hope you're a bit more comfortable soon.