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To think lockdown is making people sick.

167 replies

Melonslicexx · 09/07/2020 15:30

I mean alot of people. I have never felt anxious like I do in my life. I'm on edge. I'm panicky.

My best mate who has suffered with her mental health said she didn't want to be here anymore the other day but she's pushing through.

I can't describe how I feel at the moment. It's horrible. So

Vote not unreasonable if you feel ill due to lockdown

Or you are unreasonable if you feel fine.

I am hoping to feel less alone. As to be honest I feel scared and I don't know how to see the happiness in life or relax again.

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Monkeymilkshake · 09/07/2020 18:10

I've had enough too. Its hard looking after a bored toddler and a baby all day. I'm downstairs with the kids and DH is upstairs working.
Toddler moans and whinges alllllll day. I know she's bored but it drives me insane.
I'm dreading winter if we have another lockdown.
I miss being by myself so much. Even just for a few hours. No questions. No snackes. No complaints....

Mummiepig · 09/07/2020 18:12

It’s been really up and down for me but the last week or so Ive just felt Numb/flat/deflated
I got made redundant but found a new job straight away which was good, but after 8 weeks at the new job it’s hit me, this is forever, it felt temporary
No going back to my old job, I feel so sad about that
I’m holding back the tears at work
Everything I enjoyed has gone, my old job, shopping, drinking and eating out, holidays, something’s are open again but it’s not the same
Went shopping last week it was horrible, a lady shouted at me outside the charity shop because I went to walk in, I didn’t realise she was waiting to go in I thought she was just looking in the window, I walked home and cried

Tiredandfedup21 · 09/07/2020 18:19

Definitely the case for me. So unbelievably tired and have very poor sleep. Toss and turn until the early hours and then am up with DD early. She’s only 2 but god it’s exhausting entertaining her with no softplay/swimming/ etc. I feel so anxious to go outside as well, like I’m becoming agoraphobic Sad

Veganforlife · 09/07/2020 18:36

Same ,dreading winter and a second wave ,praying there isn’t one

Wishfulthinking1977 · 09/07/2020 18:42

I'm completely with you op! I was doing amazingly up until lock down after 4 years of crippling anxiety and depression, I am now back further than I ever was! Medicated, not sleeping, no joy in life, can't access any help, I have a 16 year old suffering the same and can't get any help at all for her! She's just back at work and due to the rules she is suffering with migraines. I was physically ill for the first month, lost over a stone in weight, Ive had to cancel an important Dr's appointment as I can't wear a mask, I really wonder if our mh will ever recover xx

LaurieFairyCake · 09/07/2020 18:43

I'm a counsellor/psychotherapist

Before Covid I saw 25 ish clients a week - I bounced through life fine (even the terrible stories I heard were copable)

Now we have Covid I can do about 15 clients a week max - every client is anxious/depressed/terrified/exhausted/needing grounding

And more than 15 and I myself become a basket case who can't sleep, can't keep their 'stuff' parked outside of me - and I've been doing this nearly 20 years so it's not like I don't know what I'm doing

The short answer is almost everyone is struggling in some way, life is just more tiring now as we process what's going on for us, our family and the wider world

No matter how much you don't watch the news no one exists in a vacuum, we all hear what's going on outside of ourselves

magicmallow · 09/07/2020 18:44

I'm a LP and the boredom and lack of social contact is really getting to me. The drudgery. The being unable to escape on my own for weeks because I have no support. The anxiety is getting to me and having a bad impact on me. My mental and physical health is really affected.

TimeWastingButFun · 09/07/2020 18:46

I feel fine, but I wouldn't vote YABU because obviously you're not feeling fine, so that would be unfair. People all experience this differently. Thanks

magicmarker11 · 09/07/2020 18:51

I feel like this. Everything's opening up again and I just feel anxious about it! I want to do things again but.. it's so hard to explain

Doingtheboxerbeat · 09/07/2020 18:53

I used to look forward to my days off /holidays so I can go on long cycle rides/runs, cross train, hula hoop, weights, trampoline when the weather is bad and use the time to concoct healthy meals but I am just so tired all the time.

