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I just accidentally created a group on Messenger with my two ex-boyfriends,panicked and left the group

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blanche85 · 08/07/2020 11:51

O. M. G.

Please help me to feel better.

I HATE Facebook! I haven't actively used Facebook for years,but have the Messenger App as I sometimes get the odd message...

Anyway,for some reason,I decided to open the Messenger App and clicked on a conversation from my ex. We haven't spoken for about two years. Then,somehow I managed to accidentally send a thumbs up! I then panicked and then somehow changed the conversation colour?!!! Which came up as 'blanche has changed the conversation colour' and I was then like 'ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!' and then....god knows how....I managed to create a group with him and my other ex!

Oh the shame. I immediately left the group,but now,as I've left it...i seemingly can't get back in to delete it? So they're know in this sad little group together? Wondering why on earth I've suddenly randomly created this group and then left it!

Bloody hell

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Raella50 · 08/07/2020 17:15

Whyyyyy are so many people stalking ex’s on Facebook?!?! I can’t think of many things I’d like to do less than that!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 This is hilarious

Piratesue · 08/07/2020 17:23

I sent a really heartfelt message to my DH ex ( not friends but we do communicate) about her ex and father of her other child after he had died. Spent ages trying to find the right words. Sent it, then sent a massive thumbs up afterwards.
Mortified.

blanche85 · 08/07/2020 17:24

Well you are definitely all succeeding in the task of making me feel better! Grin Thank you!

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JacobReesMogadishu · 08/07/2020 17:26

Oh this is the funniest thing I’ve read today. I needed cheering up.

stella47 · 08/07/2020 17:34

You could send each a cryptic follow up message such as "You know what this means..." - and then block again and leave them to it :)

Duvetdoggy · 08/07/2020 17:39

I know the shame.

I once had a phone belonging to an ex, gave it to me when still together. We parted magically.

Used it to join OLD. Uploaded photos of ne, you know the ones under the portrait category. Except I also added a photo of his ex wife and my mother. I thought I had clicked a series of just me but it was the whole series of portraits. Including some close ups of a spot I had wanted a close up if.

I couldn't delete them until my profile was activated and approved which took a day.

Localised OLD site too.

I have never recovered.

Sneezyweasel · 08/07/2020 17:44

@Roussette that’s what made it even funnier, it was so appropriate 😁

I mean I couldn’t have sent a more passive aggressive email if I’d tried...

Roussette · 08/07/2020 17:57

Sneezy there was a part of your brain that said 'yep, this needs a LOL'. No ordinary lol but one in caps!

overwork · 08/07/2020 18:32

Oh this has given me a much needed giggle. Sorry, as that's not very helpful.
If it makes you feel better, same as someone upthread, I also accidentally made my ex's name my status when I decided to stalk him.
I've also friend requested a different ex's new GF when I was stalking him. I am seeing a pattern here!
If it makes you feel better, I am very much over both these mistakes now and hadn't thought about it until you reminded me!

Carcarcarcar · 08/07/2020 18:33

I haven't laughed like that for a while, thankyou XD

Sneezyweasel · 08/07/2020 18:46

@Roussette I had been thinking “fucking Karma” when I heard she’d left him for another man so my subconscious obviously felt the need to LOL at her. 🤣

SilverOtter · 08/07/2020 18:52

Omg I'm sorry but this is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

blanche85 · 08/07/2020 19:03

Was just in the queue at the shops,started thinking about it again and actually physically shuddered.

I sincerely whole-heartedly praying-on-my knees hope they both immediately left the group,then immediately forgot all about it,like it never happened.

And screw you huge fucking thumbs up. Right wear my thumb rests. There is no need for you.

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blanche85 · 08/07/2020 19:05

And just to add - who has the time or care to change conversation colours anyway?

And why deliver that (undesired) choice as a notification?!

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Cocolapew · 08/07/2020 19:27

This thread is hilarious.
I definitely believe it, I managed to make a group with the bloke who cleaned my gutter (not an euphemism), someone I messaged about a garden bench and DH the other night.
I don't realise anything was amiss until DH phoned me from work asking who these people were.

SarahBellam · 08/07/2020 19:44

The giant thumbs up nearly broke me 😂😂😂 Tell them you have a child and you don’t know which ones the father. They’ll be out of the group in a heartbeat.

justanotherneighinparadise · 08/07/2020 19:47

@Cocolapew

This thread is hilarious. I definitely believe it, I managed to make a group with the bloke who cleaned my gutter (not an euphemism), someone I messaged about a garden bench and DH the other night. I don't realise anything was amiss until DH phoned me from work asking who these people were.
🤣🤣
bettybyebye · 08/07/2020 19:48

@OohKittens

I left facebook after I tagged myself in the school photo of the child of someone who I vaguely knew.
@OohKittens I am crying! 😂😂😂
Natalie654321 · 08/07/2020 19:51

That made my day 😂😂😂😂😂

DarkHelmet · 08/07/2020 19:52

Thanks for sharing OP, that's hysterical. They're now in this sad little group together 😂

I've managed to randomly do all kinds of daft stuff pratting around on my phone/messenger/WhatsApp myself 😂

BendingSpoons · 08/07/2020 19:54

I think this thread has the makings of a Classics thread. Crying at some of these!

TheVanguardSix · 08/07/2020 19:56

I left facebook after I tagged myself in the school photo of the child of someone who I vaguely knew.
Grin Grin Grin Seriously! I need a tena lady after reading this.

TheVanguardSix · 08/07/2020 20:00

I sent a really heartfelt message to my DH ex ( not friends but we do communicate) about her ex and father of her other child after he had died. Spent ages trying to find the right words. Sent it, then sent a massive thumbs up afterwards.

I swear to god... all I have to read is 'I sent a massive thumbs up' and I just die laughing. It's the icing on the cake of shame. Grin

DarkHelmet · 08/07/2020 20:00

My superpower seems to be messaging the entirely wrong person - with text and sometimes pics. I accidentally WhatsApped my landlord a nice selfie last month, couldn't even delete it sharpish because I didn't realise it had gone to him until he messaged back saying he liked my hair down rather than in a bun 😂

Which felt oddly inappropriate 😱

Namechange2020july · 08/07/2020 20:09

@Northernsoullover

Oh I've done worse.. stalked my ex on Facebook (drunk) only I didn't use the search bar. I used my status update. Woke up to see 'Bob Smith' in big letters on my timeline. Someone had actually liked it. This is one of many reasons I no longer drink alcohol.
Funniest thing I’ve read in ages! Thanks for sharing