For getting really hacked off with DH acting like a martyr...

[Chirpygirl]

just cos I am nearly 39 weeks pregnant, tired due to getting up with 19 month old DD every fecking morning at half 6, hormonal and irrational?
He was loading the dishwasher earlier as 'you don't look as if you are going to' so I burst into tears and said I was(quite a reasonable response from a pregnant woman to a snippy comment, I thought)
He then asked when as I had been on pc all morning and I said I had to as it is the only comfy chair cos I feel sick and my back hurts and I am fed up of being pregant and I am tired and he just sighed and went to get ready for work.

AND he didn't kiss me OR DD goodbye.

AND I have just rung to have a nice chat and he hasn't gone into work early, he's gone for a ride first so he isn't even answering his phone.

I might spit in his supper.

Well, can you get someone to have DD for the evening so that you and DH can have an evening together! You can cook him a lovely meal and then teach him how to correctly load a dishwasher

We could, but I don't want to!

Actually I asked him last night if we could go to the cinema if his parents came to stay this weekend (as they keep doing) and he just shrugged and said there was nothing he wanted to see....see! I do make the effort!

God, IAB a stroppy mare aren't I!

Take yourself off to your parentrs and go on strike, might make him behave a bit better!

My mum lives a 3 hour drive away!

I am going to do the cooking I was going to do anyway this afternoon, which includes his favourite sausage rolls, but only cos the meat will go off otherwise!

But I may spit in one...just to make myself feel better.

You are not being a stroppy mare. But you are behaving as if being heavily pregnant doesn't mean anything and as if a man shouldn't have to do anything domestic (and therefore deserves gratitude if he does). Do you thank him for going out to work? Does he thank you for looking after his children? Does he thank you dfor doing housework? I'll bet the answer to all these is "No".

If loading the dishawahser wrobngly bothers you (understanable!) then choose the one worst thing he does wrong and show him how to do it your way, with a logical reason why.

Never apologise for not doing it, never be unreasonably grateful for him doing it, never fuss because it;s not done your way. You knoew thateventually you'll take over again, but for now and the near future you need your energies for something else.

You are 39 weeks pregnant.

End of story.

He should be bending over backwards to do EVERYTHING for you. You should expect it and he should want to do it.

Give him to me. I want 5 minutes with him. Just 5 minutes. That's all I need.

Thanks guys, I know that you are right and he should bend over more. The problem is I hate being fussed over and people acting as if I can't cope when I am pregnant so I don't let people help, I just let the house slide into disarray!

I sailed through the last pregnancy so he isn't doing anything differently this time than he did then, I'm just more tired and about 50 times more emotional!
Once the baby turns up it will be easier as he wil be off work for nearly 4 weeks (he is taking leave as well as leiu time, that is why he is working all the hours he can now) and with DD he did everything for me so I could relax, BF and bond, and I loved him for that!

And, Prettycandles, I do have to say this
'Do you thank him for going out to work?'
Yes I have on numerous occasions, as he does extra hours every week so I could give up my job to be a SAHM

'Does he thank you for looking after his children?'
Not exactly thanked me, but he has said he likes that I am home for her and wouldn't want it another way.

Does he thank you for doing housework?'
Not housework, (I am not exactly houseproud so I do't really do more than the bare minimum) but he does thank me for cooking for him and doing the laundry all the time.

I take it back. He's clearly not a run-of-the-mill bloke.

reading your post from 18:29 last night he does seem like a good bloke deep down

hope you didn't spit in his supper

We have made up now! It's his (only) day off tomorrow so he is a bit more relaxed today, plus DD didn't reject him for me earlier which cheered him up a bit.

He is a sweetie (most of the time) but when he gets in a strop there's just no talking to him.

I called him just before he was due back last night to ask what he wanted for tea and he had already eaten, so I didn't get a chance to spit in anything