Feellikedancingyeah · 09/07/2020 19:04

13 weeks with noisy son and can't face another 8 !

yellowbluebell · 09/07/2020 19:11

I'm so fed up with it. Every day is like groundhog day. Every day I'm wondering what to feed everyone, making meals and cleaning and it's just all so boring. I went into town today as I needed to go to the bank and it was just grim. People queuing in the rain, once you get in a shop it's just grim. Lines and arrows everywhere, people just looking bewildered. People getting stressed. It's just awful. The staff look uncomfortable wearing the masks and face guards and it's just so weird. I couldn't wait to get back to my boring day at home, thinking up meals and cleaning - and that's saying something.

yellowbluebell · 09/07/2020 19:13

Oh and I can't sleep either so during the day I'm so tired as I've been spending the night trying to sleep rather than sleeping.

randomer · 09/07/2020 19:13

Mums with small children, can you get dressed ( any old thing) and get out to feed the ducks, go to a play area, get a coffee from a van with other Mums? Absolutely awful time.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 09/07/2020 19:14

I am even more anxious about the future and what my kids are going to be suffering through. Everyone keeps saying the effects of this will last years. That really scares me.

dementedma · 09/07/2020 19:19

Yup. Back on ADs after managing to come off them. Mental health is shit.

OverTheRainbow88 · 09/07/2020 19:21

@yellowbluebell

Have you tried taking a nytol one a night? I swear by them; better than anything I’ve been prescribed! And they don’t make me feel bad the next day! I take them the 6 days I’m in my period as I can’t sleep then... weirdly!!!

ToBBQorNotToBBQ · 09/07/2020 19:22

Lockdown has made me feel better. I'm talking to the cat more but I'm not run down like usual even though been working throughout. Probably as I had 2 months of working from home part the week it's been bliss. I'm an introvert staying in and not having to socialise is my thing.

cyclingmad · 09/07/2020 19:23

Totally understand this. I used to love my house been in ot for 8yrs but since wfh I have suddenly realised how thin the walls are and its made me so anxious now. I can hear my neighbour cough, scrape plates, turn on a switch its like they are in my house.

I'm trying not to let it get to me but I'm starting to hate my house but cant afford a detached one.

Its made me wonder if neighbour on the other side can hear me pee and poo aa bathroom backs onto their bedroom although I do know there are wardrobes against the wall.

I just want to go back to being ignorant not knowing how much sound travels Confused

0963158b · 09/07/2020 19:24

Surely it would take a cruel person to tell you that you're unreasonable to have a mental health problem for any reason at all?

lazylinguist · 09/07/2020 19:27

It's an awful time. You would have to be dim and/or skin of a rhino to wander through this unscathed.

No, what you'd have to be is lucky. Lockdown has been very easy and pleasant for some people.

0963158b · 09/07/2020 19:29

People are dying because they need cancer treatment. Surely there comes a point where it's better to do things than wait because they may get coronavirus.

You might think that. But chemo makes you vulnerable to a cold and you're being treated in a hospital where there's covid. How is that going to work? How could you ask a doctor to administer a treatment that he/she knows could land you in ICU and miss the time remaining? They can't and won't.

IndecentFeminist · 09/07/2020 19:30

Yup, my poor mum was admitted last week for an anxiety based kind of breakdown. She was suicidal.

It's breaking my heart tbh and I want my mum back

Melonslicexx · 09/07/2020 19:32

Keep it coming ladies. I really hope this helps people. It's really helping me. I'm sad to read all your suffering/frustrations too. It's comforting to know we are not alone though isn't it. I was tossing and turning until 2am Sunday and had to take rescue remedy to finally settle. This week has been gloomy and horrible.

I know it sounds sad. But I used to love making a coffee in the afternoon and watching a hospital documentary or something. I can't get the joy out of that either.

I've not been near a shop as I don't know what you should be doing! I miss taking the kids to garden centers but I presume you are not welcome to take kids in to look at fish and enjoy the outdoor playhouses now. We used to go and have cake in the cafe at our local garden centre and it was a nice treat.

I'm also worried for the kids futures. I don't want to send my child to school in September because it will still be weird. No assemblies. No pe kits allowed in school. No backpacks. Only mixing with your own class. That means her other friends in the other year one class won't be in her life anymore

Not to mention how long are we going to queing and wearing masks. I don't want my kids to live in this crazy time where they can't just walk into a shop and touch stuff. It's a sad world they are growing up in.

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OverTheRainbow88 · 09/07/2020 19:56

Play grounds have opened, zoos, nature reserves, we went to 4 Different playgrounds in the last 2 days, shops, hairdressers, cafes, nurseries, primary schools, pre schools restaurants!! They’ve just announced gyms and swimming pools are opening. Everything is going back to normal

I personally think it’s Unhealthy to keep thinking about what’s been and the negatives, and the possible winter lockdown- go out and enjoy everything that’s now opened! My sons actually stop
To look at animals at the zoo now which’s before lock down they didn’t bother.

Groups like this often bring overs down and give people other things to worry about!

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