TERF you are furiously back-pedalling now!
I agree with op and others that the tone of your posts was very antagonistic and dismissive. The implication of them being ops dd was “making a fuss about nothing” perhaps you’ve been doing your job too long?
Like calls to like generally speaking too so I’m not surprised the medical professionals you know also have a poor attitude towards patients needing understanding and who are more vulnerable than others for various reasons.
“Getting on with their job” should have at its HEART the CARE and compassion for the patients they’re treating.
But then as I said I really think the quality of hcps is deteriorating, at least in part due to poor pay! You pay peanuts...
I trained over 20 years ago and on ward was trained by nurses who many would consider traditional “matronly” types. They were/could be quite stern - with staff! But they were ALWAYS kind, compassionate and understanding with patients and woe betide any trainee they caught NOT being!
That’s long since gone! Along with (in my and MANY other older hcps opinions) other certain areas of good practice from good infection control to good nutrition to good practice on basic skills and more. There are good hcps still but my god they’re a vanishing breed!
complaints as you would know are not just about resolution but learning and improving I think TERF is not well or appropriately trained in customer service, which is why I am genuinely curious as to who they work for/who trained by as I’d be avoiding them like the plague! Customer seen as nothing but an inconvenience!
The issue is her being a FTM with mental health issues making her vulnerable. I completely agree, there’s huge prejudice against women with mental illness becoming mothers.
I wasn’t diagnosed until after I had dd but I have a relative and several friends who became mothers after a MI dx and all were treated appallingly by the hospital midwives.
@SuckingDownDarjeeling I am so sorry you went through all that that’s horrendous!
@Tippexy - still unacceptable! That’s not a good enough reason at all.
@LadyofTheManors - also appalled at your story wtf!!
I wonder where the issue is. Is it training? in my opinion it goes right back to recruitment. Having higher ACADEMIC entry requirements and making nursing and midwifery graduate professions may SEEM a good idea but it’s largely meant that the people best suited to these roles who generally are more common sense, worldly wise people are excluded from even applying.
There’s too much emphasis now on academic ability and attainment in these professions now, and not enough on recruiting people and encouraging the aptitudes and skills of compassion, empathy, understanding and kindness.
I doubt many people go into it when they don't feel passionate about supporting women with midwifery in particular there’s an issue with applicants thinking it’s all about cuddling cute babies!
I think there’s also now the issue of applicants simply wanting a job/qualification that’s recession proof and they’ll always be able to get a job!
It’s not seen or treated as a vocation any more.
when this isn't the case with other healthcare professionals. it’s really NOT just midwives.
I’ve had many issues with hcps since getting a MI dx - once you have a dx it’s INCREDIBLY hard to be taken seriously for any other health issues. I’ve even had other physical ailments I already had dx for - with evidence from surgeries, scans etc - doubted as “real”!
And why does it always seem to be the case across women's health services?
Oh don’t get me started! Medical misogyny is a HUGE issue not just in the Uk. I started a thread some time ago on the issue and the stories were shocking even including fatal outcomes for some patients.
@LadyofTheFlowers yes on that same thread it was noted that children suffered as they are most often represented by women/mothers
Its 2020 and we are still telling women to shut up and mind their tone. totally agree with this whole post!!