Fallen in love with someone who doesn’t want me

[NeedAdvicePlease123]

Please please please.
Go easy as I just feel so confused and I don’t even know why I care so much.
I was seeing a guy after Christmas we dated, went to hotels etc and where texting every day for nearly 2 months.
I knew I was falling for him but I couldn’t stop how I felt and the sex was the best sex of my life.
He was amazing, funny, seemed like he cared and constantly text and rang me. Suddenly one day he started going cold and was on and off with my messages.
After him ignoring my messages and calls I blocked him for a few months, until about a month ago when I stupidly drunken booty called him.
This then sparked us chatting again and a week ago we went to a gorgeous apartment and had the best evening having sex and drinks etc.
He knows how I feel and that I’m falling for him, he keeps saying he’s not ready for a relationship but yet I keep going back and keep calling and texting him.
Honestly when I see him it’s amazing, but then we are not together and I see him all over socials liking other girls photos etc it really hurts.
I just want to know how to get over him, gain some self worth and just accept I love someone who doesn’t love me back.
Please go gentle I’m feeling fragile.

Ok ladies, am I just deleting and blocking without a warning?

I would OP. If you message him to tell him you’re going to block him you’ll find yourself delaying and hoping for a reply. Take control, for your own self-worth. You deserve to fall in love with someone who is prepared to love you back.

I'm really wanting someone to just love me to death and me to feel the same way x

That's why you've fallen for a guy you've only known for few months so hard. You accept he doesn't love you so unless you are satisfied with the occasional booty call - & it seems that you're not - it really is best to just leave this man alone.

There are other men out there. It's a big world.

I have been there with a guy. It is hurtful, brutal and just so hard to walk away. I walked away after two years. It's just not worth it for your mental health.

You deserve someone who wants you and is willing to take a chance on a relationship because they like you.

He's blocked
Thanks for every single comment and help xx

@NeedAdvicePlease123

He's blocked Thanks for every single comment and help xx

Well done OP. Hope you’re fast asleep now getting some much needed rest.

You’ve done the right thing. I promise you that you will look back upon this time and cringe that you ever felt like this about him.

You’ll no doubt be married and have kids. The sooner you get him out of your system, the sooner you’ll be open to meet the true love of your life.

OP most people have experienced the pain of unrequited love, it is horrible. This guy makes it worse by using you for sex/boredom even though he knows he wont ever return your love.

Try to step back and see him for what he is. He has told you he doesnt want a relationship, please listen to him. If you meant enough to him he would never leave you, trust me.

Dont be available to him, date others, try to forget about him, focus on making yourself happy.

Sorry to revive an old thread....

OP how are you doing these days?

Going against the grain here.

He's been open with you about not being ready for a relationship yet you were still seeing him. You were having a good time and great sex, so was he. It's simply you were investing more emotionally into it than him and looking for something more. Can't say he was 'using' you when he's made it clear. Basically he saw you as a FWB and lots of women seem to be happy to have one.

You need to try and find someone who wants that relationship rather than focusing on someone who's already said he wasn't. Blocking him shouldn't be about him not contacting you but you not contacting him, it was after all you that restarted the relationship.

Bah! Didn't notice it was old.

It's so hard. I really feel for you and I understand what you're going through.

Ultimately, he knows how you feel and he isn't being fair to you. You know the answer to this is to block and move on, however we all know it's not easy.