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Original poster

To think lockdown is making people sick.

167 replies

Melonslicexx · 09/07/2020 15:30

I mean alot of people. I have never felt anxious like I do in my life. I'm on edge. I'm panicky.

My best mate who has suffered with her mental health said she didn't want to be here anymore the other day but she's pushing through.

I can't describe how I feel at the moment. It's horrible. So

Vote not unreasonable if you feel ill due to lockdown

Or you are unreasonable if you feel fine.

I am hoping to feel less alone. As to be honest I feel scared and I don't know how to see the happiness in life or relax again.

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BogRollBOGOF · 09/07/2020 16:42

YANBU.

I'm OK at present. I hit a low about a month ago. My crash came at the loss of hope of my y2 and y4 going back to school in July and having no definition to life from March 20th to September. I had a week of easily triggered sobbing and I'm normally pretty sound for mental well-being.

We still don't have any real routine or purpose but at least it's now becoming viable to leave the house and do nice things like zoos, museums and farms rather than yet another fucking walk and sneaking into a playground. And I normally like running/ walking and have nice places to do it in nearby.
June was horrid though because half the school could go back and nothing changed for us. The "relaxation" of measures at that point were pretty useless as people were either too busy or too paranoid to meet up.

It's awful reading on MN how normalised crippling anxiety and OCD type behaviours have become in recent months, and how far, far too many people are irrationally fearful of normal life. This kind of damage is not easily undone.

DaveMinion · 09/07/2020 16:43

Also really want to hug my Nan who has cancer but she is having chemo at the moment so I just can’t. I miss her so much. Glad I can see my mum now but I want my Nan.

jessstan2 · 09/07/2020 16:43

It hasn't made much difference to me. My son has been doing work from his home and thoroughly enjoyed it, feels that 'lockdown' has enabled him to be the person he was always meant to be (I'm not quite sure about that but we'll see).

Why worry? It's nearly over now anyway.

fantasmasgoria1 · 09/07/2020 16:45

I have a serious and complex mental illness and I feel rubbish under normal circumstances but the lock down has made it so much worse. My usual symptoms have been exacerbated, I am having more dissociative episodes and they are even more upsetting than usual. I have totally had enough! Things began opening up again then the local lock down was imposed and we are on the very edge and not near any of the effected areas. There has been much criticism about how they worked out the boundary and I hope they deal with it.

NoMoreReluctantCustodians · 09/07/2020 16:49

I voted YABU because lockdown has actually made my life easier in some ways and I feel okay other than a general fed up-ness. I'm still sick of it though. But I completely understand that it is making some people ill. So feel that I should be voting YANBU

7dayslater · 09/07/2020 16:52

I've never had anxiety & now I think I do. It's awful.

I have enjoyed other aspects of the lockdown though.

PhoebeSnow · 09/07/2020 16:53

You are definitely not alone in feeling this way.

Dilovescake21 · 09/07/2020 16:54

I was fine until this week. utterly sick of this situation - feel like I'm never alone or "off the job" - non stop house work, cooking answering questions and meal planning. Just trying to keep everything going. No gym to go to and burn off frustration. Its just ground hog day every day.

Cherrypi · 09/07/2020 16:54

Feels a bit like having a newborn. Other worldly feeling, slightly fuzzy. Keep forgetting things.

Littlemeadow123 · 09/07/2020 16:57

I don't think you are being unreasonable. Lockdown has been bad for a lot of people's mental health but its also been a necessary evil.

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Melonslicexx · 09/07/2020 16:57

Does anyone else feel sick sometimes from the flat feeling?

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DarkDarkNight · 09/07/2020 16:58

I voted YABU as I am feeling better through lockdown. I have anxiety but it is normal life that makes me ill, in particular work. I worry constantly about it, go over things until I make myself ill, just a constant churning worry that feels like a stone in my stomach and a lump in my throat. Add to that the guilt of not doing well by my child, relying on my parents too much and fear for our financial future. I am starting back at work on Monday so my relative ease is about to be shattered.

YANBU though for feeling this way, I understand it well, we just have different triggers.

Babyroobs · 09/07/2020 16:58

YANBU. I had anxiety and depression last year and was starting to feel better until all this started. Now I feel so down I just can't motivate myself to do much and feel totally fatigued. Every day just feels like the same thing over and over. I am anxious for my kids missing education and doing nothing all day, anxious for the looming jobs crisis, for my elderly dad not having seen anyone or had any company for weeks on end ( we are still in lockdown). Even though we could form a bubble with him, my dh is shielding.

AstridAv · 09/07/2020 16:59

Yanbu I am really really struggling at the moment.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 09/07/2020 17:00

I feel worse now than at the beginning. At the beginning, after the initial "Oh my god, we could all die" type of fleeting panic, and I was working from home, it all got quite relaxing. I liked the peace and quiet from my city suburbs, the slower pace of life, going for daily walks and proper self-care and attention given to my kids and home. The great weather definitely helped.

