To have only just told him now?

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My 14 year old daughter started her period for the first time on Friday. She was actually quite upset about it, scared and teary. I reassured her, sent her for a bath and made sure she had her supply of pads at the ready. And that was that. 3rd day in now and she's getting used to it but she didn't text her dad to tell him which was her choice as she feels a bit embarrassed but i told her there is no need to be( me and him are separated)
Anyway I text her dad myself tonight just so he's aware she has started because if she goes to his flat to stay he needs to know in case she needs a supplies ect. He text me back saying 'only just telling me how' I said it's only the 3rd day I've not left it months before telling him. He replies 'fuck off with your high moral shit face idiotic self'
What ever that means 🤷🏻‍♀️
Is he justified that I told him on day 3 and not from the beginning ?
He's now blocked me on all communication 🤷🏻‍♀️

He sounds awful. You did nothing wrong, and were courteous to tell him!

Enjoy your peace and quiet as he can't contact you while blocked.

What an immature response. You aren't being unreasonable in not telling him immediately considering your daughter didn't want to tell him straight away either.
Hope she is ok, the first period is horrible!

What an immature response. You aren't being unreasonable in not telling him immediately considering your daughter didn't want to tell him straight away either.
Hope she is ok, the first period is horrible!

Was this overreaction typical of him when you were still together op? You’ve done nothing wrong. Your teenage daughter started her period, she doesn’t require urgent medical attention and it isn’t a big deal.

Presumably this is why you are separated?

Does your daughter know you told him?

Did you ask her if you could share that?

You told him something moderately important about your shared daughter, and he made it all about him?

People can be so disappointing sometimes ...

Immature prick.
Your priority was your daughter, not him.

Block him right back! He sounds like the type to unblock you just long enough to send you another barrage of abuse. Make sure it doesn't connect.

Not sure I would have told him..
Wasn't your business to tell.

Of course you weren’t wrong. She’s not 6 and losing her first teeth - it’s a private matter which she’s clearly fairly self-conscious about. I’m not sure dads who live in the same houses always know when their daughters start their periods (or would even want to know!).

It was not for you to decide if and when to tell her dad.

Does your daughter know that you have taken it upon yourself to inform him?

Why did you tell him at all!? It's up to her to let him know as and when she wants to.

He sounds ridiculous! What a prat (and worse!)

I would block him too. Does she have her own phone so she can communicate with you if and when she goes there?

God, do dad's now really want to know this information? What a fuss about nothing.

I wouldn’t have told him.
It’s your daughter’s place to share personal information like that.

He doesn’t sound a nice person.
But, I don’t think you should have told him.
(14 is very late for a first period, she might have been shy about it, but should have been her choice)

She knows I told him. If I didn't tell him and he found out months down the line he would give me a load of abuse for telling him straight away. And he would probably be spiteful towards me after that by keeping something even more important from me. He's always been like this

Translated he’s saying ‘I’m a moron, please ignore me’.

😁🌸😁🌸

What a twat. Good job he’s your Ex.

I read OPs posts as saying that the DD was embarrassed to tell her dad herself (understandably - it's the sort of thing I'd have rather died than say to mine) but didn't mind her mum letting him know (or at least accepted it as a necessity).

@ContessaferJones that's right 😊

I think you tell him it wasn’t my decision. Your daughter was embarrassed and she didn’t want me to tell you but I thought I should so you could try and be a better father than you were a partner.

He’s being a complete dick about you telling him on the 3rd day. There’s nothing he could have done and it’s not like she’s ill!

Regarding telling him at all, plenty of people will tell you that you shouldn’t have told him without her permission. I personally think that you were correct to quietly tell him but lots of people will disagree with me.