Do teachers share things about pupils with their spouses.

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As above ^^ today was called in about an issue with Ds. All been resolved now. But the teachers spouse is an old family friend and I don’t particularly want her knowing as she may tell others. It’s nothing anything terrible. Just an issue that is now resolved but still I’m a very private person. Don’t like people knowing our business.

Are teachers allowed to tell their spouses about issues with an individual children?

No they’re not allowed to; whether they do or not is a different point but if you caught wind that the teacher had shared it you’d be within your rights to complain about that teacher. I’d expect a teacher whose spouse knows yours family to be particularly cautious about talking about children at home

Of course they do!! They’re not meant to, but of course they go home and tell their oh all the funny stories and gossip. It shouldn’t go further than their spouses though.

Yep and their children, and parents and friends at dinner...

I would expect them to share some things but no names.
More 'one of my kids did ...' rather than 'Tarquin de Monfort did ...'

Yes. If they've had a bad experience in class teachers often talk it through with someone else . Without naming names etc. Teachers also share good experiences. Similar to other people who have had a bad or good day at work.

Of course they do, but unless they are particularly dim they won't be sharing names and identifiable details

Of course they do, and at dinner parties etc etc like someone above said. It's human nature you won't stop it.

A former teacher friend would tell me funny things maybe that a pupil had said or whatever, but never names or anything like that. Nothing identifying.

Unless it impacted the teacher personally then I doubt they would think to mention it to anyone.. just like you wouldn't run through your entire day start to finish with your other half when you get home home.

It may seem like 'something' to you but it's probably absolutely nothing and already forgotten about to the teacher.

Also if they did mention something I doubt they'd identify a child.. it'd be a case of this kid today did this. Also, my husband knows that he is never ever to repeat anything I say as it could cost me my job. You won't become local gossip. X

Yup

Thanks all. I mainly meant if they’d identify a child. Talking to your spouse about an issue is okay I guess if no names were mentioned but was concerned they would mention names. I’m rather embarrassed by the situation tbh! Not terrible but something that I wouldn’t want shared!

As a teacher I would mention something funny but in a non identifying way "one of my year 10s"..

Me and mum both work with a student in different professional capacities so I am cautious not to mention them and neither does she. I guess if there is a pre existing relationship you just wouldn't

If something funny had happened at school, I would definitely tell DH. Obviously, I wouldn’t name the pupil.

If something frustrating had happened at school, I would definitely tell DH. Obviously, I wouldn’t name the pupil.

If something awful had happened, or a pupil had made a disclosure to me (has happened many times), I would come home and say to DH, “It’s been a tough day,” and that would be the end of it.

I would be horrified if I thought a teacher would mention a child by name to their family or friends. A general funny story or a moan - fine. But not anything identifiable.

Of course they do - it's exchanging stories of the working day while having a cup of tea/ dinner/whatever.He doesn't know who Tom, Dick or Harry is, and he certainly won't be running around the community shouting about what I had said to let off steam.

Not serious or confidential stuff, and not identifiable and certainly not if their is an outside connection. For example, I've heard funny and cute things that my friend's primary class said when they got the class gerbils, but I had no connection with any of the children and didn't know names of the children or who said what. Those little gerbils must have given more joy per gram than any other animals on the planet. I might hear the bad things too, but only non-identifiably and not private stuff. When one of them was sick over her, the reading books and their own and their neighbour's school bag I heard about it , but don't know the name of the child - although all the other children in the class plus the teaching assistant would also know, so it wasn't terribly confidential. If it was something like a bullying issue, then no.

In a couple of decades of teaching I told DH very many funny, scary or sad stories about my students. Never mentioned a name, often changed small details, just in case.

I think that's normal and acceptable behaviour, teachers do need to decompress!

They generally have a circle of confidants and share some of work stresses BUT in my experience they are very careful what they share to who. So if it’s a stressful item may share with a colleague vs spouse.
But what parents find stressful is often just normal stuff and not even spouse worthy.

sorry, "there is" not "their is"

I would discuss a child/situation wiring in schools and other childcare services but never name names or often even gender. Just a 'child at my work' Same as my brother sometimes relays stories of his patients (secure mental health) and my dad often spoke of his before he was retired. In your specific circumstance I would not share

Yes they do.
However, if it’s something bad or a safeguarding situation, they would have to be very careful not to use names.

TBH... if it was a safeguarding situation I wouldn’t discuss it out of work.

I agree with the others. I often shared funny stories but mentioned no names. If I was concerned about a child I would maybe discuss it with DH but no names would be mentioned, it was more of a sounding board and his experience sometimes helped.

Obviously they aren’t supposed to and they won’t say they’ve told their spouse, but lets be honest, they will share some things.

If they’ve had a stressful day and need to let off steam then it’s probably a vent.

They probably won’t gossip for the age of gossips though as their partner probably isn’t at all interested.

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