However, I have been back at work FT since the beginning of June, and have left the teens to manage themsleves during the day, so I feel they're neglected. DS2 has got behind with his work and I never realised so I feel like a shit parent. The house is a mess and the fridge is empty and I'm panicking about what Sept will look like at work (secondary school). The roads are busier and noisier. Life is just harder now, but still also restricted and not "back to normal" at all.
Also the fact that our much-needed holidays abroad has been cancelled and even though I have booked us a holiday house in this country I am getting more depressed each day just by the bloody grey skies, rain and cold - it really isn't July weather!! when I booked it I envisaged long walks in the sea air and feeling the sun on my skin. Now I just imagine being stuck in the holiday cottage playing board games and living off ready meals....

I think it's this wierd in between easing of lockdown that's unsettling. We haven't got all our freedoms back but yet we are expected to live as though we have.

Porcupineinwaiting · 09/07/2020 17:00

I feel ill due to coronavirus not lockdown. But YANBU to think that this situation causes health problems beyond the virus.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 09/07/2020 17:03

I'm hating lockdown, but it's not making me ill. My mental health is fine. I'm just fucking fed up.

I think it will be affecting a lot of people though.

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Melonslicexx · 09/07/2020 17:07

It's really sad and horrible. It's literally messed so many people up. It's not really that I want lockdown to be over like that as we can do much more now. But I don't have the energy or the confidence to be normal now. I have completely lost myself. I look back on a random weekend at the start of lockdown and I remember the birds sounded different. They were louder. That seems a year ago. Not 4 months ago. It's like we've been in this for so long now it's made me forget how to be anymore. I don't know how. Also whilst I can't wait for my daughter to be back at school and happy again. I'm hoping it gives us our lives back and structure again. I'm also a little bit sad about the thought. Because I've had her back with me now for a very long time. It's hard to imagine her not being here at dinner time anymore or going on walks with her. It's all mashing my head up. I don't know how to get happy again.

I'm glad I'm not alone. But I'm worried for us all. I'm not sure what we should be doing. I started kalms today. But I dunno if that's the right road to go down.

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zoemum2006 · 09/07/2020 17:07

Lockdown has been a mixed experience. It's damaged my business and I'm not earning any money ATM so I'm feeling like a terrible failure and it's making me quite stressed.

I'm trying really hard to look on the bright side, believe that things will get better but this week I have been very teary and anxious, like I want to scream.

wanderings · 09/07/2020 17:08

Yep. No shit, Sherlock. I knew this would happen, and it's why I thought lockdown was a terrible idea in the first place. It's having a severe effect on mental health; suicides, depression and bankruptcies will be through the roof. By the time those things make the news, they won't matter to Boris: he will have resigned or been removed from the party by then.

And although the masks might (repeat, might) have their place in reducing the spread, for some people, they are exacerbating the problem, by being a very prominent reminder that the "unseen horror" could be anywhere. It's unfortunate that they have to go in such a prominent place, i.e. the human face.

Why worry? It's nearly over now anyway. I'll believe that when compulsory social distancing is in the bin where it belongs, and all our rightful activities such as swimming and recreational sport have been restored.

wanderings · 09/07/2020 17:12

And, it's gone from "we can turn this around in twelve weeks" to "we're not going to tell you how long it will last". So naturally, people are anxious, because there is still no end in sight.

Peanutbutteryogurt · 09/07/2020 17:13

Yanbu and it's not just mental health. My GP is still not open for normal appointments, all the missed hospital appointments that will take forever for them to catch up on etc.

Someone1987 · 09/07/2020 17:14

I feel the same. My son was 3 months old when we went into lockdown. I had already been suffering badly with PND and was about to start therapy which was then transferred to over the phone, which I was grateful for, but still hard. Being a mum also brought up lots of past unresolved traumas for me, like infertility, ectopic pregnancy, my mum dying at 15 and other stuff I won't go into. So I felt/feel like the world is so overwhelming. Scared what I have brought my son into.

SomewhereEast · 09/07/2020 17:14

YANBU! I absolutely hated every second of early to mid lockdown. I was so low and anxious, not about Covid (I'm really not personally anxious about that at all) but about how fucking miserable & restricted life was. It was like all the joy & spontaneity just drained out of everything. The last few weeks have been a big improvement though.

4cats2kids · 09/07/2020 17:17

I’m ok but I understand many are finding it all very hard. All our circumstances are different. I live in a county with low cases, in a house in the countryside with a big garden and I have a loving partner. Partner is a key worker so we haven’t lost any money and I always work from home. It’s no wonder I’m ok. I do realise I’m very lucky, though.