To say that getting up at 9.30 isn’t ridiculously late

[RoseLillian]

So my Mum is arguing that I need to get up earlier and ‘fit in with my kids timetable’. I feel I am ‘fitting in with my kids timetable’. My kids are real night owls. They are both not good sleepers. Dd age 4 gave up her naps between 1 year and 18 months. I always thought I was doing something wrong with her and that is why she was impossible to get to sleep. Turns out when she started nursery at 1 they had the same issues. They are used to getting all types of kids to sleep and even they failed with her. Now at 4 she is hard work getting to go to sleep.

My youngest at 2 is still napping. She was also going to sleep at a reasonable time. However she has rarely slept through. Now she has decided she doesn’t want to sleep till around 10 on the days she has a nap. Then she still wakes up in the night. DH isn’t dealing with her in the night as I am still BF. Currently both of us WFH and on flexi hours. If one of DD’s gets up early he deals with them as I’ve had the disturbed sleep. I am still up by 9.30 at the latest. Mum seems to think I should get up when the earliest of the kids gets up despite there being no need for me to do so at the moment. What is there to be gained by me being tired. She would probably argue I should go to sleep earlier, but that means zero down time as my youngest is up till 10. When I need to I am upearlier, for example when I have meetings. Come September when my oldest is starting reception and my youngest is starting preschool we will all have to adjust, but then the clocks will change anyway. I really just don’t see her argument.

[WhatCFeryIsThis]

@ICouldBeTheOne I don't understand sorry, why do both parents need to wake up with the children at 7:30 if one parent, the father, is willing and capable of taking on the task himself so OP can rest a bit more after doing the night feeds? Your point would be valid if both parents were sleeping while GM ran around after the DC trying to prepare their breakfast, but if she's going for a walk and leaving dad to it, for what reason does OP need to wake up two hours before she's ready? Even if the issue is the children making noise, that wouldn't be helped by mum and dad both being awake at 7:30?

[coffeetime11]

It will be painful, but I would not wait until September to get back to a sensible time to get up.

The clocks don't go back until late October.

[jessstan2]

I didn't realise your children were up so early too. I imagined they were in bed until at least 9am. If they go downstairs and want attention from your mum while you are still sleeping, that isn't really fair on her. Could you ask them to come into bed with you and go back to sleep for a while? Some will do that. They'll go to the toilet and then snuggle up with mum and dad until later.

It will be so much better when you're in your own place, I bet you can't wait.