About the term 'boyfriend'

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Light-heartedly of course.
No idea if i'm alone in this but I see the term boyfriend being thrown around a lot here to refer to older men.
Aibu to cringe at this? It just doesn't sound right

Incidentally I never called him my boyfriend. It just never came up. Anyone who knew me would say 'How is Bob doing?' or ' how it going between you and Bob?' Bob is an electrician so if I am working and someone happens to need a sparky , I would 'my partner is an electrician' now that can be interpreted as business partner or whatever but I would feel unprofessional saying ' boyfriend' especially at my age

It’s my personal opinion that you’re not properly committed or in a true relationship unless your married, regardless of the number of years you’ve been together. If you can’t or won’t take that step I just don’t think it’s real.
This doesn't make logical sense. Up until theoment you put a ring on itz pen to paper, lips locking lips as the vicar cheers etc, your relationship isn't real or properly commited. So when you decide to get married, you're choosing to marry someone you're in a flimsy casual relationship with, not even relationship because it isn't real, so why would you tether your life to someone who's just a bit of causal whatever?

Also, if you've been together 40 years, got a few kids and a few grandkids and you don't think your relationship is real, if the only thing that makes a, relationship real to you is a piece of paper with ink on, then I think it says more about your insecurities than any relationship