To ask how sister-in-law got her money

[SweetSouberry]

It would be really rude to ask wouldn’t it but I am fascinated?

Id be curious. 😬😬😬 Just ask her what she does for a living😵

OMG Mind your business and get on with your own life thank god your not my sil

I have a friend like this. Husband is ex-squaddie, she is a beauty therapist specialising in botox and age reversal. 6 children yet they seem to live in a different European city every year, kids go to whichever private school is local, constant Facebook updates with the children jumping into a perfect sea from a yacht...

I'd love to ask!

Yes i agree ... perosnal question to ask

Not confused by the upset at your children not being involved in their wedding

I had no idea it would be standard to involve my SIL’s children in my wedding day and so didnt

I hope she’s not upset about it

@DNo I'd definitely be curious about their situation too if I knew them. 6 kids through private school must cost a fortune! Is her husband perhaps working for the government in some capacity hence the moving cities regularly. In that kind of situation the employer would probably cover school fees too.

Property offers a very lucrative lifestyle. It is a gendered question though would you want to know if she were a man marrying your husbands sister ? Or do you want to know how to make serious cash and improved lifestyle. If you’re genuinely interested in her ‘business’ ask her to show you how. Successful wealthy people are often very willing to share their stories with you. It’s life affirming for them. When you do find out tell us.

[quote VioletGrace]@DNo I'd definitely be curious about their situation too if I knew them. 6 kids through private school must cost a fortune! Is her husband perhaps working for the government in some capacity hence the moving cities regularly. In that kind of situation the employer would probably cover school fees too. [/quote]
Ooooh hadn't thought of that but he was only in the forces for 4 years and she has a new plush clinic in every posh city all the time - think Madrid, Lisbon, Barcelona, Marrakech...

Seriously, I did some work for a lady who told me she was a dominatrix, and I didn't even ask! She was quite posh too. Made me a bit icky if I'm honest. But she was very well off and didn't seem to have another more nomad job. Imagine if she is soon to be SIL !! What fun!

Depending on how she manages her property, she could be releasing large equity and running on interest only loans

I know someone who owns about 10 properties all worth between £500-1m each and all are on interest only mortgages and with them being done up the then releases more equity to live off and then put down to buy the next.

It’s impressive as it is shocking

The lady in question is not and will not be your Sister-in -law on marriage she will be your husband's SIL and your BIL's wife and it is not and never will be your business !

@THEDEACON you are wrong... they will be sisters in law

I call my BIL's wives my SILs.

So @SweetSouberry are you saying SIL is refusing to let your/her MIL meet her parents before the wedding? I would consider that odd.

PPL making snippy comments need to unclench, OP has said she has no intention of actually asking her, but is just feeling nosey.

My aunt and uncle seemed to come into some money a few years ago and the rest of the family is burning to know where it came from, but no-one has asked. Although most of them basically don't think they would get a straight answer anyway.

Again none of their business but the questioning became so bad that the boss joined in and wouldn't sign the redundancy forms which meant I was left with no choice but to provide an explanation.

Yeahhhh... that sounds utterly plausible and completely legal.

There tons of reasons she could have loads of money, or at least appear to have loads of money. It's really none of your business.

Are you annoyed she declined MIL's cash? Did you accept the offer and now you feel annoyed you did and she didn't?

I refused my MIL's offer of cash for my wedding because there is no way in hell I want to be indebted to someone like her. She would hold it against me for the rest of my life, not to mention want a say on how the wedding was done. We didn't need her money, so we paid for everything ourselves, did it our way and had a bloody wonderful time.

Actually thinking about it, you could be my SIL! I own my own property, drive a new car, go on lovely holidays (!), and I only had one of my sisters kids involved in the wedding party because she is my god daughter.

Feel free to ask me where I got my money from