To have only just told him now?

[inthedarkx]

My 14 year old daughter started her period for the first time on Friday. She was actually quite upset about it, scared and teary. I reassured her, sent her for a bath and made sure she had her supply of pads at the ready. And that was that. 3rd day in now and she's getting used to it but she didn't text her dad to tell him which was her choice as she feels a bit embarrassed but i told her there is no need to be( me and him are separated)
Anyway I text her dad myself tonight just so he's aware she has started because if she goes to his flat to stay he needs to know in case she needs a supplies ect. He text me back saying 'only just telling me how' I said it's only the 3rd day I've not left it months before telling him. He replies 'fuck off with your high moral shit face idiotic self'
What ever that means 🤷🏻‍♀️
Is he justified that I told him on day 3 and not from the beginning ?
He's now blocked me on all communication 🤷🏻‍♀️

[exwhyzed]

@letmethinkaboutitfornow

He doesn’t sound a nice person.
But, I don’t think you should have told him.
(14 is very late for a first period, she might have been shy about it, but should have been her choice)

Don't be ridiculous, 14 is a perfectly normal age to get your first period.

[Italiangreyhound]

I can see why he is your ex, he sounds awful. What a sad reaction to the news, to have a go at you!

[Purpleartichoke]

My dd is getting close and it won’t surprise me if she asks me not to tell her dad when she gets her period. He doesn’t really need to know right away because we all live in the same household and I do almost all the shopping.

If we weren’t in the same household, I would tell him before her next visit so he knew to have her preferred supplies ready and waiting.

[Popc0rn]

What a bizarre thing for him to get worked up about! It's not like she's said her first work or taken her first steps. I find it quite creepy that he's apparently so bothered about not finding out immediately.

He sounds a knob, you're well rid. Feel sorry for his new girlfriend and baby.

[WiseOwl69]

@TheStuffedPenguin because she’s 14, he’s the adult in the household, and sometimes periods happen when you don’t expect them to? My parents bought my sanitary products as part of the supermarket shop until I went to uni.

Why wouldn’t he buy them?

[expat101]

I think you did the right thing. He needs to step up and ensure there are supplies for your daughter when she is staying over. It's the mature thing to do as a parent.

However, he does sound like a complete knob. I would block him back as an earlier poster suggested. But keep his message in case he takes it further and make a claim you are stopping him from communicating with daughter...

[NeutrinoWrangler]

Very odd of him to care so much. He sounds like the type to try to turn everything into an argument or a reason that you're wrong.

I'd ignore him; clearly you're in the right here.

[StoppinBy]

I wouldn't have told him until she next stayed with him, why does he need to her that she got her period, it's not like he is about to rush over bearing Panadol, ice cream and chocolate I imagine.

He's a knob for responding in that way.

[lilmishap]

Did u not learn your lesson when you told him about that big bogey she had?

Seriously how creepy

[lilmishap]

Demand a list of "damp mornings" and explanations,,,,then realise how weird and gross it is

[TheStuffedPenguin]

[quote WiseOwl69]@TheStuffedPenguin because she’s 14, he’s the adult in the household, and sometimes periods happen when you don’t expect them to? My parents bought my sanitary products as part of the supermarket shop until I went to uni.

Why wouldn’t he buy them?[/quote]
Sorry but I think a girl of 14 is old enough to carry her own sanitary products in her bag . There is absolutely no need for a father to be going out and buying them in case she needs them . She needs to learn to manage this without adults ! OP has already said she is embarrassed.