To ask how sister-in-law got her money

[SweetSouberry]

It would be really rude to ask wouldn’t it but I am fascinated?

[SmileyClare]

Its odd to be fascinated by her money.

I'm assuming you don't know her very well? and are just stalking her on Facebook You could make an effort to get to know her better. Then it will probably become apparent anyway... Inherited wealth, money from a divorce or the success of her business or whatever.

Or just keep making wild speculations with your husband to keep yourselves entertained.... Successful high class escort, mafia connections, possibly the crystal meth kitchen she's set up in a mobile home on some nearby wasteland has really taken off.

[Spaghettio]

My husband and I live in an affluent area in a large house with a big garden and pool. My husband owns his own company and I'm a SAHM to our kids. To some we'd appear very well off, despite the fact that the company doesn't eat loads.

We have a lovely big house because we are both widows and had life insurance on our late spouses. We live a relatively modest life, but we appear wealthy.

Sometimes it's best not to ask. We don't hide our past, but we don't tell all and sundry, just in case they're wondering. If she feels like telling you, she will.

[Spaghettio]

The company doesn't make loads.....

[Spaghettio]

The company doesn't make loads.....

[maras2]

Are you unwell souberry ?

[IwishIhadaMargarita]

@KitKat2020

Why don’t you just ask your husband? Are they estranged?

Why are you assuming it’s her husbands sister? Could be ops brother/sisters wife for example

[GrumpyHoonMain]

My sil asked me the same question when she married my brother (dad, who I take advice from, spilled the beans to my brother when he was trying to get him to save). I just told her the truth - that I saved x amount a month and went without fancy holidays to allow me to do that.

[Yankathebear]

She’s going to marry your husbands brother?
How exciting!
I’m sure that you will be great friends! You can giggle while staying in top hotels and spend her money on girlie shopping trips

[Pebblexox]

If she has a job and works for herself, could it just be that she's earnt her money through hard work? Honestly the question is rude, and I'd find it very uncomfortable had my bil asked where I got my money from. It's nobody else's business, unless she chooses to divulge the information.

[Mrsmadevans]

Well if she has her own business then she could have borrowed the lot off the back of it and be in debt up to her neck.

[sunflowersandtulips50]

well maybe she just works....that is it...earns alot because of her career choices. It is possible as a woman.......

[ColdGreenTeaMug]

She might reply like a friend of mine did when she was asked by someone at school;

'I tend to divorce increasingly well'



I did like that answer.

But it is natural to be curious, I know. So I don't blame the OP for wondering. But no, you probably should not ask.

[AriadnesFilament]

YABU

But I’m fairly sure you know that

[SmileyClare]

Agree the question is rude. And the answer will probably be terribly boring anyway.

People generally want this question answered so they can judge accordingly. For example, if her family are very wealthy you might Hoik your bosom and assume she's spoilt and privileged.

[OhTheRoses]

None of your business.
DH's mother asked similar when she visited for the first time. "Because my dad gave me a flat deposit when I was 21 and I stretched myself vis a vis the mortgage. I started work in the City at 20 and have worked 7.45am to 8pm ever since."

Lots of snide thereafter about not having finished uni, being monied, and an only child. 30 years on I still think she was bang out of order and I've long ago forgiven her.

[expat101]

I have a relative who made a big leap from borrowing money from family and sleeping at ours during his divorce, to being able to buy houses for his now adult children and set up various family trusts to own them, over a period of around 25 years. His 2nd wife was cleaning houses and working in a coffee shop when they met, so funds hasn’t come from her side of the family either, and it’s not a lotto win.

He won’t pin point, and I won’t push either, for an exact blow by blow breakdown of events, but his current advice to another investor family member is he should be earning 40% safely from his investments.

While I wish him well with his life, I find it frustrating that if he is doing so well on these returns “safely” why he doesn’t offer advice to his sister (who he borrowed money from years ago) and who is living off the proceeds of the sale of her house, in a private care hospital and has about a 1/3 left to pay for her future accommodation.

So I understand why there is an enquiring mind. Just as long as it’s for the right reasons!

[Hopeisnotastrategy]

MYOB

[DestinationFkd]

Nothing to do with you or anyone else.

[viques]

Can't you just wait until the hen night, get her oldest friend pissed and then beat her almost senseless with an iron bar until she tells all? That's what I'd do. Mind you, I am watching that Japanese/UK drama so am ever so slightly more inclined towards violence at the moment.

In real life I would wait until I'm asked round then sneak into the study, (she's rich, she will have one) and quickly go through her private paperwork and correspondence.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

@DestinationFkd

Nothing to do with you or anyone else.

Of course it isnt, but its a better human being than me who wouldnt wonder!

I had a friend who married a STONKINGLY rich man. He had an ordinary job (tradesman), as did she (teacher) and they lived in an amazing house with gorgeous antique furniture, kids at private school etc. They didnt swank, at all, they were down to earth and normal but just amazingly well off. I sort of knew his mum through my mum and I knew her family wasnt rich.

In the end I did ask! Curiosity got the better of me and I said "I know I'm being nosey, and tell me to fuck off, but I have often wondered how you can do all this on average wages". Turned out her husband was illegitimate (back when this meant something) and his father had abandoned his mother. The fathers family supported him doing this expect (sorry) the fathers mothers father and left his entire estate to his grandson, the DH. Long story but they eventually found out that his own father had done the same to him and his mum and when he got rich and saw his grandson do the same, he made sure that the child was set for life. He had fought thought prejudice, bullying, being a "bastard" to be successful and didnt want his grandson to go through that. Such an act of love.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

Sorry, great grandson......got lost there!

[CambsAlways]

Why is it your business

[Lifeisconfusing]

Wow interesting to know if @TARSCOUT is related to op

[disorganisedsecretsquirrel]

Why post ' why is it your business' when the OP has clearly said she knows it isn't , but is genuinely nosey and wants to know ... does that post make YOU feel superior?

[Russellbrandshair]

Lol if you did ask I would not tell you just out of sheer irritation that you were rude enough to ask.

Or I’d probably make something outrageous up